How old is she? The younger you are, the less it hurts. I have heard that all my life and apparently it's true. I had mine out at 7 and it wasn't a big deal at all. 2 of my friends had theirs out in college and thought they were dying!! My older son had his out a couple of years ago when he was 9. They told us after we got home from the surgery center, starting the next day to let him eat anything he wanted. The more they eat, the more they slough off the scabs that build in the back of the throat. Kids that don't eat can't get those off, and that causes more pain. It makes a cycle--pain, can't/won't eat, thick scabs--pain, etc. So, the 2nd or 3rd day he ate a burger and did very well with it. It was painful at first, but he did it--he was so hungry. I think the second day he had just popsicles, sprite, jello, stuff like that-- but the meds they gave him kinda gave him a stomach ache, so that was partly why he didn't want much. but, every kid is different. The main thing is to make them keep getting something down---they need to swallow a lot.