Quitting?

[milkabum]

Recently,I've been thinking about quitting VMK.
It will be my choice, but I need some help, don't say it's your choice to take the easy way out either

Here are my reasons I should quit:
I should focus on school, after all I want to become a veteranarian when I'm older.
I should really spend more time with family, and my dog Jessie.
VMK has gone too far with items, games, and quests. I should spend my time on something I learn from, or actually affects my life in the 'real world'. I spend all my time playing to gain credits, badges, pins, items, titles, and more but nothing ever affects me.
Life is short. I shouldn't waste my childhood with a virtual game.
Sitting by a computer screen all day isn't great for your health, eating and watching a screen and doing no physical activity( No, typing and moving the mouse does not count )
If I have money that my parents worked hard for, why would I spend it playing VMK or going to a Disney park just for a quest?

Reasons I should stay:
My best friends are on VMK, unless you count my dog.
I have nothing to do during Summer Break, my neighbours/friends aren't home until the afternoon.
Winning a game makes ya feel good!
No school during summer

 

[mewmewpwr]

mewmewpwr cares that u stay on milkabum plz stay................

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

I would say play some on the weekends. I wasted wow lets see..almost 8? months on VMK. During that time me and my fiance have gotten far apart, my dog has died, my grades slipped, and I became sheltered from the world. I was a real VMK addict, but now I play around 3-5 hours a week and my life is starting to get back on track. It's best to limit VMK time to important events, you don't miss out on life as much.

 

[daviedude]

ok i honestly have never met you in vmk but i think you should at least check in from time to time to see friends and what not , after all maybe you should stop playing full time until vacation, get good grades spend time with family and then come back full time. just my opinion thoguh

 

[VirtuallyMe]

how about instead of quitting and losing your friends, the good feeling for winning a game, and to have an activity when bored (your positives)

Just change the amount you play- put vmk on you schedule- decide how much you will play- will it be half hour a day or an hour 3 times a week- or any other amount...

Make a deal with yourself- for every 15 minutes online sitting in front of a computer do 15 minutes of physical activity the same day- and no cheating do the physical first lol-

And another deal with yourself- all homework done before playing- if this means you have a report do at the end of the week no playing until it is done. but feel free to negotiate those long term assignments- maybe break them up in parts and complete something before playing.

Oh- how about you schedule in your dog and family time too- yeah I know family doesn't always help with schedule-but you can get dog time mixed in with exercise by playing with the dog or taking it for a walk...

Don't eat while sitting at the computer- that is just a no no in my home- dinners should be eaten with others if possible and away from computers- how else can you have family interaction at dinner time (oh see another combined task spending time with your family- helping to prepare the meal, eat the meal and cleaning up afterwards)

and last- change your attitude about the game- is it more about the fun, friendships and feeling of accomplishment from winning games or is it about having everything in the game- if you really care more about the first three- don't worry about the credits- if you don't have enough for something it isn't the end of the world- life will go on-

And when you do play- decide if the stress from staff games (queues, dcs, not winning) is worth the satisfaction of playing- and don't play them all- just because they are there doesn't mean they have to be played...

I know this isn't your typical "don't leave" response- but I really think you don't want to leave but needed some advice on dealing with the addiction...

 

[milkabum]

Nice idea Virtually, 'fighting the addiction' nice way to put it.
Davie, I would of course visit friends and check the boards from time to time, I mean they're pretty much the only close friends I have. Heck, I have more inside jokes than in the real world!

 

[Nanoer]

I would say play some on the weekends. I wasted wow lets see..almost 8? months on VMK. During that time me and my fiance have gotten far apart, my dog has died, my grades slipped, and I became sheltered from the world. I was a real VMK addict, but now I play around 3-5 hours a week and my life is starting to get back on track. It's best to limit VMK time to important events, you don't miss out on life as much.

I think you should just like come one for like a hour each day and like two three hours on weekends

btw tinkerbelle. what are you grades slipping in? college?

