Question About A Crime

[robinb]

First of all ... I am glad that you got out of the relationship! He sounds like a very violent man. I can understand that you would not want your DD to see her father, but I am not sure exactly what you can do about it if he wants his supervised visitation. I don't have any advise, but I do have {{hugs}} for you.

 

[rie'smom]

Any judge who would let this guy have visitation with your daughter would be nutz! But having said that, I know it happens all the time. You are smart to be proactive in this. Do you EVER really get away form your ex? Not until yor kids are of legal age.

My son is an attorney. He clerked for a judge and had to stop. It was so depressing for him to see what he called "scum of the earth" getting to keep their kids or being granted visitation. My son is a tough guy athletic type and for him to be upset, it must have been really bad.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

First of all ... I am glad that you got out of the relationship! He sounds like a very violent man. I can understand that you would not want your DD to see her father, but I am not sure exactly what you can do about it if he wants his supervised visitation. I don't have any advise, but I do have {{hugs}} for you.[/QUOTE/] The reason I want this info is for a few reasons.

1. I went to court and told the court that he was very violent with me including threatened me with a weapon. I was not believed. Now maybe I will be since he did this to someone else.

2. If he tries to get unsupervised visitation it will be very difficult for him since not only did he hurt DD11 he has a violent history wit other including police.

3. If he wants to exercise is supervised visitation, I am going to ask to court to change locations. The supervisor that we use is very inexperienced(she is not a social worker yet). Everyone but the superviser is gone for the night by 5pm and my ex requests it after 6pm (even when it is his days off). Ex has threatened to kidnap DD and I think it would be pretty easy with only 1 woman there and a violent ex that is never checked for weapons.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

My son is an attorney. He clerked for a judge and had to stop. It was so depressing for him to see what he called "scum of the earth" getting to keep their kids or being granted visitation. My son is a tough guy athletic type and for him to be upset, it must have been really bad.

This is the very reason that I am taking classes to be a Casa-Can volunteer. I could not imagine a parent like my ex and a child not having a parent fighting for them.

 

[Gisele]

I am sorry to hear that. Certain types of court records are a matter of public record.
When a person is under the influence of drugs, etc. they become a different kind of person. I rather doubt that when this man is clean and sober, that he is a threat to himself, nor to anyone else for that matter. I hope that he obtains the help that he needs, so this behavior will not be repeated in the future. For if it is, that would truly be a shame, and his behaviour might just become even worse.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

My sister's ex-husband picked up his son by the neck and choked him, leaving bruises on his neck...and the son was 1 month too old for the crime to be considered aggravated child abuse with mandatory jail time. He got a one year prison sentence that was suspended and now he gets unsupervised visitation with him.

You can't tell me there is justice in the court system for children. I think the best you can do is to make visitation so unpleasant for him that he won't want it anymore.