Question about Wedding Invitations

[tink1978]

My boyfriend and I are getting married in March. We have already gotten a guest list developed and have are confused as to how to approach a printed invitation to our churches. In our church bulletins, there are printed wedding invites all the time. Now, my boyfriend and I want to let people know that we are getting married, but we don't want everyone who has ever spoken to us in both churches to attend. We want only people who have been mailed an invitation to attend. Is there a proper way to handle this? What should we do?

 

[Charade]

I'm not an expert but wouldn't posting your engagement in the Church letter be just that, and announcement (and not an invitation)?

I've never heard of printing wedding invitations in a Church letter.

 

[Stacerita]

Just print an engagement announcement in the bulletin. Don't print the date you guys are getting married. Then the weekend after you get married, have the announcement printed.

 

[Stacerita]

I'm not an expert but wouldn't posting your engagement in the Church letter be just that, and announcement (and not an invitation)?

I've never heard of printing wedding invitations in a Church letter.

Some churches do consider it an invitation. Plus, anyone is generally allowed in the church as long as its open. My church is like that.

 

[Charade]

Some churches do consider it an invitation. Plus, anyone is generally allowed in the church as long as its open. My church is like that.

Oh, that makes sense.

 

[powellrj]

If you don't want people to attend, I would wait until after the wedding to print the announcement.

We welcomed anyone to attend that wanted to and we had many people attend from the announcement in our bulletin.

 

[tink1978]

Thanks. I think that is what we will do..just print the annoucement after the wedding.

 

[mickeyboat]

I would print what is traditional at the church. It is pretty common to have all weddings open to the church's congregation. People who attend the ceremony are not invited to the reception, however, so you shouldn't have to be concerned about the extra cost. Is seating at the church going to be a problem if extra people attend?

Denae

 

[merekc]

Our church prints an invitation only if one is sent to the church. It is then considered an open invitiation and anyone can attend. Most of the time, people do not attend a wedding though if they didn't get a personal invitation. No offense intended, but it's not like most people are dying to spend their free time at a wedding, KWIM.

However, if this is a concern for you, I would just have printed the week after the wedding an announcement that you were married the previous weekend. You might also mention it to the minister (or secretary) on the best way to handle it. They will know what to do and they will understand.

Congratulations and Good Luck!

 

[goofy4tink]

Put nothing in the bulletin until the service after your wedding.
However, you do realize that technically, anyone and everyone is welcome at a wedding? Anyone can just walk in off the street. We had people from my office come to the wedding, and no they were not invited. But, they showed up. They did not attend the reception though. And that's the rub....having some at the wedding but not the reception. That's why I say print out an announcement for the service day that follows your wedding day..maybe the next day if you are married on a Sat and you have Sunday worship.

I would have loved to have a lot more people at my wedding but just could not afford to have a reception large enough to include them all. If they had asked to come to the wedding and then go home, I would have agreed but didnt' want to put that idea out there...just in case of reception crashers.