Question for moms or moms to be

[Pomlover2586]

DH and I have been married for just shy of 2 years. We are starting to talk about TTC. DH says he's ready to try whenever I am. Both of us are anxious, and a bit scared at the idea of having a baby.....normal for first time parents I suppose.

So I guess my question is, How did you and your spouse know you were truly ready to start a family?

 

[clh2]

When I kept repeatedly noticing a gray hair.

Probably not the type of answer you were looking for...but it is what it is!

 

[MomRN]

When the pregnancy test read positive....

 

[tevisco4]

When the pregnancy test showed "positive". Hahaha. We knew we wanted kids but we were only married for eight months when my little guy was born. Now he is turning two and he was the best wedding gift!
If you wait for the right time, you will never be ready. If it is something you want, go for it!!!

 

[RUDisney]

We took a different route. We were on the beach in Puerto Rico and we were watching all of the parents with their kids in the water. That is when we decided we were ready to be parents... adoptive parents. We wanted our kids to be walking, talking and potty trained. We got our wish. They were 5 and 6 when we adopted them. I love babies, as long as I can give them back to their parents when I'm finished.

 

[Nette]

We didn't know we were ready. We knew we wanted kids, and so we decided to "not do anything to prevent it". Wham. Bam. We were pregnant 2 weeks later. That was 8 years ago... Wasn't quite so easy the second time around. (And I still don't know if I'm ready for baby #2 and he's only 3 weeks away)

I don't think you can know that you're ready... If you're waiting to be financially ready then you'll never have kids is what my parents and grandparents always said. Good luck with your decision.

 

[MerMom60_94]

DH and I went back and forth for ten years before we decided to have a baby. Either he was ready or I was ready but we were never in synch and I was scared knowing once you have a baby there is no going back. When my mother got breast cancer it occurred to me I wanted my child to know my mother and if I were going to have a baby it was time to stop putting it off. I had DD after eleven years of marriage at the age of 34. I have absolutely loved every minute of it. All the things I thought I would miss went straight to the back burner and she became the focus of my life. It's amazing the "important things" that I was so worried about aren't even on my radar now that I have her. And, oh yeah, my Mom survived and is a vibrant 82 year old who DD just loves - just as I had hoped.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

We knew before we got married. It was just one of those "things." I knew he'd be a great dad, and he must've seen something in me, lol. We're on baby #2 now, #3... well... that's definitely in debate now. We're not quite sure if we want a third, but we'll see.

 

[malibuconlee]

Having children was something we discussed for years. Not all the time, but from time to time it would get brought up, put off for "maybe next year", then it was before I was 30, then put off again.

We finally decided we were ready when we just wanted more out of life. We had the discussion that the child might not be "perfect", and we were ready to deal with that. I hope that doesn't come out wrong. I just mean that we weren't going into it thinking "it can't happen to us", if we were to have a handicapped baby in any way.

We were financially much more secure than when we were younger. We had been married for 9 years when we started trying, got pregnant on our 10th anniversary trip and she was 3 months old the day after our 11th wedding anniversary. Needless to say, we shocked EVERYONE when we announced we were pregnant. LOL

Not to hijack, but we are trying to decide IF and WHEN to have another. We aren't getting any younger, but ours is just starting to hit those terrible twos!!

 

[cassiez76]

before we were really seriously dating, we were chatting online i asked him if he wanted to have fat little babies with me and he said yes.

so we decided to try at the beg. of '08, 7 months after we got married. bam! literally the 1st try, with 1 ovary. LOL

i had already mellowed out from being crazy social to homebody, so i wasn't really worried about having a baby to keep me from anything. and he really hasn't. he's gone more places at almost 18 months than i probably did at half his age!

what worried me was my child knowing my mom. my dad died in '05, so i really wanted my mom to get to enjoy a grandchild since my dad didn't. thomas and his G.G. are just totally in love with each other.

my son turns 18 months on the 15th and i'm ready to give him a sibling! hubby isn't quite ready though....maybe i can talk to him about it more after we go to wdw in october...i'm not getting any younger! chasing thomas already gets me worn out!

good luck in your decision!

 

[MnMomtoboys]

No one is ever really ready to have a baby. You just go on hope, faith and love that everything will work out in the end.

The fear will never end, one fear just gets replaced by another. BUT don't let that hold you back go for it! Beign a parent will be something you will never regret. Course that thought doesn't count when you are changing a poopy diaper

 

[themilesfamily]

We knew we both wanted children when we got married -- and the clock was ticking -- I was already 33 years old. So we waited about a year and started trying. It took us 4 months to conceive.

We approached TTC the same way we approach our Disney vacations -- with charts, schedules, planning binders, websites, etc. (I highly recommend Fertilityfriend.com.) We're not the spontaneous sort. Okay, we're a little nutty.

But it all worked out!

 

[phillmolly]

We were ready the day we got married. However life doesn't always work the way you want it to and it took us 14 yrs to get pregnant with our son! My advice would be if you know for sure you want to be parents, don't waste anytime! There is never a "prefect" time to have children and you never know what will happen in the future. I am so thankful that I was able to concive my son, he is now 20 months old and is the light of my life. I look back and think this is how it was meant to be. I belive that whenever you have a baby, it will be the right time. I would love to have a second baby, and if that is in the plan for me then it will be, but if not, then I am okay with that too. Good Luck to you and your DH!

 

[AJ12345]

no kids yet. but i am a control freak, so like a PP poster said we planned and planned just getting ready TTC. We wanted to wait until we were both secure in our jobs and were in our first home (not apartment) but a house. For us, this was a big one. So once we got the house, we started TTC. LoL

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Got pregnant, got married. It was unplanned and we frankly did not even discuss kids. It was something for the future.
I had fertility issues so the fact that I got pregnant made it "meant to be".

My oldest is 19 and I am still not ready.

If you are lucky to be able to plan things out then that is cool too.

 

[vettechick99]

I think you kinda just know it's something you are ready for. We actually gave ourselves 7 months to get used to the idea because I had to wait on maternity insurance. So during that time I stopped the pill and charted my cycles. Then once the insurance kicked in, we went for it. Still took 7 months to get pregnant, but by that time we were super excited about positive test.

GL! Parenthood is a lot of fun.

 

[mjkacmom]

When I was late, and got a positive pregnancy test! Oops - we had only be married 5 months (but had dated 6 years).

 

[Colleen27]

Like with others, we knew when we saw that second blue line on the pregnancy test. I honestly believe that if we'd had to plan it consciously we probably never would have had kids; we'd have kept waiting for a right time that still hasn't come (and our oldest is 12!).

 

[WDWorBUST]

I had always said I wanted to have my first child by the time I was 30. We decided we wanted to start trying when I was 25....but then we backed out. Not sure why. Then again at 28 - but it ended up taking us over a year to get pregnant so I ended up having DD 3 1/2 months shy of my 30th birthday. As far as a second goes I knew I wanted a second child all along. DH and I went back and forth until I finally just told him that I wasn't getting any younger and although people are having babies at 40 all the time I didn't want to. So we started trying again in September 2008. Actually got pregnant on our own in January 2009 but lost the baby. Then it took until February 2010 for us to get pregnant again.(I'm 36 now) I also know that after this baby we are done. So my best advice would be if you KNOW you want children don't wait too long because it isn't always as easy as you think it's going to be.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Well, we weren't ready with our first, but it still worked out just fine. With our second we were ready when we were financially secure and our lives had become less hectic.