Prayers and PD needed...I have to survive a weekend with my parents!

TheOtherVillainess

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The weekend of July 17 and 18, I have to endure my parents. The entire weekend. Staying at MY house.

My parents live an hour away and rarely visit, which is fine with me because I can only tolerate my mother for so long. But this particular weekend, my MIL (who normally babysits for us) is going to be out of town on a scrapping trip (or something) in San Antonio. My SIL will be busy tending her own preemie adopted son, who will have arrived home by then. We have nobody else to babysit for us while DH and I are at work. So my parents gleefully decided they would volunteer. Since we don't have too much of a choice, we decided to let them.

I am really going to need P and PD for that weekend because well..it's my parents. My mother is like a crazed puppy since she started takig Prozac and is very hyper, running around, babbling on at the mouth. I swear I think I preferred the depressed, morose person she used to be to the current one.:rolleyes: At least then I knew what to expect from her. Now...you never know what she's going to do. Any idea that comes into her head she takes off and goes with it. It doesn't matter if it's cleaning or flying a spaceship. Ever since she started taking Prozac she thinks she can do ANYTHING. Oy.

I also wonder where the heck they are going to sleep. We have a teeny house and at the moment, no spare bedroom. All 3 bedrooms are taken up with stuff. One is the master bedroom, where DH and I sleep. The middle bedroom is the nursery and the front bedroom is DH's office. So that means my mother (who, like me, is not tiny by any stretch of the imagination)is probably going to end up sleeping on The Short Couch. My stepdad who is taller than my mother by a good 6-7 inches will probably end up on The Long Couch, since he needs more leg room than my mother. But they are only couches. I'm not sure how comfortable they'll be sleeping on those couches for two nights (Fri nite and Sat nite..leaving on Sun evening).

We also don't have cable..any more. And as anybody who only has an antenna knows, there's not much on TV on the weekends during the day. Same goes for weekdays, but that's another rant altogether. :) We do have a VCR and a DVD player, but my parents who are extremely backwards technologically, probably won't be able to figure out how to make them work with our TV. It's not difficult, but then again..my mother has trouble with any electronic device with a menu and more than 4 or 5 buttons. I am counting on her to not be able to figure out how to work the DVD player so that hopefully, she won't ruin any of my DVDs. Esp the ones I really like, like the sp. ed. Beauty a nd the Beast or my newly acquired sp. ed. Lion King. :)

I am also hoping my mother who tends to become extremely exurberant sometimes doesn't hurt my son in the process. I have this insane fear my mother will do someting crazy, like shake him or whatever because she's so happy to be babysitting her grandson. I love my mother, but sometimes she scares me.

So please...in the next couple of weeks until the big weekend, please send me prayers and pixie dust. I'm gonna need it if I'm going to keep from strangling my mother by the time this whole thing is over with. :)

TOV
 
Well, if these people who are trying to do you a favor are creating this much annoyance and hassle for oyu, then perhaps you should call in sick to work that weekend and take care of your own kids.
 
Prayers and pixie dust coming your way!!
 
Oh believe me I'd love to but I can't unless I have a dr's note. I love my parents but I just cannot fathom dealing with them for an entire weekend. Even if I am working most of the time. I'm already taking time off on July 14 and 15 because MIL has jury duty that week.

They are doing it because they love us and they want to help. And I know this. But there is a reason I live an hour away from my mother. She would run my life if I lived any closer. I'm sure she'll have plenty to say about my parenting skills and she'll bug me about not being in church (for like the thousandth time).

I love my mother. I really do. But our personalities are so incredibly different that she drives me up the wall now.

Sometimes, I really do think I miss the old, depressed, morose woman my mother was before Prozac. That I understood. THAT I could deal with, having dealt with it my entire life. But this new person that she is, I just can't deal with. She's too happy. Too perky. Like a cheerleader on speed, only without the cute skirt and athleticism.

TOV
 

It sounds like you are really stressed about this.

if they only live an hour away, couldn't they meet you 1/2 way somewhere before and after work to pick up and drop the baby off?
 
Well, yes. But my parents possess no sense of direction whatsoever and they'd probably end up lost. ;) They've been to our house probably a few dozen times since we moved here in '01 and they STILL get lost trying to find our house. :teeth:

TOV
 
Well if it was me and thy were coming to babysit my child.I would definetly give up my bedroom to them.I always always do that anyway,then my DH and myself take the smaller bed in the spare room.
 
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If we had a smaller bedroom with a bed in it, we'd be glad to do that. But I don't think the two of us will fit in DS's crib. :teeth:

TOV
 
My parents are both deceased. I'd give anything to be able to have them come stay with me for a weekend.:(

Sorry I can't be more sympathetic for you.
 
Oh believe me I'd love to but I can't unless I have a dr's note. I love my parents but I just cannot fathom dealing with them for an entire weekend.

I'd give up the bedroom to my parents and sleep on the floor if need be. Especially if they were doing me a favor.

Of course, if I felt about my mother the way you obviously feel about yours, I'd start interviewing and hire a babysitter for the weekend. There is no way would I let the woman you describe anywhere near my child.

Now, with that being said, I only wish my parents were still here to help when needed. You're very fortunate. I only hope you are able to realize it before it's too late.
 
I'll pray for you if you'll pray for me...that same weekend I'll be at the in-laws' 50th anniversary celebration, which I am sorely dreading.

If I may say so, it sounds like your life includes asking lots of relatives for favors. Maybe you would be less stressed in general if you could figure out a better arrangement.
 
TBH..our relationship has gotten a little better since I got married. I think my parents actually appreciate now all the stuff I did for them when I lived at home growing up. I did all the cooking, cleaning, watching and practically raising my sister and baby brother. It would infuriate my mother no end when my brother would wake up in the middle of the night with a bad dream and run straight to me and my sister instead of her to her and Dad. Oh well..can't change the past.

And I'm going to talk to DH about finding another babysitter for that weekend. I really am. I was horrified when he told me my parents wanted to babysit but at that particular moment, I couldn't come up with any other ideas.

TOV
 
missypie--actually DMIL said if we didnt' let her babysit DS while we worked, she'd kill us. :teeth: And tbh, I'd rather have him over at her house than in daycare. Daycares are so full of nasty germs! :crazy2:

TOV
 














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