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[SecondStartotheright]

I keep having problems with overnight guests in my apartment.
My roommate is seeing this guy who comes over and spends the night. I asked her to stop, but she said it wasn't against the rules because he lives in the same complex as us.

I tried to find in our program guide somewhere where it specified that we can't have people here overnight even if they are in the same complex...but it doesn't say that specifically. Only "overnight visitors are prohibited"

I don't know what to do. I'm afraid of getting termed because of the situation. And I don't want to go to security about it, because I don't really want her to get sent home, and/or everyone in the apartment to hate me.

Does anyone have any advice? I don't think this guy is allowed to be in our apartment after 1am regardless of where he lives...but maybe I'm wrong. And anyway, I don't think he needs to be spending the night with us.

 

[chevyrules05]

I think you ask to change Apartments but I bthink it cost $50

 

[Berlioz70]

You are correct... he shouldn't be staying. However, if you do go to security you're also correct that your roommate will be sent home. If you really don't want her to be in trouble then I would agree with OP - Change apartments.

 

[disjordan]

im pretty positive they allow guest of the same complex to stay the night, just not other complexes. your best bet is to move apartments though if it makes you uncomfortable

 

[PrincessJordynx]

personally i dont see the problem with her bf staying over. if my bf were going to be in florida with me i know id want him to stay. but i guess thats just me...good luck with your issue.

 

[kmg148]

But keep in mind the rooms are incredibly small. It can pose an uncomfortable situation.

 

[namara87]

There are no rules that say that CP's from the same complex cannot stay the night at a friends apartment. So sadly, there is not much one could do besides requesting to change apartments (unless rules have changed since '07?).

Regardless, I personally feel it is a bit rude to have someone sleeping over on a constant basis without consulting how your roommate may feel about this. I had this problem on my first CP...my roommate was ALWAYS bringing guys into our room...not even doing anything inappropriate just watching movies and snuggling, and they were nice I guess....but when that small space is the closest thing you have to privacy...you kinda have to be respectful of the other person you live with. That went for my housemates as well...who grew annoyed of these guys always being there.

JMO....and I've been on both sides of the coin. My bf came over a lot on my second program...but I was sure to check with all the roomies first, and I made sure he didn't overstay his welcome.

 

[Berlioz70]

I was there in fall 08 and NO ONE can stay over, regardless of complex. People assume they can stay over because they do not have to go through security, but they can't. The only people allowed in the room after 1 am are the people living in the room.

I know this is true, a friend of mine got his roommate termed because he was tired of girls "from the same complex" staying over all the time. It was a serious problem with him because the roommate was having sex with the women so he warned him... the roommate said it's okay they're from this complex and BAM, he called security and he was gone by 11am the next morning.

My assumption is people start to "interpret" the rules as it benefits them... but I am positive it's not allowed.

"overnight visitors are prohibited" Period.

Hope that helps!

 

[jellipop]

I can barely share a king size bed with my boyfriend (he's this scrawny guy that finds ways of taking up the entire bed) I couldn't even imagine trying to share a twin bed!

 

[PrincessJordynx]

I can barely share a king size bed with my boyfriend (he's this scrawny guy that finds ways of taking up the entire bed) I couldn't even imagine trying to share a twin bed!

my bf is 6'4 and he hangs off of my queen bed so just picturing him with me in a twin is hysterical. doesn't mean i wouldn't try though ;]

 

[lauraebeth]

I know this is true, a friend of mine got his roommate termed because he was tired of girls "from the same complex" staying over all the time. It was a serious problem with him because the roommate was having sex with the women so he warned him... the roommate said it's okay they're from this complex and BAM, he called security and he was gone by 11am the next morning.

this is interesting because my boyfriends apartment was busted for being too loud after 1am and they had guests over but no one got termed.

 

[khancock]

Go to housing or that person in the clubroom at Vista Way and explain your situation and see what they think the best course of action would be.

in any case, you need to say something so it is documented in the event that a situation comes up where you could get termed for her/his actions.

 

[jedihunny]

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[ckrisie]

I agree if you have tried to talk to her and tell her what your needs are and have tried to compromise with her. You may have to report her. But if you want talk to your other roommates and ask them what they think. They may help you in talking to her if it more than just you talking. She may see reason then.

 

[SecondStartotheright]

I think I'm going to go to the clubhouse and ask what they think. Does anyone know if they will be able to keep the report anonymous, if they end up talking to her?


