proper funeral attire?

[binny]

an assosciate of Dhs passed on last week and the funeral is this afternoon.

Is it ok to wear dark slacks and a nice button down shirt?
Or do I need to wear a dress do you think?

I try to avoid funerals, I know thats terrible but I dont do well with them. I am quite out of practice.


thanks

 

[CEDmom]

I think that would be fine. If you have a blazer or nice dark sweater you could add to it that would be nice. Honestly, that fact that you're going is what matters.

I once had to go to a funeral in a very bright summer dress. The father of a co-worker passed away over a weekend. We didn't find out until Monday morning and the funeral was that day. I didn't have time to go home and change. I decided she'd rather have me as I was than not at all. It's actually something we laugh about today.

My condolences to your DH.

 

[golfgal]

I think the pants and a nice shirt are fine.

 

[C.Ann]

Perfectly acceptable.. It's being there that counts..

 

[helenabear]

I'd say that is totally fine. I agree that if you have a black button down sweater to throw with, that would make a nice touch, but not necessary. That's the kind of thing I wear to funerals now as well. I think I actually only have one real funeral outfit since I don't own a lot of that kind of clothing. I just went to one for my great aunt last week and there were a lot of different styles there. My aunt wore what you described, and my grandmother had on a pale pink sunday suit. I think as long as you look neat and clean, it won't matter too much.

I am sorry for your DH's loss though

 

[Disney Doll]

Perfectly fine. Subdued is the way to go.

 

[GeorgeG]

A funeral isn't much of a fashion event. As long as you're presentable, being there is the real statement.

I don't like funerals and refuse to attend my own...

 

[binny]

thanks all. I hope I didnt sound like I thought it was all about me. I really didnt mean that at all. Like I said I try to avoid them at all costs but this was important to DH so I wanted to make sure I was dressed appropriately.


The church was packed ( several hundred at least) and it was a beautiful service. Its no wonder my husband looked up to him so much he sounded like a wonderful man.

ETA LOL George, I know what you mean!

 

[yoopermom]

I almost posted on this same subject a few weeks ago, after attending the funeral of a very dear friend, huge wake, literally hundreds at the church for a high mass, etc. I'm a thirty-something who doesn't consider herself a prude, but I was a little surprised at how much skin I saw (and not just on teens). I think as long as you wear something subdued, with sleeves, and either nice pants or a skirt, you're fine (altho personally I'm a traditionalist who always wears black/brown/navy). If you show up in a wife beater, cut offs, and flip flops, expect a few looks!
Terri

 

[LadyyRedd]

I think it'd be fine. When my stepfather passed away, I don't think any of us would have cared if friends had shown up in bright orange ballet tutus, it was the fact that they cared enough to come that meant so much to us.

Kimya