QUESTION, What Would You Do

[Patch'sD]

I never really start threads here, but I would like to see how people would deal with this.

I just found out that a neighbor across the street is seeing a Level 2 Sex offender, convicted for assualting someone under 13. The neighbor, She is seperated from her husband and has two children under 9 years old. The Ex or Soon to be Ex has an order of protection for his children, where the Level 2 guy can't be around his kids. Since the Divorce is not final, The neighbor has this guy park blocks from her house, walk the neighborhood, and sneak into her house during the day, night or whatever. I spoke with the police and there is nothing they can do, they will come if we report a suspicous person. What would you do

 

[zurgswife]

I'm torn....

part of me says mind your own business..

the other part

Says protect the kids and tell the father....

WOW!!! I think I would find away to "get the father to find out"....

Tough one...

 

[WeirdEyes]

I'd contact the children's father and let him know what is going on. Maybe he could then hire a PI or someone to get proof that she is seeing this guy with the kids there. Then I'd stay out of it. I mean if this lady is willing to see someone who molested kids, there's no telling what she or he might do.

 

[Lorix2]

Wow, what a tough one...

What about the order of protection? Isn't that violated if he's in this woman's house with the kids?

I'd try to tell the "ex" if I knew him well enough or anonymously if I could to protect those children.

What's wrong with this woman anyway? Knowing what she knows, she's just as guilty as he is and why risk this behavior with her children? I have no patience for people on this subject.

 

[browneyes]

I'd tell the father. I have never heard of any case where a child molester has ever stopped being a child molester just because he/she was caught.

 

[Patch'sD]

I don't talk with the Father we had words many years ago. He is no better. He was a Physical Abuser to the Wife and Kids. Not a pretty picture for the kids who get either one of these two. That is my Dilema.

 

[WeirdEyes]

Oh my goodness! How said for those kids. I would contact social services and let them investigate....I know that is a tough decision cause either way, the kids lose. Have you tried to talk to the mother?

 

[Silky]

I would urge you to call Child Protective Services for your state. You can file an ANONYMOUS concern with them about possible risk to ANY child. The terminology for such agencies varies around the country; in Mass, it's called the Department of Social Services.
Your local Police should have the number available.

 

[browneyes]

Would calling his parole officer do any good?

Not only is this woman willing to put her own kids at risk, she's risking all kids in your neighborhood. While he's sneaking around to get into her house, I can imagine he's thinking of ways of sneaking into other people's houses too.

 

[piratesmate]

If the soon-to-be ex has an order of protection, aren't the police required to do something if someone reports that the Level 2 guy is in the house when the kids are? I'd probably try the "legal" route instead of calling the ex - unless you are still close friends with him. I know it would probably make me feel like a "peeping tom" or something, but I'd keep an eye out to see if I could catch him entering the house in the evening (so you don't have to ID the guy)...and then just call the police to report "someone suspicious" around/looking to enter the house. I'd think that the police would have to check it out & hopefully find him there.

 

[Beauty]

What is level 2?

I agree with Shannon I have never heard of a child molestor who has stopped even after being in jail.

 

[piratesmate]

Man - my connection stinks today. I hit submit & by the time it's done there are 6 more responses there!

Given that the husband has a history of abuse - I would think your best bet would be to do what Silky suggested & make an annonymous tip to child services!

As others have said, it isn't just the neighbor's children who may be at risk. I wouldn't let this go if it were me.

 

[Patch'sD]

I believe that there are three levels of sex offenders under Megan's Law. The levels are the risks to others these people can be attributed with. We have not seen the guy when the kids are home. He is usually spotted when the kids are in school or with their Father for the weekend. It is not a good situation at all for these kids. The father when he first moved in was involved with his Step Sister. She eventually had to move out because of the Physical abuse. Social Services has been called but nothing has happened yet. I don't expect anything either, this is not the first time they have been to that house. The Mother is very verbally abusive to the kids. I would not treat my dog like that. And I am sorry to say the kids are showing signs of it too. Oldest child is verbally abusive to younger one and both are very quick with their hands. It is very Sad. However The Mother has introduced Risk to mine and other kids in the Neighborhood. This guy most likely knows names and routines. I can't let my youngest out of sight now. A few of us are watching for him.