Parents who don't control their kids

[Sir Ron]

Okay, what's a polite way of reminding parents to watch their kids? We are inviting children to our wedding. However, we realized that a few kids are holy terrors. Without de-inviting their kid (which would be awkward since the wedding is at Disney World!), how would you handle it?

I honestly don't want to be the authority figure at my own wedding but i don't want any kids ruining parts of it because their parents would rather have fun than be parents!

Any help appreciated.

 

[PrincessBride07]

have you ever thought of having a kids party? You can arrange for kids to have there own party during your wedding/reception. You wedding would become adults only though.

 

[Belle1981]

I really think that you need to have an enforcer of good behaviour. We are back and forth about inviting the kids. Let's be realistic here some parents have NO CONTROL of their kids. Appoint someone else who will make sure the kids behave. If we are going to have kids, my aunt is a tyrant so we thought who better than her to control the little monsters. Again I do not dislike children just the ones in my family! LOL

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

heres a thought

some girls have had a kid thing planned while the wedding was going on where they are whisked away by a cm & kept busy doing fun stuff....that might be something you could consider

I know exactly how you feel......i had a bday party at my house for dd & i was the "warden" cause there were some brats terrorizing the littler ones...i yelled at them & i think cause I yelled at them & it wasnt their parents they knew i was serious & stopped....it was kinda funny cause if they made eye contact with me they immediatley stopped whatever they were doing even if it wasnt trouble........its all about the look

If the above idea is not what you want then Id try to come up woth something like "because of the area the wedding is in, Disney will not allow kids running around & screaming, as to not disrupt guests or ruin grounds"???
you never know it could work

good luck

 

[RangerPooh]

You could always suggest to parent withs kids that they check out the kids clubs at the resorts or Kids Night Out who will come to their room and watch the kids for them so as not to create a "situation" while at the wedding. Otherwise see about the kids party as suggested in previous posts. Either see if someone from Disney can watch the kids or appoint babysitters. Maybe someone from Kids Night Out (or similar agency) can watch the kids here? Just remember that if you have a separate kids party that all kids under a certain age would need to attend otherwise there'll be isues created as to why XXX is at the party and YYY isn't.

 

[AbbyPan]

Oh boy, I LOVE children, but I can honestly relate to this.

My aunt and uncle are true Space Cadets and they have 4 kids. (that's not to mention the other kids who will attend)NOOOOOOOO

So, my younger sister, who happens to be 13, and who is desperare for a task to handle at the wedding, has been recruited to entertain them, since I don't think we can do the separate kids party.
Once we are down in Orlando, we are buying crayons, gummy worms, coloring books, and some other crafts at downtown disney, and we plan to put a bucket of each item on every table where the children will sit. (we have a beach themed wedding so the buckets will tie in nicely)

I also spoke to my mom, whom we like to call "the ENFORCER" (she really is), and asked her to give the kids a good stern look , if they start acting up.

Not sure who your "enforcer" will be, but I think its a good idea to chose one -because parents get used to their tyrannical kids and they forget about how annoying this could be for others.
...really I love kids!
Keep us posted!

 

[michloo]

My wedding was March 10th and we had a total of 10 kids ranging in age from 1 to 11 attend. They were all great. I made a separate kids table and had toys and fun stuff at the table. They got there own meals and a special surprise dessert of worms in dirt. When everyone was on the dance floor they joined in. They were very cute. I have some wonderful pictures of them enjoying themselves and playing.

My aunts 7 year old has ADD and is on medication for it. At first I thought he would be a problem, but there were things for him to do and he liked dancing with everyone.

Now I know all kids are different, but with some planning, I think kids can add so much to the the fun and memories.

 

[englishrose]

If i had my way i would just invite the kids to my wedding and NOT the adults, i have been to alot of wedding and almost everyone i've been to the children have acted a lot better than the adult's. i've never heard a child say "my god what is she wearing, call that a dress," and then go over to her and say" what a lovely dress" ..... give me kids anyday.

 

[DVCGirl49]

We are planning a seperate children's party upstairs from the main reception. We will be sending the kids their own invitations for the event....we don't want to say that the kids HAVE to go to the kid party, but we figured if we make it a really fun KID thing that they will WANT to go to.

 

[englishrose]

I think that is a great idea for the kids most children like to be away from there mum's and dad's and having there own party is much better.

 

[j_lehr]

I am getting married at home (and honeymooning at Disney) but I know how you feel on this situation. There are A LOT of kids between my fiancee's family, my family and our friends children so we finally decided we would only invite our immediate neices and nephews (and my daugter). That is a total of 9 kids between the ages of 4 and 16. I just didn't want my reception to turn into a circus.

I am not worried about the older kids at all but a little worreid about the pre-teen boys...I am sure they will be bored but their parents will control them.

For the little ones, I bought Disney color wonder kits for them (and I plan to buy the girls bride barbies, not sure about the boys yet). I figured with the color wonder I wouldn't have to worry about them writing on the tableclothes, their clothes, their skin or each other. =)

Good Luck with all of your planning...

 

[kidzmom3]

there is no polite way to tell parents that they need to watch their kids. Either they already do, and your suggestion that they do not would upset them. Or, they don't, and nothing you say to them will make them. Just my experience as a mom and dealing with all different families.

beware, this could also lead to hard feelings

Also, beware of the "enforcer" idea, unless its someone everyone would be okay with. I know many parents who feel that no one should correct or say anything to their precious bundles.