 

[SpaceCommander]

Who said yes i said no

 

[milkabum]

I would say play some on the weekends. I wasted wow lets see..almost 8? months on VMK. During that time me and my fiance have gotten far apart, my dog has died, my grades slipped, and I became sheltered from the world. I was a real VMK addict, but now I play around 3-5 hours a week and my life is starting to get back on track. It's best to limit VMK time to important events, you don't miss out on life as much.

I can relate to you in so many ways:
I no longer have a best friend, unless you count my dog. Seriously.

My cousin's dog Lucky has passed in January, the day I didn't play VMK because the computer was broken.I watched Lilo and Stitch- long story.

Being focued on VMK, sometimes I forgot about homework or made excuses because I was addicted to VMK.

I hardly watched TV and did other things.
I think this was because I started in August, when fall appeared and the neighbourhood began to 'hibernate' for the snowy winter ( Canadian winters, gotta love 'em. I think.)

 

[StitchfansJr]

I would say no, who ever said yes is mean.

 

[Loves Disney]

It is very important to stay engaged in the "real world" and it really does come down to carpe diem. If vmk is eating away the minutes, hours, weeks, days or even months of our lives, it think it is time for a reality check.

I think it all comes down to one question:

How do you want to live? Virtually, or physically? You can then decide from there.

VirtuallyMe said it in the best possible way. Take her post into serious consideration.

When you grow older and have kids, when they ask you what you did as a kid/teen, do you want to say you spent most of your time sitting on your butt playing a computer game? Or do you want the stories to be exciting and worth telling...?

 

[milkabum]

I would say no, who ever said yes is mean.

It's their opinion, and I want it
Opinions are like butts, everyone's got one!

And please, nobody beg for my stuff!

 

[Shaymojack]

I hope you can kick in some extra time for VMK, but if you feel you need to leave, then go ahead. Another loss for the population...

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

Yes, I don't think those who say "yes" are trying to be mean. They just can tell others to be more involved in REAL life, there are many things I did not add to my story that would make a grown man cry so limiting your VMK time REALLY is important if you want a future at all. Live life involved you never know what tomorrow will bring . I have to work 10 times harder now at my training for my career since I fell so behind.
I'm not saying quit entirely.

 

[BigMike10]

Stay vmk is fun and when you win you feel awsome and this is only the begining wait untill they add all this cool stuff so if you quit you might regret it in the future.But yet that is just my apinyean.p.s sorry about spelling erors! stay! pleas stay

 

[NotAZoo]

I voted Yes....and not to be mean or because I want to see you go (actually I never like seeing familiar faces and friends dissapear and that includes you Milkabum)....but with all the positive votes, I had no choice but too try to make it even and just plainly be difficult for the fun of it!.

In all serious here are my thoughts.....I think the results of the vote here will prove one thing and tell you one thing, and that it.....there are plenty of people here who will miss you if you go, which is one reason why I think the No's will out weight any of the other answers when all is said in done.

Therefore the choice is only yours to make. I understand how you feel about there being more to life than VMK and needing to pull back from the addiction VMK has us all under. But, just like all things in life too much of something is not a good thing. So live a little, enjoy things other than VMK and stop in from time to time. I think saying you would leave for good is too harsh, but like leaving friends when you leave an old town, or change schools, you still look forward to seeing them from time to time. More importantly you can always count on them being glad to see you!

Whatever you choose I am sure it will be the right move. And if you do go, definitely leave a post or two from time to time, as I have enjoyed them over the months.

Later!

 

[milkabum]

I gotta visit friends, once in a while so uh..yeah.

 

[GirlWithSpunk]

Hey Milkabum!

I know what you mean. VMK is time consuming and once you think about it, after years and years of playng VMK all you have in the end is virutal things!

They're not "real" things. There are virtual things in a virtual community, and they will always stay that way! I mean sometimes I get way too much caught up in the game.

Constantly, I get grounded because I pass my time limit on the computer,(Yes, I have a time limit... ) I haven't been spending enough time on my homework, and my friends ask me if all I do is spend my time on the computer.

I think that once in a while going on VMK is fine, but not spending hours and hours on it. I have no friends/neighbors to play with me outside, but sometimes (When I'm in the mood... ) I go outside and play with my little sister.

So, my answer to your question is just come once in a while to chat, play, and go to events.