My ds is almost 10 and we have been trading for about 3 years. He is ASD amongst other things. I can tell you pin trading has helped in so many ways with his social skills that I can't even tell you. His specialists actually contribute how well he is doing back to many things we experience during our
disney vacations.
I started by buying a lot of pins (over 100) when the
disney store decided to stop carrying them and was selling them under $1. Also got lanyards at that time for $4, with 4 pins on them. Some lanyards are green some are black. The green lanyards hold pins that are to trade the black is for our "keepers". (we have since gotten so many we are into the large pin albums, but still use the green lanyards for traders). The first time before we left home we got all the traders on the lanyards (we took 6 with 10 pins each), we also took 3 empty black ones.
Before we left home we practiced a dialogue and had many mock pin trading sessions. The only rules were to remember our manners and only trade with cm's. The rule for me was that I let him trade whatever pin he wanted FOR whatever pin he wanted.
Together we decided the traders and because they were on the green lanyard he had no issue wuth letting them go...the green lanyard was for trading after all!!!
The dialogue was simple...excuse me, may I please see your pins?...if there was something he wanted he was to say "may i trade for "blank" pin?...he would then offer his trade and had to end with Thank You. If he didn't want to make a trade he had to say you have some nice pins...thank you for letting me have a look.
It didn't start perfect....in the beginning I did alot of modelling. I would use the dialogue over and over again each time...we sometimes would do nothing but look at pins for an entire afternoon...eventually he would use the parts of the dialogue he was comfortable with (usually after I made first contact). By the second trip he was following the dialogue and is now a seasoned veteran!!
One day he traded for a COngratulations pin...couldn't figure out why, but had to follow the rule and mind my own business!!! He said it was so if he saw someone celebrating he was going to give it to them...he did that afternoon to the couple picked to be sang to at beauty and the beast...he walked up to them on his own and offered his pin. Another day he noticed a little girl in a wheel chair with just 4 pins on her lanyard...he asked if she was just starting and gave her one of his pins. He was looking through the trade book at the pin station in AK and found a pin he really wanted....there was a little boy in line behind him crying because that was the one he wanted...ds gave him the pin AFTER he traded for it and refused to take a trade for it. He has been caught doing these random acts by cm's and has received a number of special pins over the years.
At this point he has narrowed it down to looking for Mickey and lilo and stitch pins....he completely does the trade on his own and ALWAYS remembers his manners and follows the dialogue.
Pin Trading can be an excellent way to help our kids with a valuable social skill.
Boy did I rant...can you tell how proud I am of the best kid in the entire world!!!