Parade etiquette question

[Genie+]

Communication goes both ways. How hard is it, particularly if the party has small children, for you to say "We plan to stand during the parade" just to be polite. They may have never had people sitting on the curb in front of them suddenly stand so they wouldn't even know it's a possibility.

Sure. We could say something.

It’s just much easier for them because they already know if it matters or not. They only have to ask one question where I’d need to run the spiel several times.

People come and go in the lead-up to showtime, and usually multiple parties that end up with us in their site lines. I don’t want to run the spiel 2, 3, 4+ times each and every time we arrive early. I’d rather just post a sign but honestly, that would look obnoxious to me.

This all started because it was said the people who don’t remain seated need to inform everyone else or else they’re the bad guy. I don’t agree.

 

[MomOTwins]

Sure. We could say something.

It’s just much easier for them because they already know if it matters or not. They only have to ask one question where I’d need to run the spiel several times.

People come and go in the lead-up to showtime, and usually multiple parties that end up with us in their site lines. I don’t want to run the spiel 2, 3, 4+ times each and every time we arrive early. I’d rather just post a sign but honestly, that would look obnoxious to me.

This all started because it was said the people who don’t remain seated need to inform everyone else or else they’re the bad guy. I don’t agree.

I agree with you on one thing--I don't think it makes sense to tell everyone who shows up behind you that you intend to stand. Instead, people should follow the rule Disney has chosen to apply to the situation and announce before shows, which is if you are sitting on the curb--don't wait until the parade starts and everyone has established their spots based on sightlines to stand. If you can sit for 1-2 hrs to stake out a spot, you can suck it up and sit for a 20 minute parade, and if you really can't, find a spot in front of a hedge or a tree or a lamp post where you can alternate between sitting and standing without blocking someone.

 

[Genie+]

Are you seriously arguing right now that your husband is perfectly fine sitting down for an hour long but right when the parade starts all of a sudden his vertebra acts up and he has to stand at that exact time and that timing has absolutely nothing to do with the parade starting.

Like if your husband stood and sat every 5-10 minutes or some other interval like that ok I can get behind your side but your insistence that because of his disability he has the right to stand right as the parade starts after sitting for an hour is just very out of touch

No - you comprehended it that way. Clearly I spoke of him sitting and standing.

So if he happens to be seated for the first 7 minutes after someone arrives behind him, has he already given the impression he will stay seated?

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Communication goes both ways. How hard is it, particularly if the party has small children, for you to say "We plan to stand during the parade" just to be polite. They may have never had people sitting on the curb in front of them suddenly stand so they wouldn't even know it's a possibility.

Exactly why would people expect people sitting to start standing after sitting for an hour. Also now people who need to sit can’t sit on the curb because it’s being blocked by them.

And again - should he not sit lest he give the wrong impression?

This is really sticking the onus where it doesn’t belong.

If people are wondering if another party is going to remain seated - ask. Simple

It is not the responsibility of the party who arrived earlier to alert everybody else. People sitting before a show may sit down - especially because the need to arrive to 30+ minutes in many cases - and they might sit to relieve pressure and then need to stand to relieve pressure too - and they may decide to stand and sit back down 2 more times. You just never know. If having an unobstructed is of utmost importance - plan accordingly.

Why would people ask people sitting if they are planning on standing when they are in the front row. If someone stood up for the entire beauty and the beast right infront of you or any show how would you feel? They got their first so it’s their right?

Does time really matter though? Whether my husband is sitting for 10 minutes or 25 minutes… where is the cutoff where he is no longer allowed to choose to stand?

Read the room a little

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Sure. We could say something.

It’s just much easier for them because they already know if it matters or not. They only have to ask one question where I’d need to run the spiel several times.

People come and go in the lead-up to showtime, and usually multiple parties that end up with us in their site lines. I don’t want to run the spiel 2, 3, 4+ times each and every time we arrive early. I’d rather just post a sign but honestly, that would look obnoxious to me.

This all started because it was said the people who don’t remain seated need to inform everyone else or else they’re the bad guy. I don’t agree.

well yea the spiel has to be said more than once because the people who thought they had a good view were just told you will be standing and blocking the view! Ofc they will likely leave and find another spot that’s the entire point of the spiel

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

I agree with you on one thing--I don't think it makes sense to tell everyone who shows up behind you that you intend to stand. Instead, people should follow the rule Disney has chosen to apply to the situation and announce before shows, which is if you are sitting on the curb--don't wait until the parade starts and everyone has established their spots based on sightlines to stand. If you can sit for 1-2 hrs to stake out a spot, you can suck it up and sit for a 20 minute parade, and if you really can't, find a spot in front of a hedge or a tree or a lamp post where you can alternate between sitting and standing without blocking someone.

Also read the room. If it’s a little kid that’s right behind you offer for them to take the seat and you stand behind them. So many bad situations can be avoided with a bit of social tact

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

No - you comprehended it that way. Clearly I spoke of him sitting and standing.

So if he happens to be seated for the first 7 minutes after someone arrives behind him, has he already given the impression he will stay seated?

It’s a read the room type of situation. Like just make sure you aren’t blocking little kids suddenly. Communicate with people. You are in Disney not you own personal bubble

 

[lovethattink]

Well this isn’t getting anywhere. And getting really close to personal attacks. So I’m closing the thread.