OT - The test is positive - Baby #4 on the way.....Update post #87

[jen2207]

I'm just freaking out a little bit. I meticulously planned my first three pregnancies. (took Clomid for ovulation problems) Since I don't typically ovulate at all, and only see "Aunt Flo" 3 or 4 times a year, we thought we'd just go natural and if it happens it happens. Well after 3-1/2 years, I didn't count on it actually happening!!!! I haven't told DH yet. I just needed to see it in writing, since I don't think I can even say it out loud yet. So I'm using this somewhat annonymous site to break the news first. Oh and we leave for disney in 78 days...... I think I'd be 17 weeks......

So for those of you Dis'ers that have had a "surprise" pregnancy - how did you tell your dh?? He is going to be totally shocked. He is a wonderful father and husband so it's not like he'll be mad or anything at all like that. Just that this wasn't exactly planned - not exactly prevented though either. I just kinda thought we were done. Sorry, I'm rambling.....the shock I think.

Any words of encouragement or good stories out there for me??? I could use them.

 

[My2Qtz0205]

First off, congratulations!

Usually the first thing my husband does once he comes home and sits down to relax is sit down with his computer. So for our second pregnancy announcement I took a picture of the pregnancy test (it was digital, so the word "pregnant" would have disappeared by the time he got home), and I added text to the picture. So the text read, "Hey honey, guess what? I'm..." and then the pregnancy test was below it, and it said "pregnant". He was shocked and happy at the same time. It was great.

 

[AmyBWV99]

Congrats! That's so exciting!

 

[bellebuzzntink]

You could get a couple of little baby things, bottle, pacie, bib that says"I love Daddy", some baby shoes, and put it all in a gift bag. When you give it to him, tell him here are some things he'll be needing in May(? is that right?)

Congrats! Our #4 is 6 months old already and I can't believe how the time flies!

 

[jen2207]

We are leaving for a weekend getaway (no kids) tomorrow. I'd love to think of a way to tell him then, but honestly I don't think I could get through one night without telling him!! And I'm still in shock - my brain isn't thinking of creative things yet....

And I did take a second test to be sure.

And a third.

 

[PoohHappens]

Congrats. I have similar history of cycles as you. We stopped thinking about it years ago. Well tomorrow we have been married 16years and I am 26weeks pregnant. I guess those things happen. We have a 7yr old who was adopted, but this is the first time I have ever been pregnant. Lets just say it was more than a surprise. Sorry I don't have a suggestion for the news, mine involved sobbing and he was outside the bathroom when I tested. At the time they were not tears of joy. We are excited but I have other health issues that make this complicated.

 

[adventure_woman]

We are leaving for a weekend getaway (no kids) tomorrow. I'd love to think of a way to tell him then, but honestly I don't think I could get through one night without telling him!! And I'm still in shock - my brain isn't thinking of creative things yet....

And I did take a second test to be sure.

And a third.

First thought - maybe you could just casually mention to him that you don't need to worry about being 'careful' this weekend (not that you were thinking about it before). Or tell him that when you are gone for the weekend you need to do some shopping for new clothes for Disney because they aren't going to fit. He'll ask why and you can tell him that you'll be about 17 weeks so you will probably be showing/having a tummy by then....

 

[justhat]

With my 2nd (and 2nd surprise essentially), I found out right before Christmas. So I wrapped up the test in a little box and had my daughter give it to my husband as a present. You could do the same, tell him you have a surprise for him to 'bring' on the trip and have it be your + test.

 

[surfergirl602]

Congrats!!!!!!!

What I did to announce, is I put the girls in their red sox shirts, and had one made up for me that said: Future Red Sox Fan that had an arrow pointing down towards my belly. It took a while for those to figure it out, so I put a little disclaimer in the corner: in small print, in case you haven't figured it out and you can read this, we're expecting a new sox fan in March! ( we got an even bigger surprise, she was born a month early, too!)

 

[reelmom]

Congratulations! I don't have any ideas but I want to find out what happens.

 

[jennc27]

Very happy for you. Remembering when I took my tests, I could not wait, just ran out and told my husband. Always wanted to do a big surprise, but it never happen. Good Luck!

 

[SLK1]

Our fourth was a shocker too! DH was thrilled; I was in a state of denial. I don't remember how I told him, but afterwards, I thought it would have been cute to buy a picture frame with four frames in it, put a picture of each child in the frames, then for the fourth frame do question mark or a picture of the test or something like that. Good luck!!! And really, four is no big change from three, and you'll have lots of help!! Congratulations!!!

