OT - Son's Birthday party

[rjan67]

Ok, I know that a Mom's gotta do what a Mom's gotta do....but...my son had invited 6 boys to a sleepover for his birthday party with all accepting. My son is so excited!However, yesterday I get a call from one of the Mom's saying that her son had been misbehaving and had to have some consequences, so he couldn't come to the party. Well, like I said, I'm a Mom of 3...I get it. But all I can say is my son is crushed. He was/is so excited. I just want to say that if you ever make that call, really think carefully because it affects the birthday child too. That's all. Done venting now.

 

[Mickey1Fan]

Those are severe consequences. I hope the punishment fit the crime.

I am so sorry for your little boy. Birthday sleep overs are so important to them. I hope the kids have a great time!

 

[LSmith]

Well I know I am probably in the minority here but I personally HATE sleepovers and rarely let my kid go to one and then only if I know the parent extremely well and if it's my kid only (not a group). I just don't see a need for it.

Six boys is usually chaotic. My kids are used to a very peaceful environment at home.

When they do come home from a sleepover I find that they are a complete write off the next day. Tired and cranky.

Remember though as with any party there are going to be kids declining for a number of reasons. That's just life.

 

[mackeyapp]

I can relate completely! My son is also having a Birthday Party/Sleepover this evening and he is so excited. He too spoke to me last night about one child who isn't allowed to sleep over but thankfully can still come for a few hours of fun. He does understand as do I that some parents aren't for sleepovers. DH and I are the first to say that we prefer to have our two boys under the same roof as us when it's time for bed but we do make exceptions too. I feel bad for your DS since I know that like our boys this is a Big Deal to them. Wouldn't it be nice if Mom reconsiders and allows him to come.

Have a great time. I believe that they grow up "So Fast" so we try hard not to 'Sweat the little things". Yes they may come home from a party tired and cranky as we have witnessed first hand, however it's not the end of the world!! They will be grown up and gone before we know it. Treasure every moment.

 

[Hug the Mouse]

Well I know I am probably in the minority here but I personally HATE sleepovers and rarely let my kid go to one and then only if I know the parent extremely well and if it's my kid only (not a group). I just don't see a need for it.

Six boys is usually chaotic. My kids are used to a very peaceful environment at home.

When they do come home from a sleepover I find that they are a complete write off the next day. Tired and cranky.

Remember though as with any party there are going to be kids declining for a number of reasons. That's just life.

I'm with you...there is often very little "SLEEP" during a sleepover.

 

[hockeymom3]

We had this situation once too, where parents confirmed that their daughter could come, and then the night before GOT THE 6 YEAR OLD to call and say she couldn't come to the party.

Not only does it punish the child, it also punishes the birthday child by having one less friend there - not to mention the parents who host the party if you have to pay for things in advance - even a loot bag costs me lots of $$.

Anyway, to add insult to injury the kid who wasn't allowed to the party ended up being allowed to play outside at a neighbours during the party which I happened to mention to the mom when she brought over a gift. I think she wanted to crawl under a rock, and I was kinda happy about it! LOL

As for sleep-overs - I used to think I would only let my kids go to sleepovers if we were GREAT friends with the parents, but my 6 y/o son went to one about a month ago (we met the mom once at my sons party) and it was great. There were 8 boys plus their other 2 kids and he had a blast. I think it was a great experience for them!! I remember going to sleepovers and not sleeping (they did sleep by 11 pm) and I think its part of life.

 

[rjan67]

I know that kids decline for a number of reasons. It may be they still get up scared in the night, or have issues that might embarrass them. I know Mom's know best. I have also had hesitations. I planned the party purposefully on a Friday night afterschool. We are going to play hockey outside for an hour or so, then swimming for an hour and to laser tag. I know they are going to be up late, so my plan is to exhaust them. I plan on pulling the plug at about 12:30 or 1 am if they don't settle down. We have lots of movies to watch etc. I know they will have tons of fun.