At least part of what we will be doing is asking the school to go peanut-free.
Re-read the post. I did not say that I was planning to ask or demand anything. I was asking if it had been done anywehere else, so that I could read on the actions, their effects, and learn from their experience.
What I want is to find a way to avoid having him branded and tagged for the public to comment on. He has been called "Mr. Peanut" by a "allegedly" adult teacher. I don't think that we normally aaddress people as "Mr. Cancer" or "Miss Cerebral Palsey" because we don't demand that they advertise their health condition in order to be allowed in the room.
I am trying to find a common ground, not give orders.
Edit: OK, time to correct myself. We want to know if peanut-free schools are even possible, much less effective. We are trying to find out if it has been done, and if it has, what was the result. If it was effective and there were no civil wars over it, it would be worth asking about. If it didn't have an effect on the situation then it's not a battle to pick.
Sorry, my original post didn't make that clear.
As I stated in my earlier post, I don't have a dog in this fight, my youngest in HS now, and we never had to deal with this from a non allergic family.
I was just trying to point out to you from your original post, which I coppied above, that you are infact asking people to conform to your son's restrictions because part of what your going to do is request the school go peanut free.
My only reason for pointing this out, is that you should not be shocked when others disagree with you when your attempting to put restrictions on them and what their children can and can not do.
Everyone has their own crosses to bear with their children, there are no perfect ones, just as there are no perfect parents, everyone is just trying to do what they think is in the best interest of their kids and families. If those things conflict, then it is going to create striff. If you choose to go down that path, then you should just be prepared.
To the part I bolded, the teacher probably could have handled it better, but in the cases you site, others knowing about the condition, doesn't really effect the person with the condition, in your son's case isn't it better if his clasemates also know of his condition so that they can also be on their guard? If I knew your son had a peanut alergy, I wouldn't eat my resses when I was standing there talking to him, if I didn't know, how would I know not to?