got2luvtink
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I just read a post by chaospearl in which she wrote about people with "invisible disabilities" She wrote about how rude people can be when they don't have an obvious disability. Her experience at Disney was astonishingly cruel. I have not that kind of experience personally, as she is someone who uses a ECV. However, I do have children with disabilities, and they wear their disabilities on the inside(as opposed to those who wear theirs on the outside.) So, I can absolutely relate to chaospearl's thread. I find in amazing how intolerant some people can be. I've had parents, grannies, cashier's, bank employees, nurses, and others who have come over to my children to try and disapline them. Yes, just bypass me or my husband and try and tell them what to do. I'm writing an example of an experience we had down below, skip it if you want to move on, and I know that there will be spelling errors in this post, please excuse them, as I think the message is more important then the spelling. Thanks 
(For example, I was in the bank with my son when he was 4, I had to take him in because my husband didn't get off of work till the bank closed, and I needed to handle some business inside. My son was talking about Spiderman rather loudly,while we were in line. He was totally oblivious to his surroundings, but I kept reminding him to use his quiet voice when we are inside. There was a lady about 3 people behind up who had Tourette's. about every minute or so she would le out this loud sort of yelping, hiccup sound. It kind of startled me at first, but when I saw that it was coming from this lady, I flashed her a quick smile, and kept attending to my son. So after about five minutes waiting in line, one of the bank employees comes over and tells my son, loudly so everyone can hear, YOU NEED TO BE QUIET. THIS IS A BANK. Needless to say, I was seething.
, but I was also embarresed, and at a loss for words, as this was the first time anything like that happened, and I was trying to figure out what was the right response in that situation.(I wanted to model, good behavior in front of my son, but my gut instinct was to pounce on her 
) BTW, no one ever said a word to the woman with Tourette's, AND THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE, but it brings home my point about the disparity between the way that people with obvious disabilities, and those with "invisible" ones get treated.)
So anyway, chaospearl joked that when asked, "Why do you need an ECV," or "you don't look like you have a disability," or "What's wrong with you?" She responds, "I have a highly specific and debilitating allergy to rudeness, and it makes my knees and ankles swell up so that I can't walk..."
I LOVE IT!
If anyone else has any quips, that could be used in these situations, please post them here. Thanks
(For example, I was in the bank with my son when he was 4, I had to take him in because my husband didn't get off of work till the bank closed, and I needed to handle some business inside. My son was talking about Spiderman rather loudly,while we were in line. He was totally oblivious to his surroundings, but I kept reminding him to use his quiet voice when we are inside. There was a lady about 3 people behind up who had Tourette's. about every minute or so she would le out this loud sort of yelping, hiccup sound. It kind of startled me at first, but when I saw that it was coming from this lady, I flashed her a quick smile, and kept attending to my son. So after about five minutes waiting in line, one of the bank employees comes over and tells my son, loudly so everyone can hear, YOU NEED TO BE QUIET. THIS IS A BANK. Needless to say, I was seething.
, but I was also embarresed, and at a loss for words, as this was the first time anything like that happened, and I was trying to figure out what was the right response in that situation.(I wanted to model, good behavior in front of my son, but my gut instinct was to pounce on her ) BTW, no one ever said a word to the woman with Tourette's, AND THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE, but it brings home my point about the disparity between the way that people with obvious disabilities, and those with "invisible" ones get treated.)So anyway, chaospearl joked that when asked, "Why do you need an ECV," or "you don't look like you have a disability," or "What's wrong with you?" She responds, "I have a highly specific and debilitating allergy to rudeness, and it makes my knees and ankles swell up so that I can't walk..."
I LOVE IT!
If anyone else has any quips, that could be used in these situations, please post them here. Thanks
Love all the ones everyone here has come up with! They're brilliant!
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to all who have had to endure nasty comments.
I must say, I have been cracking up the whole time. 
I have been laughing so loud, my kids keep looking over at me. Thanks guys, for all the posts. You really have made my afternoon