 

[SLK1]

I might mention too that it was REALLY fun to tell our three kids they were getting a sibling. My DD13 (at the time she was 10) cried - tears of joy of course! They were VERY involved in the whole pregnancy and got very excited over it. And they adore their baby sister. Most of the time!!

 

[jen2207]

Well, I couldn't not tell him tonight. All the cute ideas really were so sweet, but I'm still a bit "freaked out" and I could barely even say the word out loud!! So I didn't do anything terribly sweet or romantic to break it to him. Sorry......

So after the kids were tucked in bed and we were done picking up the house - he was just sitting down in the living room to relax. I brought him one of his favorite "cold drinks". He says, "oh I don't want that". and I say, "Yes, yes, you do. You'll need it."

He looks at me with this terrified look like something terrible has happened - like wrecked the car or something! And I just said, "I'm pregnant."

He took a second, smiled and said, "Really?? That's soooo great!!" Followed by a few stunned "Awesome", "Wow" and my favorite "Cool"! All of the sudden we are reduced to high-school slang. Well what was slang when we were in high school I guess.

So he's so happy and excited, whereas I felt like I needed to say, "sorry". I know it wasn't in the plans, and I just didn't think it would happen, so I didn't really prepare for this.

So bottom-line - I'm still a bit freaked and he's excited and thrilled! Me too.....just still shocked too. Mostly shocked.

Thank you to everyone for your kind and supportive thoughts and comments today - it's one for the calendar that's for sure!!!! Now let's have a nice uneventful pregnancy and healthy baby. (1 baby please, 1 at a time at least......please)

 

[pigget74]

COngratulations. I had to come to terms with number 3 and it took a long time. WE had two already and lost one as well. After trying again and not happening we decided that we were ok with 2. Well 3 years later when the older ones were 10 and 7 we found out about the newest one. It was a complete shock as we were trying not to have one. He is a wonderful blessing and brings a lot of joy to our house. So much that we decided to have 1 more--to give him somone to grow up with considering the ages. So my oldest is about to turn 15 and my youngest is about to turn 2 and I love every minute of it. With number 4 we were planning a disney cruise so I had ticker and I knew that DH would get on the Dis and look at the ticker. So I made a Baby Ticker and added it to my page. I had the screen already up knowing he would look. He was very excited.

 

[Macduffy]

Sometimes I secretly wish my Mirena would fail and i would have a surprise pregnancy LOL!

There are so many cute ways to tell friends/family and Daddy about the new addition - Have fun with it!!!!!!!!!

 

[Anonomom]

I don't have any suggestions, but I wanted to say "congratulations!" What's happening to you is something I dream/wish would happen to me. We had to do IVF to have our second daughter, and chances of us getting pregnant naturally again are tiny. So I'm always glad to see someone who's beat the odds.

 

[njmom47]

Congrats to you!
I also had a surprise pregnancy (after 2 daughters and having my
tubes tied before a divorce).and if my memory serves me correctly,
I left the pregnancy test on the counter in the bathroom and told him he should go in there and take a look....

 

[liznboys]

...He took a second, smiled and said, "Really?? That's soooo great!!" Followed by a few stunned "Awesome", "Wow" and my favorite "Cool"! All of the sudden we are reduced to high-school slang. Well what was slang when we were in high school I guess.
...

You cracked me up with that part...

Anyway, congratulations!!! Welcome to the world of 4 kids! It will be a bit hectic sometimes, but it is nice having 4. I like the even numberedness of it all. lol I see you have a 9 yr old son, as do I. Mine would be excited and so interested if we had another baby. (We are NOT, we are very much done. lol) But maybe yours will really enjoy this whole process!

You'll be going to WDW at a good time in your pregnancy too! I was about 20 weeks along with our 4th when we went to WDW in early December 2005. It was a great trip and I wasn't nearly as tired as I thought I'd be.

Have a wonderful pregancy!

 

[worm761]

First....Congratulations!!!!
I am horrible! I told him in the worst way possible on the worst day too!! I have a DS that just turned 13 years old in May. We had a Disney trip at the end of May. On April 1st, yep April fools day, I decided that taking a pregnancy test may be a good idea since I was late. It was positive. Now, I was on BC. But I was on BC with DS too. DBF was told by three different doctors that he could not have children. His ex-wife and him had never had kids and they wanted them. Anyway, we were under the impression that my DS would be the only child we would have. So I was shocked to say the least. He called me on his way home from work and we had a houseful so I told him on the phone. I said, "We need to have a conversation." He says, about what? I responded with I pee'd on a stick and it had two pink lines. Dead silence! He was in total shock too. Now we are 21 weeks into what is turning out to be a rather healthy pregnancy! Our little Olivia is due on December 2nd!!!