Parent Poll: Show me yours- touch it!

[sunnyday123]

OP here... the boy is entering high school. So I could have said just out of middle but either way its not OK. These people and one other family have an odd relationship. They let all thier kids have a giant sleepover together... all sexes all ages (5 thru 13). They've known each other less than one year. I had a problem with that all along but it was none of my business as my kids were NEVER allowed to participate in it... but this is just terrible that one family of kids comes along and causes all this havoc in a neighborhood. I was told by the parents who are ok with the giant sleepover that this new showing/touching is normal behavior... which is why that option is on the poll. Thought maybe I was missing some marbles!!!

I'm in shock over what is going on, and that you posted a poll on it, honestly. There is no way EVER my kid would go back there, and I would be making a phone call like 10 minutes ago. 10 is old enough to know better, and the 13 year old would be running for his life.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

At 13, that kind of behavior can be a sign of past sexual abuse, particularly if he is the one pulling in the younger kids. Not saying that it did happen, just that this behavior indicates that it is a possibility. You can bet your boots that my kids would no longer be allowed over there and I would be calling the police/DFS. The 13 year old's behavior in particular could even be considered sexual harassment toward the other children, particularly if he is having them touch or is attempting to touch them. He is of the age where he could be charged as an adult fro this and it needs to stop right now before he becomes labelled as a sexual offender. Something is very amiss in that home, and there needs to be an investigation.

 

[IDoDis]

My son's birthday is in October. He was 13 when he started high school. He's 17 now and will enter college this August.

Out here there's a very strict policy with the public schools that children have to be five years old on or before August 30th of that school year. I had a friend who had twins that were born 5 min apart -- one a couple of minutes before midnight on August 30th and one a few minutes after midnight on August 31st. My friend had been a teacher with the district for a few years prior to having kids. The district denied her request to let her twins both start kindergarten because one twin was still 4 years old for one more day. Imagine having twins in 2 different grades. That's just crazy! Needless to say, she home schooled them until they reached middle school age, and then enrolled them both in the same grade when they finally started going to a public school.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Out here there's a very strict policy with the public schools that children have to be five years old on or before August 30th of that school year. I had a friend who had twins that were born 5 min apart -- one a couple of minutes before midnight on August 30th and one a few minutes after midnight on August 31st. My friend had been a teacher with the district for a few years prior to having kids. The district denied her request to let her twins both start kindergarten because one twin was still 4 years old for one more day. Imagine having twins in 2 different grades. That's just crazy! Needless to say, she home schooled them until they reached middle school age, and then enrolled them both in the same grade when they finally started going to a public school.

Wow 5 minutes.

My son's birthday is October 5. We lived in NC when he started school. At that time the cut off date was October 16. (Now it's sometime in August)

Here they just go by the year you were born in. Any child born in 2004 can attend kindergarten this fall.

A few of the kids my son graduated from high school with won't turn 18 until December.

 

[MrsPete]

I have a 12-year old, and she DEFINITELY knows that's NOT okay. I have to agree with the others who say that the 10 and 13 year old are a big cause for concern, and I would NOT allow my children to play with these kids again.

 

[SandrA9810]

The fact that girls have gotten pregnant at 12 and 13, it's more than a cause for concern. At 13 I'm sure he knows the basics of the birds and bees, even if it's never been fully explained. And most boys start exploring self pleasure around that age. It makes me wonder if he was "showing" off for the younger children.
If it's continued on, he could very well be labeled as a sex offender before high school is over. And I don't think any one wants that.

 

[ireland_nicole]

I'm also incredibly concerned about the eldest being involved. IF a 13 year old is touching a 6 y/o, that is molestation. I once saw my 4 y/o show a friend his and look at hers while they were playing dress up; we quietly explained that those were "private" that boys and girls are made different, but we don't show our private parts to other people. We didn't villify them, but I never saw it happen again. As pp's have said, this kind of curiosity is normal in preschool kids; definitely not normal in tweens and teens.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

For the 6 year old I lean towards its 'ok' as in its just a childhood experiment and thats it, lots of kids at that age or younger do that kinda thing.

The 13 yr old - not ok. Why on earth would a 13 yr old want to see and/or touch a 6 year old????? That is some serious cause for concern!! Two 13 year olds, ok probably not good but I could understand the desire since at that age lots of kids have raging hormones but a 13 yr old with kids as young as 6?!?!?!?! Not good at all

 

[KiminChicago]

I actually had a similar situation happen to us. DS was 10 and DD was 8. When I picked them up from a playdate, my son told me that the two boys they were playing with (also 10 and 8) were undressing and running around in front of my daughter. I called the parents and they were not surprised -- apparently the older boy had done this before with other friends. The dad apologized for not supervising better but that was the last time my kids went to that house. The two boys wanted to come over to our house and play, but I was never comfortable around the older boy, he was always talking about setting fire to our dog (this family now has a dog of their own ).

I also let other parents whose children played with these two boys know what was going on. One family (also with a boy 10 and girl 8) told me that it just part of growing up and didn't seem concerned at all . Another mom told me that when she had picked up her daughter after a playdate with these boys, her daughter was really quiet and didn't want to talk about how the playdate had gone. She figured something similar had happened when her daughter was there.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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