Puppy Love- What are your rules?

[Kat77]

DS12 (7th grade) is having a girl over today to "hang out". There is some puppy love going on with them that can't be missed- still it's all very innocent. The girl lives in our neighborhood so we felt it would be better for them to hang out here than meeting up around the corner unsupervised (with peers around to influence them- also, why do the naughtiest kids roam around endlessly on their bikes?!). I suspect her parents feel the same way, they invited DS over twice during the holiday break to play board games and trivia.
Our only rule so far is- No going upstairs! Probably unnecessary BUT better to establish that rule now than later.
So what are your rules? How have you navigated these waters?

 

[Desiree1972]

The most important rule we have is no closed doors allowed

and they can hang out in the backyard - it is fenced and we have windows looking out

 

[Cadiewampus]

The most important rule we have is no closed doors allowed

and they can hang out in the backyard - it is fenced and we have windows looking out

Little cold today though for them to be hanging out in the backyard. Where are you in Ga? We are in Acworth. Its between Marietta and Cartersville

 

[Desiree1972]

we live inside the perimeter - an def no outside time today!

 

[Jdougherty]

No closed doors, no going upstairs, no boy/girls allowed in the house/over when Parents aren't home.

 

[kacaju]

No closed doors, no going upstairs, no boy/girls allowed in the house/over when Parents aren't home.

Same here plus this is the one time younger siblings are allowed to hang around the one with the boy over!!

 

[Kat77]

no boy/girls allowed in the house/over when Parents aren't home.

Oh, wow! Never considered that! It's beginning... Help!!!

I am officially leaving the family tattler at home with her siblings from now on. How stupid was I to discourage her all these years? Thank Goodness, she's stubborn.

 

[kim929]

You def have to leave the little one to hang around. I would grill my youngest ds later, and they love to spill the beans. My ds would be in the room playing ps2 or something while they were in there talking, doing homework, they never paid much attention to the little guy cause they didn't think he was paying attention to them . Ohhhh fun times....
Same rules, no doors shut, no one over when I'm not home, and no hanging all over each other.
My step daughter was over with her boyfriend while my dd and her bf were over I had to tell my dd to move over they were sitting so close together, so sdd bf comes out with, when I was in Catholic school the nun would come around at the dances with a ruler saying "leave room for Jesus". So that is now the motto at our house. Leave room for Jesus....

 

[dyna]

Something I remember from many many yrs ago an I was at that age I was only allowed male friends in living room an kitchen an outside but there was 4 acres of outside but my parents was outside alot too an all over the 4 acres.

The thing that strikes me as odd is my parents could have their friends over or we could go to their friends homes all had boys my age we was actually sent to our bedrooms to entertain or be entertained....believe me at that puppy love age it did not matter whos house it was I was entertained OHHHHHHH an the bedroom door was expected to be closed too

What I'm saying here is you might think about laying down same rules for your own friends opposite sex children as your childs own friends.....I was not about to tell on my parents friends boys after all I did like them we was together almost every weekend but I had some very uncomfortable moments at that age.

Funny friends sons was to be trusted but my male friends wasn't....as an adult I have told my mom some of the things that went on with her friends son she thinks I'm making it up that boy was always an angel in her eyes....no he's 99.99% devil with angel eyes.

Another friend had 3 sons my age those boys was in an out of all kinds of trouble including drugs an my parents knew this yet they was trusted with me .

Even when I was not allowed to car date I was allowed to go out with all these boys in their cars we was not given a curfew.