I feel really terrible about it...but she's only here to meet boys and party, so I don't feel that bad if she gets sent home. Maybe it's not against the rules, and there is nothing I can do. It's at point where I'd like a third party intervention though.

For the record...this guy isn't her boyfriend....just a guy she met on facebook a couple of weeks ago. The two of them are just sleeping together (in the next bed over I might add) And he sometimes lays around on our couch and eats our food. He's over here every night, and I'm just really sick of it, he lives in the building next door and I don't see why he can't be there for 6 whole hours a night. He's a nice guy...but it really makes me uncomfortable. When I talked to her about it (again) she said it wasn't against the rules and I was just jealous because I miss my boyfriend. So maybe I'm the one who's out of line.

And again, there's still the question of "will I get termed" if we're caught having him in our apartment =/

 

[SecondStartotheright]

And to add to that.
He's under 21...spending the night in an over 21 apartment. I'm worried about that. I have no idea if she's giving him alcohol, but judging from how she spends her time with her other suitors....she probably is. And I know THAT is against the rules. Is there anywhere that says under 21 can't stay over in an over 21 apt? Maybe I can show them that rule and he'll stop.

 

[chevyrules05]

I think I'm going to go to the clubhouse and ask what they think. Does anyone know if they will be able to keep the report anonymous, if they end up talking to her?


I feel really terrible about it...but she's only here to meet boys and party, so I don't feel that bad if she gets sent home. Maybe it's not against the rules, and there is nothing I can do. It's at point where I'd like a third party intervention though.

For the record...this guy isn't her boyfriend....just a guy she met on facebook a couple of weeks ago. The two of them are just sleeping together (in the next bed over I might add) And he sometimes lays around on our couch and eats our food. He's over here every night, and I'm just really sick of it, he lives in the building next door and I don't see why he can't be there for 6 whole hours a night. He's a nice guy...but it really makes me uncomfortable. When I talked to her about it (again) she said it wasn't against the rules and I was just jealous because I miss my boyfriend. So maybe I'm the one who's out of line.

And again, there's still the question of "will I get termed" if we're caught having him in our apartment =/

the way you put it I thought big deal he is over once a week or something but every night in the bed next you that is out of line when your room mate doesn't care what you think, you should either talk to HIM or go to the front desk and talk with someone and put on the record you did NOT approve or ask you be moved.

 

[DisneyLover0526]

And to add to that.
He's under 21...spending the night in an over 21 apartment. I'm worried about that. I have no idea if she's giving him alcohol, but judging from how she spends her time with her other suitors....she probably is. And I know THAT is against the rules. Is there anywhere that says under 21 can't stay over in an over 21 apt? Maybe I can show them that rule and he'll stop.

Well...I read what you had to say about this situation...and I managed to find this:

Alcohol & Substance Abuse
The legal drinking age in Florida is 21. Under-age drinking, supplying a minor with alcohol, illegal drugs, kegs of beer and party balls, as well as disruptive or destructive behavior because of excessive consumption are all prohibited and can lead to termination from the program.

That came right off of the WDW College Progam Website....here's the link that shows a brief overview of the Housing Policies.......but for him sleeping over in a 21 and over apartment...more than likely...that is against the rules...because they separated the two age groups for a reason....and a violation of that could be termination....If you don't want to get terminated for her actions.....I'd best say to just report her...I really hope this helps

http://www.wdwcollegeprogram.com/sap/its/mimes/zh_wdwcp/students/housing/housing_policies.html

 

[PrincessJordynx]

idk maybe im more open about things..plus my bf lives with me so im used to there being a male around me 24/7..but i suppose i can emphasize with both sides.

if i were single on the cp i know id want to make the most of it and have fun especially since its like living on your own.

as long as they arent having wild crazy sex in front of you i dont see the problem.

if you are serious about wanting this to end i sugguest telling her that and giving her a deadline to change. say you will go fess up next week and see if you see less of her booty call if not then kick her out.

 

[kmg148]

I can imagine the awkward situation it creates. If you don't know these guys (she said several) they could not be trustworthy, may try to take things. You never know.

If it's something that can get you terminated if caught, then there should be some sympathy. You are sharing a living space, so you have to adjust.

Just because it isn't "wild and crazy sex" doesn't mean it's not awkward or uncomfortable if you are sleeping 3 feet away, literally.