Push Presents???

[Jessica14]

What does one get for an adoption?

I got a 21 hour flight to China and one equally long one coming back. I also got a screaming baby who pooped four times, much to the dismay of those around us. I also got a bad case of vertigo.

For the second one, I was lucky to "only" have a 16 hour flight back and crying, sick child (the one who pooped on the original flight) and no sleep.

In the end what did I really get? Two awesome,beautiful children who I could not live without!
Jessica

 

[Mouse House Mama]

My dh brought me 2 dozen roses and a baby shoe with our child's birthstone on in on a chain after we had our first child. It was a total surprise. Since then I have gotten a shoe for each child and I wear them all on my necklace. I love them. It was not a "push" gift. It was simply a gift. I didn't expect it at all. The only "push" I wanted was that epidural! I was thrilled with healthy babies. Anything else was unimportant.

 

[Dragonfly_34]

The "rating scale" made me laugh although my husband would be in major hock if he had to stick by that! On a more serious note, as someone who has dealt with secondary infertility and spent 10 years trying to conceive DS#2 and ultimately going through numerous medical procedures culminating with IVF, I think it's a nice gesture for a husband/significant other to do something to commemorate their child's birth. Not required, expected or demanded of course, but still a nice gesture. In our case, I went through a lot physically to get (and stay) pregnant ~ it was a lot of stress and painful, invasive procedures....for me, NOT DH. And I can honestly say this twin pregnancy is physically a lot harder than either of my singleton pregnancies, especially with working full-time and taking care of a toddler, not to mention my teenager and DH! Again, I don't think anything should be expected or demanded, but every situation is different and I don't think anyone should be made to feel badly if they do receive a gift of some sort after they give birth.

 

[mommyof2princesses]

My "push" present was watching dh walk around the delivery room with his new daughter in his hands....and then the look on his face when she started crying and he didn't know what to do. PRICELESS!! And my dd loves to hear that story to this day. The best "push" present I could have received!

 

[deuceswild10]

The "rating scale" made me laugh although my husband would be in major hock if he had to stick by that! On a more serious note, as someone who has dealt with secondary infertility and spent 10 years trying to conceive DS#2 and ultimately going through numerous medical procedures culminating with IVF, I think it's a nice gesture for a husband/significant other to do something to commemorate their child's birth. Not required, expected or demanded of course, but still a nice gesture. In our case, I went through a lot physically to get (and stay) pregnant ~ it was a lot of stress and painful, invasive procedures....for me, NOT DH. And I can honestly say this twin pregnancy is physically a lot harder than either of my singleton pregnancies, especially with working full-time and taking care of a toddler, not to mention my teenager and DH! Again, I don't think anything should be expected or demanded, but every situation is different and I don't think anyone should be made to feel badly if they do receive a gift of some sort after they give birth.

Good luck to you!

Twins are AMAZING!!

Ours are 13 months and so much fun!

 

[amberdburke]

I got an iced cookie and a diet coke, but DH got one of each for himself too, so I don't think that counts

 

[Hockey Mom KQ]

I love it!! I had my first son 12 years ago, and I told my husband it was tradition to give jellery after the birth of your children. He got me a solid gold wedding band. Mine has diamonds on the band so I thought it would be good so that I didn't scratch the baby with my ring. He got me a beautiful bangel when my second son was born 2 years later. Did I invent the push present? LOL!!

 

[DisneySarah80]

I've never heard of it.

While I would never expect anything, I think its a nice gesture from the husband (or your mother, or close family member) to give "the pusher" something special.
After you have a child, you know darn well that all of your energy is put into that child! You feel overlooked and unappreciated at times (though who has time to even realize it!!!). Its nice to know that someone still remembers ya!

 

[Juliet25]

I was watching the news and I saw that women are now wanting " push presents" for giving birth?............ Really?....... You need a gift AFTER you just gave birth?.......I'm sorry I feel this is wrong. My "gift" was my health daughter.


Just wondering what everyone else thinks!

ITA. Birth is awesome; babies are special. But c'mon. We're not doing anything that trillions of others before us haven't done.

 

[dntd]

I wouldn't call it a push present. Honestly men give gifts to the one they love for many occasions, I think giving birth to their baby is a MUCH better one then valentines day or birthdays. I got flowers from my husband, would have loved a tennis bracelet but we did life opposite to what many people do now, my dh schooled and works, I stayed home and had kids how I will be off to nursing school in september. I wouldn't demand a gift but a few hints that a family birthstone ring would be nice, heck 9 months x5 pregnancies=45 months of pregnancy with morning sickness and aches yuck

 

[Deesknee]

DH gave me flowers for my first delivery they were dead when they arrived to me. (perhaps that's because I had a c-section and didn't actually push ) My 2nd delivery he and my children gave the baby a build a bear teddy. I pushed for that one. I have never asked or expected gifts from anyone. But, when given one I always appreciate it.

To each there own. Different strokes for different folks.

When my brother gave my SIL 4 doz roses on their eldest sons 4th day he said it was because she pushed so hard all those years ago. and he is NOT the mushy type. Now that son is in his 30's and his bday is this month...hmmm... perhaps I shall remind him he should send his wife 32 doz roses.

 

[JUJU814]

My push present was first, my beautiful daughter...and a close second, the feeling of RELIEF of having my 9 lb 5 oz baby OUT of me and into my arms She had started to actually tear my rib cartilage!

Other 2 were c sections.

Gosh, what an aweful term.."push present" LOL

 

[GinnetteM]

After my DS was born, all I wanted was a shower! It took another day for me to get that and the only reason I got that was because the nurse rolled the bassinet into the bathroom with me!

My (now)Ex spent the 3 days I was in the hospital playing video games and watching Star Wars!

But I did get the mandatory 6 weeks off of work following and that was the first vacation I'd had in almost 3 years. Does that count?

 

[Colleen27]

My DH always came up with a little something thoughtful to give me as a gift after each of our kids was born, even if it was just take-out sushi and a bottle of rosa regale after having to steer clear of both for so long (and he's allergic to fish so he couldn't even partake with me - it was all for me!).

To me the idea of a pricey push present is as ridiculous as the notion of two months' salary for an engagement ring, and I have no doubt the concept has the same origins - marketing geniuses, not genuine sentiment!

 

[LoveBugs]

I didn't receive anything after my first two deliveries, but we knew the third would be our last so we talked about it and decided on a ring to commemorate our newly completed family. It has five sapphires for the five members of our family. I treasure it everyday and it reminds me of the incredible time I spent in labor.

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

I think a man bringing a gift to his wife after the birth of a child is a loving and romantic gesture. I think a woman who is demanding or even asking for a gift and using the term "push present" is disgusting.

I totally agree. My gift was my miracle baby girl! No gift will EVER top that!

 

[EKW]

LOL YES! After my DD1 was born, I remember clearly saying to my DH "get me a Coke NOW - I am SO thirsty!" I couldn't eat during my 27hr labor (dr's orders since I was induced), so I promptly ordered my dinner and ate it while admiring my little bundle of joy.

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I'm so with you on this one! With my second son I had a can of Mountain Dew waiting in the nurse's fridge. I was majorly miffed that because I had a c-section I wasn't allowed to have it after my son was delivered (just after midnight)...or all that day...or the next day. They finally let me have it the next morning...48 hours after delivery...about an hour before they released me!

Water and weak tea just didn't cut it! (I have to admit, I felt like I got ripped off...the moms who had normal deliveries back then got a steak dinner and champagne after delivery...and they wouldn't even let me have a danged soda!)