Question for Grandparents

[Minnie824]

Do you give your son/daughter a card for Fathers day/Mothers day? I'm just curious. My kids are small now, but when they do get older and have kids, I definitely want to celebrate them being a mother also. This topic came up after Mothers day, because my mom didn't get me a card for mothers day and DH thought she should have. She never has, so I didn't expect it, and its not a big deal to me, but I was wondering what others do.

 

[Evil Queen]

My Mom sends me a Mother's Day card each year.

My kids do something for me for Father's Day, even though I tell them they don't have to. They said I'm the best Father they ever had (since theirs skipped town.)

 

[antmaril]

My mother has been deceased for many, many years, but my mother-in-law always gives me a card for Mother's Day (and a gift). My husband will also receive a card and gift from her on Sunday.

She's a very thoughtful woman.

 

[jennyl772003]

When I was a single mom with a young child, my dad would get me something since otherwise no one would.

Now that I am married, I get a call from my parents and IL's to wish me a happy day.

 

[Quinn222]

In my family you only give a card or gift your your father or mother. Not your kids or your spouse. (Of course technically if your kids are small and giving mom or dad a gift it's coming from the spouse more than likely)

 

[Castlebound]

My mom does not buy me anything on Mother's Day but she does wish me a Happy Mother's Day. DH and I actually set aside the weekend before or after Mother's Day and Father's Day to celebrate with just our kids. That way the weekend of MD and FD we can visit all the moms and dads in our lives without feeling like we only celebrated for other people.

My MIL just started within the past year or so to wish me a happy Mother's Day and I've been a mom for almost nine years now. One year my SIL was VERY pregnant with their first child and I got her a small gift. My MIL ask why I got her something when she wasn't a mom yet, and said it was my BIL's job to get her a gift anyway. I told her SIL had been taking care of her newest grandchild for months, and if that didn't make her a mom I didn't know what did. I wonder if my MIL will ever realize that my DH hasn't picked any of her gifts in over ten years?

When and if my children become parents in the future I plan to give them something on those days and I also plan to be flexable with what day we celebrate on. It is not about the date on the calendar!

 

[ceiligh1]

My mother gave me my first mothers day gift last year when I when I was pregnant. She was the only one that did. This year we exchanged gifts. We send gifts to MIL and SMIL and another adoptive mother of my husbands. I recieved a card from the SMIL.

I think it depends on your family as my husband didnt get me anything as I am not his mother. Then again he also didnt get anyone else anything either as I bought all the gifts. He did however get my son something to get me.

I was raised that the day is to celebrate motherhood and the mothers around you that contribute to your life, not just your own mother.

 

[4nana]

Sure do ~

We always call, most the time do cards, and sometimes a small gift such as a framed fav photo, for all 3 of our wonderful daughters, soldier boy, 3 charming SIL's and sweet DIL. IMO, it's the very least we can do to pay recognition of their excellent job parenting our grands.

 

[horseshowmom]

This is an interesting thread. I've never even heard of parents giving their children (who are also parents) Mother's/Father's Day cards.

I know that my parents didn't get them from their parents (same with DH's family), and that Dh and I don't get them from our parents. It honestly would have never crossed our minds.

We get our parents something, and DD gets us something. DH and I don't get each other something either (he's not my dad, and I'm not his mom) although we did do it when DD was too young to do it on her own.

 

[ozarkmom]

In my family you only give a card or gift your your father or mother. Not your kids or your spouse. (Of course technically if your kids are small and giving mom or dad a gift it's coming from the spouse more than likely)

Same here. To me some of this forced gift, flowers, and card giving is out of control. Before anyone jumps on me maybe forced was a poor choice how about expected.