Prayers and advice needed! My SIL's father committed suicide tonight

[triplefigs]

My mom just called me to let me know. We are all in shock and devastated. Her dad shot himself while my brother and I were on the phone talking about my b'day. My brother found out as soon as we hung up. I did speak with my brother a little while ago, and he kept saying how much he needed me there. I will be flying out for the funeral as soon as arrangements are made.

Any advice on what to say to my SIL and her mom? I am just so heartbroken for them. My SIL is only 28 years old.

Thank you for keeping them in your prayers.

 

[luvdzne]

That is so sad! I'm sorry I don't really have any advice but sending prayers your way!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

It's OK to say you don't know what to say, but that you're there to listen and help anytime, any way, etc. This happened in a friend's family also, recently. So sad. Prayers going out to your family.

 

[Octoberbeauty]

No advice, but many hugs!! I'm so sorry this has happened.

 

[Kim in TN]

Sending prayers to you and your family. I'll bet you won't have to say anything, just being there for a hug and a shoulder to cry/lean on will mean a lot. Really what can you say besides how sorry you are for their loss.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[poohandwendy]

Oh my, how horrible! I think I would just say "I don't know what to say but my heart is breaking for you. Please let me know if there is anything, big or small, I can help you with."

Prayers sent out for you and all involved at this very difficult time. It is so hard to understand why someone would do this. I guess there are no answers, only that their inner pain was more than they felt they could handle. So sad.

 

[southernbella]

Lots of sympathy & . Just be there for your family & listen. Sometimes that's the best thing to do. My heart goes out to you & your family. Sbella

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Hugs and prayers - just be there, hun, just be there.................

 

[beckmrk04]

I wish I had good advice, but I don't. I'm so sorry. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

 

[escape]

From someone who has been in their shoes, just being there for them will mean a great deal. Many emotions will come in to play and all you can really do is offer your support and comfort, especially when the dust starts to settle a few weeks later.

My thoughts and prayers go out to your SIL and family during this difficult time.

 

[raammartin]

My mom just called me to let me know. We are all in shock and devastated. Her dad shot himself while my brother and I were on the phone talking about my b'day. My brother found out as soon as we hung up. I did speak with my brother a little while ago, and he kept saying how much he needed me there. I will be flying out for the funeral as soon as arrangements are made.

Any advice on what to say to my SIL and her mom? I am just so heartbroken for them. My SIL is only 28 years old.

Thank you for keeping them in your prayers.

Wow. Prayers to you all during this hard time.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Having survived a suicide in my family just being there without saying anything is such a blessing. Telling your SIL that there isn't any words will be a comfort.

 

[bengalbelle]

Denise, I'm so sorry. I'm sure just you being there with them will be a great comfort. I'm so sorry this happened.

 

[LauraR]

I know this must seem like a nightmare. My sympathy and good wishes go out to your SIL and the entire family. There's really not much you can say in a situation like this, but your love and caring will be a comfort to your SIL and her mom and your brother. I'm so sorry.

 

[nliedel]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

Advice on what to say. I have been through some great loss in my life, a son, my mother, and honestly the best things ever said to me where, "I don't know what to say, but I love you and I am here to listen." and then step back and do that. If they don't say anything don't say anything.

There will be sadness and anger and then guilt over the anger and a wish that they had stopped it. Just let them hurt, make sure they eat, smile when they need to laugh because they will, and sometimes when you least expect it. Help them celebrate the loss of life without judgement over the suicide. They will do that on their own and people will say things, well they think they are helping but death brings a lot of judgemental words. No one means to hurt but people will try to make sense of it and it comes out sometimes so wrong.

Again my deepest and most heartfelt sympathy.

 

[Dan Murphy]

So very sorry, Denise. You all will be in my prayers.

 

[triplefigs]

Thank you all for the kind words, prayers, support, and advice. I will take it all to heart. I would think the funeral will be on Friday. Hopefully my DH can come with me to offer his support to my brother and SIL (they are the Godparents to our triplets, and we are all very close).

Thank you again.

 

[MzDiz]

What a tragic thing. I'm so sorry.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

I am so sorry may God bless you and your family .