OT -"You're gonna miss this . . ." - Really?

[sk!mom]

You know that country music song?

"You're gonna miss this
You're gonna want this back
You're gonna wish these days
Hadn't gone by so fast
These are some good times
So take a good look around
You may not know it now
But you're gonna miss this."

Let me start by saying that I really like that song. But for the life of me, this morning I can't possibly see how it holds true. My kids are DRIVING ME INSANE!!!! It started at 6:30 this morning, when my DS5 woke me up, asking where the halloween costume catalogue was. He claimed he looked everywhere for it. So out of bed I drag myself to find it - where? RIGHT WHERE I TOLD HIM IT WAS. Then my DD3 got up and started crying (literally) because she couldn't find the outfit she wanted to wear. After she found that outfit, she promptly changed into another outfit, and then put her swimsuit on after that. (I gave up the clothing battle long ago with her. As long as her clothing is weather appropriate she picks what she wants. And God help me she has worn some doozies!) Then she needed her ballet slippers tied. Then she put on flip flops - and then sandals after that. All before 7:30. Meanwhile, containers of markers were getting dropped on the wood steps, and they were begging me to let them paint. (Why oh why didn't I put the paint away after yesterday's crafts?!) And after eating two bowls on Mini-Wheats, my DS saw me eating yogurt and decided he wanted some. I told him that if I opened a container of yogurt for him, he wasn't getting down unless he ate all of it. (I'm trying to teach him about being wasteful.) And so guess what? He's been sitting there for 30 minutes because he doesn't want to eat all the yogurt. This is going to put a real monkey wrench in my plans for the morning. Why did I have to put down that ultimatum?

Thank goodness he starts school tomorrow!!!

Thank you for letting me vent. I know that if anyone can understand my plight it is my fellow Dissers. And I'm sure someday I will miss this - and I try to embrace the insanity when I can. It's just REALLY REALLY hard to do sometimes, you know?

Anyone else in the same boat today?

My kids are 23 and 12 so trust me, while you may never miss this particular chaotic morning, you are going to miss "this." This time when they're precious and still little enough to scoop up in a hug or snuggle in your lap. Still young enough to be satisfied with catalogues, yogurt, and changing clothes.

 

[sunnyday123]

I cannot listen to that song without crying like a little girl...or like Dd did this am. She was grounded for the rest of the week by 7am today. Gotta love the first day of school, it usually goes downhill from here.

I keep her Christmas list from last year as a bookmark. She lists all the toys she wants, and the last thing she said she wants is "her Mommy's forgiveness" for talking mean to her the past year, and that she isn't perfect and can Santa maybe leave a note to me. THEN she says what she wants most from her list is my forgiveness. It kills me everytime I look at it.

 

[jakoky]

ohhhhhh, u will so miss "this"...my oldest dd just started grade 12, one more year and she graduates , my son is in grade 10, and as of tomorrow i will offically have 3 teenagers, my youngest dd will be 13 ...i miss, miss, miss those snuggles and hugs, the whys, the innocent unconditional love...i am going to start crying as i write this....the sleep you lose out on when they are little is nothing to the sleep u lose out on when they are older and u are worried every second when are they out...the issues of when they are young get replaced my the teenager big stuff.....i still get "i love you's" every day and my younger two are huggers...my favourite thing i remember is our friday night "camp outs"...we would throw a mattress on the floor, flip on a movie or the tv, get a bunch of junk food and just hang out ALL evening...Enjoy, although i do remember "those" days you are having, but soon you will be like me and just wishing u could go back, if even for a little while

sharon

 

[Aliceacc]

We waited (not by choice) a LONG time for kids... I was 40 when we adopted my oldest, and my girls were born when I was 42 and 45.

Even though I'm in the midst of the Mommy Wars at present (see my thread about being THAT family at WDW) I know I will miss these days when they're over.

What on earth can possibly compare with snuggling with a tired child? Or having your 5 year old make you a PB&J (with about a pound of jelly) as "breakfast in bed"? Or hearing "Love you Mom" just before your 10 year old drops off to sleep? Or "This was the best day EVER!!" when the surprise you planned for your daughter comes off just right?

I wish there were a way to hold on to these moments for the future. I know I'll miss them greatly.

 

[disneyfreak33]

We're having a semi-rough morning as well. My 2-yr-old is in such a crab-tastic mood this morning.

I so know that feeling...I miss most of it already, my little baby 2 now! sheesh, all that work I did getting her here and she is growing like a weed. STOP IT! She can grow out of the "terrible 2's" but slow down after that please!

 

[RumpleMom]

Aw man , that song gets both DH and I started missing those days. I know the goal is to have the kids move out and be self-sufficient. I would not want it any other way.

Our youngest has moved out of state for her new job, so what do Mom and Dad do to help with that empty nest feeling? Go to Disney World, of course!

 

[crisi]

I miss it - in that I was so tired and stretched out I can't remember half of it and the other half I've blocked from my memory because it was so tramatic.

Seriously, missing it sounds like I regret them growning up - and the alternatives to that are too awful to consider. So, no, I don't miss it. I watch their growing independence with pride and satisfaction.

 

[fortheboys]

Hang in there! I can relate!!! Did he finish that yougrt, or are you still sitting there? We are having one of those days here as well - must be in the air... I have 2 sons, 4 and 2. We promised to take my DS4 to breakfast today to celebrate his 1st day of school (preschool) like we do every year. So, at 7:30, the kids are screaming for food, DS2 does NOT want to wear shoes, and DS4 is insisting that he must eat immediately or he will "melt like a snowball" I was trying to pack a portable breakfast for DS2 becuase we don't bother to order him his own meal at the diner. DS4 wants what I'm packing...OMG!! Hanging on my legs, whining, crying ...UGH! Husband decides he MUST use the bathroom another 20 minutes down the drain...(Did he REALLY need to read the entire sports page while in there! I think not!!!) Still no shoes on the 2YO, and my 4YO wants to make cookies for breakfast and is having a major meltdown becuase I said no. Then the 2YO has a blowout in his diaper - and needs new clothes. All this just to get to the diner? I didn't want to cancel becuse I had to have an omlet this morning! Once at the diner, DS2 dumps the silverware all over the floor, and DS4 inhales a short stack and annouces he is STILL starving, the boys fight over diaper bag toys and empty creamer containers (they like to stack them) Then to the grocery store, where DS2 refused to stay in the buggy and DH ended up taking them to the car so I could pay for groceries in peace....Thank GOD I'm home for now, and my "gruesome twosome" are going down for a nap in 6 minutes. I'm not really sure I'll miss "this" - I'm looking forward to their independence and watching them grow, I can honestly say I've "had it" with the toddler stage! Bring on the big kids!

 

[sunnyday123]

I miss it - in that I was so tired and stretched out I can't remember half of it and the other half I've blocked from my memory because it was so tramatic.

Seriously, missing it sounds like I regret them growning up - and the alternatives to that are too awful to consider. So, no, I don't miss it. I watch their growing independence with pride and satisfaction.

I have no regrets, either. I miss the little girl she was but can't wait to meet the woman she'll be.


hopefully it will be one who earns enough to keep her mother in the style to which she would like to be accustomed.

 

[daleswife]

My DD started school last week....Id say up until that day I was right there with you.....LOL.