Ot- RSVP for bday party

[wannabee]

DS8 is in second grade. Last year we had a bowling party and invited all the boys in his class. We had an ok turn out.

This year I have the same thing scheduled for this Sunday. We sent 12invites to the boys in his class. I have not received a single call to RSVP.

Do you think I should call the Mom's tomorrow to see if anyone is coming?

This is our second year at this school. I know a few of them a little but there are some I've never met. I would hate to have no one show for this party. He would be so upset.

 

[rt2dz]

Go ahead and call if you have the numbers. People are so rude these days about RSVPing. Just call and say, "Hi this is X. I hadn't received an RSVP for little johnny's party on Sunday, so I was wondering if you even received the invitation." Things do get lost all the time and never reach the parents, so they might not have. And for those that did, it's a needed kick in the pants.

I'd start calling tonight though--weekends are busy and some might not get the message in time.

 

[luvtogo12]

If you know the phone numbers, I would call.
I had a birthday party for DS a few months ago, sent out 12 invites (maybe more) and only 2 responded that they were coming. I waited it out, big mistake. Only three kids showed up which left DS wondering if anyone else was coming. It was sad.
I wish people would understand the concept of RSVPing.

 

[TheDizMom]

Definitely start calling now. Let them know you need to give a final count to your venue so they know how many lanes to hold for you. I would think they would want to have that so they can allow the other lanes to be used by other customers. I hate when people don't RSVP . I had to call for my DS party because I needed to tell the venue how many kids so they could make up the goody bags. A few kids did tell him in school and I had him start asking about a week before for those we had not heard from. I still had to call a few moms. Note to all parents when it says RSVP it means we want to know if your kid is coming or not.

 

[wannabee]

thanks

I just made a couple calls and left a few messages and got a couple of kids confirmed.

I'll be ok if only 3 or 4 kids come as we will have 3 cousins there. I was afraid that no one from his class would be there and he would be upset.

I feel a little better now as I know that he actually handed out the invites.

This will be the last year for class parties. I think the majority of people stopped after first grade.

 

[swillis]

This has been the scenario for me and the last 3 birthday parties for my son. Nobody RSVP's anymore!! His last party I had to prepay for 8 boys, and 3 boys showed up. On top of being just plain sad for my son, it's is just plain rude for parents to not RSVP. I included my home, cell and even my email address and wrote "please let me know if your child will not be able to come"

Well I have finally given up. His birthday is Sunday actually, and I said no more parties buddy. We still do a family party, but I'll be darned if I pay for a party that nobody comes to. It's really sad.

So... if you have phone numbers, and you don't want to be left wondering, I would make those calls.
Ok...I'm done venting...thank you

 

[fan_of_small_world]

What is it with nobody RSVPing? That happens to me every time. I always put an "RSVP by" date on the invites, so I pretty much start calling the day after that. Most people just have forgotten to respond, but I've had one or two who never got the invite in the first place, so I'm glad I call. I'd hate to think that a child would feel left out just because the invite got lost.

 

[rt2dz]

Note to all parents when it says RSVP it means we want to know if your kid is coming or not.

THAT is exactly the problem. Some people have no clue RSVP means any action. Others think you automatically know they are coming if they don't call. And then others think you automatically know they're not coming if they don't call. Then, of course, others are just plain rude. It makes you truly less sympathetic to the ones whose kids lost the invitation or didn't get it.

Sorry, this is my biggest pet peeve.

 

[Camping Griswalds]

We started a couple of years ago, having the kids pick out 4-5 friends that they wanted. I'd just call the moms up and explain we were having a little party and that i would pick their kids up and drop them back off (we have big vehicle) anyway, it saved money on invitations, and the parents had no excuse to back out late, as I was providing transportation, and they also knew only total of 6 kids going, so their child would be missed. it has worked really well, and we had a better time then the super big parties that we used to have!

 

[Ilovemyprincesses]

THAT is exactly the problem. Some people have no clue RSVP means any action. Others think you automatically know they are coming if they don't call. And then others think you automatically know they're not coming if they don't call. Then, of course, others are just plain rude. It makes you truly less sympathetic to the ones whose kids lost the invitation or didn't get it.

Sorry, this is my biggest pet peeve.

I don't buy that - people don't know what it means. Everyone knows they are just being rude.

 

[Benducci]

I would call. I had my girls' birthday party & I had to call 12 parents. They each apologized but it really gets my goat that people are so lazy. One mother even said to me ' oh you know me- I never remember to rsvp' Well, learn!

And people today know what rsvp means. that is no excuse.

 

[tmarquez]

I also think people don't know that RSVP means they need to respond one way or another. For DD's last bday nobody called to let me know...I was freaking out...she wanted a party with her friends so bad.

So I put a slip of paper in each kids file at school that asked if they were coming to the party with a "yes" to circle or a "no" and a place to put how many people (we invited siblings and parents). Well they all returned those. I'm glad I did it too because we ended up with alot more people than I would have guessed and had to do some last minute scrambling to make sure we had eveything that we needed.

Maybe people are lazy too. They didn't have the energy to make a phone call, but circling a word was not too hard!