Question about transgender--Nephew

[silverhaze269]

The biggest thing that Natalie (and her family) needs right now is support, and it sounds like she's getting it an abundance

Kudos to you for being so supportive, and willing to learn and understand more about gender dysphoria! Two of my friends are trans (one FtM, and one MtF), and my MtF friend has an extremely supportive family, where as my MtF friend doesn't really have the support of his family, which is extremely sad. Most of his family still use the wrong pronouns, and address him with his old name, which he finds really frustrating. None of his family seems to understand or be willing to learn about any of it, and instead are choosing to ignore it. This is not the way to go about things. Luckily for him though, he has many supportive friends, and there are some excellent resources for him in my city. He's been transitioning for close to two years now.

The biggest thing to understand about this, is that Natalie is still the same person everyone knew before, she's just finally able to express herself in the manner in which she's been wanting to do for a long time. Sure it will take some time for everyone to get used to using the new pronouns, and new name, but with time it's like second nature.

I hope the surgery goes well, and she has a speedy recovery.

 

[lisajl]

The biggest thing that Natalie (and her family) needs right now is support, and it sounds like she's getting it an abundance

Kudos to you for being so supportive, and willing to learn and understand more about gender dysphoria! Two of my friends are trans (one FtM, and one MtF), and my MtF friend has an extremely supportive family, where as my MtF friend doesn't really have the support of his family, which is extremely sad. Most of his family still use the wrong pronouns, and address him with his old name, which he finds really frustrating. None of his family seems to understand or be willing to learn about any of it, and instead are choosing to ignore it. This is not the way to go about things. Luckily for him though, he has many supportive friends, and there are some excellent resources for him in my city. He's been transitioning for close to two years now.

The biggest thing to understand about this, is that Natalie is still the same person everyone knew before, she's just finally able to express herself in the manner in which she's been wanting to do for a long time. Sure it will take some time for everyone to get used to using the new pronouns, and new name, but with time it's like second nature.

I hope the surgery goes well, and she has a speedy recovery.

Thank you for the information and the stories about your friends.
Natalie had her surgery a few months ago and is doing well.
I hope my MIL took it well when she saw her over Christmas. My DH did not ask.
I guess we are the type of people that may struggle with it, but know that we love our family members and will not pass judgement on them.
I did not want any family member passing judgment on our daughter for being gay, why would I do that to them?
It never ceases to amaze me that people would rather write off their kids than try to understand what they are going through.

I hope things improve for your friend.