You can have both sets of parents...you just have to let them know...they understand that sometimes the parents split the bill....but they are trying to limit the extra folks (little bro, aunt sue, your MOH) The whole to many chiefs in the kitchen....basically everyone on the contract is invited....
We actually were in there once and a party of six parents and the bride and groom were squeezed into one room...No one in that group looked happy...but i think the issues went further then the wedding....
Only DH and I went….as the wedding was our show and we were footing the bill….no input needed but thanks mom