People who deliberately try to hurt others...

[Robinrs]

... I just pity.

I feel sad when I see words that were meant to hurt someone. Why, because I used to use them myself and LOVED to see the result.

Now when I see people doing it especially here I know what it's like, and I just pity them.

I've grown to know that people have a right to their own opinion and I like myself enough to let them have it. I also realize that someday these people will have to experience enough pain to get to that point, also.

So don't hate them, don't resent them, and most of all don't validate by posting to them. Just feel sorry for someone who is that miserable.

Sorry, I just felt the need to say this today.

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[dianeschlicht]

Did something special bring this on?

 

[Dan Murphy]

Very true, Robin. My solution over time here has been to ignore these people (thankfully very few there have been). Eventually they leave, if not completely, then for the most part, or get booted as being unwelcome. Good advice there.

 

[powellrj]

very good advise. I had read the thread yesterday when it first started and didn't reply because you could see where it was going. Sometimes people amaze me. I guess thats the good thing about such a large community is you get a little taste of what others think both good and bad.

 

[Serena]

very true Robin.

 

[barbeml]

I agree. I thought we were trying to share thoughts on how to deal with a trend more and more of us are affected by (and kids suffer the worst), when someone just had to make those stunningly vicious remarks.

I tried to ignore her. She must have some serious issues, so I feel sorry for her too.

Have a great day!

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by Robinrs
So don't hate them, don't resent them, and most of all don't validate by posting to them. Just feel sorry for someone who is that miserable.

A friend of mine says all the time that if you let yourself hate someone, you're giving them the power over you that they so desperately crave to have. Don't let them have that power, pity them instead for having such low self-esteem that they have to hurt someone to make themselves feel better about themselves.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

Thank you for posting this. It's a good reminder.

I just read something else this morning that just made me ill. It's very sad.

 

[airhead]

...Some people just have a "sour" outlook on everything. I don't feel sorry for them,I avoid them. Bad vibes.Really,who cares what they think?? Be happy! Whether you're chubby or skinny,life is too short to let someone (from the internet) get you down on yourself!
Hey,did ya ever think that this person could be exactly what they say disgusts them.......

 

[JoNo]

It's amazing how different people will be on the internet. I'm sad for those people. I am who I am and that's it. Others try & hide behind a facade(sp?) that they create yet would never be in real life. Other people are just mean.

 

[Microcell]

I have really subscribed to Dr. Laura's credo that you cannot allow yourself to be around toxic people, sometimes to my own pain (my sisters put up with verbally and emotionally abusive father and step mother, so I look like the black sheep who just won't forgive past mistakes that no one apologised for btw) but I feel so much better when I look in the mirror that I stand up for myself and do not allow the bad treatment. It is hard- I didn't even see my sisters their last trip here because they were so involved with destructo parents agenda, there was no room for me because I will not be in the same room with them. It is worth it overall because I am teaching my kids a valuable lesson. There is forgiveness, but I can't forgive when they don't think what they did was wrong, and make no mistake, it was. Dr laura also says that you have to cut the toxic people out of your life when it is apparent that the destructiveness will not stop, so you do have to put up with mildly annoying! Darn it.

 

[cati]

How true you are Robin

Everyone have a great day.

 

[disneydragon]

I hope I don't come across in my posts as the kind of person who enjoys hurting others' feelings.

 

[ead79]

Robin, you are a wise woman indeed. I admit that they still make me angry (ok, furious actually), but I refuse to stoop to their level. I choose to be judged by the content of my character, not the size of my pants.

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't think I read the post that caused your distress robin, but I agree with your philosphy. I try to ignore those who are intentionally hurtful, since it is obvious they have bigger issues at play than I will ever solve.

 

[Brer_Papa]

RobinRS....where i come from...we call what you said a "WOW"...words of wisdom...excellent post...

 

[suzannen]

Robin,
Your post is a good reminder that sometimes words can be the most hurtful thing of all. Answering some of these things often only seems to escalate and then drags us down as well. It's sad and a little discouraging to find it here in a board about the "happiest places."

 

[tiggersmom2]

I think everyone should think twice before they type something. I would never intentionally hurt somebody and I hate to see someone being bashed, even if they do "deserve" it.

 

[Duchie]

How right you are!

I was so very upset by the negativity and downright hostility. The post bothered me deeply - how can people be so mean? Whatever their reason, I just don't understand.

I'm moving on to the more upbeat posts! This particular Spring day is waaaaaaay too beautiful to be upset!

Happy Spring, everyone!

 

[Goofball]

Very nicely put, Robin. I am totally taking your word for it that you were ever that way, because I sure can't imagine it! It's been the attitudes from these types of people that have just about chased me from this board for months now; nothing was ever directed at me, but I sure got sick of seeing it. I think I'll just try to have a duckier back now.