elainemeyerovitz
Earning My Ears
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why bother?
why bother?
I do like it - and it's up to the teachers, especially sped teachers, to make sure no stigma is attached. Nobody is good at everything, everyone needs help sometimes, and sometimes the best way to help kids in school is to do small group learning in a separate area.
This 'least restrictive' stuff isn't always the best for learning, as some kids cannot focus when there's lots of activity around. When I worked in a kindergarten class, 1/3 of the kids were going out of the room for one thing or another, and no one asked about where Jonny and Jill were going... (not going all at once, of course!)
Scheduling the times the kids were leaving the room so as not to conflict with large group time is important, though. Kids will understand that Dick and Jane are working with Miss Helper during math when everyone else is at small center groups because everyone is not doing the same thing at that time. But if everyone else is listening to Teacher read a story and Dick and Jane are leaving the group to go somewhere else, then the kids will ask questions.
Of course those questions can be answered, explaining that they need to go do more work with Miss Helper (keeping confidentiality, although I think confidentiality can come back and bite a kid in the butt) but it's easier to avoid the questions if the kids come and go during more independent learning time.
Why is it that parents need to approve of everything that is done to help a kid at school, yet so many kids come to school without the basic building blocks of proper behavior, etc, so that people talk about how schools have to spend so much time parenting kids, instead of teaching academics? We can't have it both ways - that puts way too much burden on a school and lets the parent off scot-free.
Instead of 'how dare the school put my kid in a helpful program without my permission' I'm more apt to think 'how dare a parent have 5 years with a child, and the child doesn't know how to spell his name or recognize the 26 letters in the alphabet, and count to 20?'
I was told later by his teacher in a conference that he didn't name any letters of the alphabet!!
This from a kid who was singing the alphabet song loudly and to anyone who would listen at the age of 2 1/2!
But my child is hyperactive and borderline adhd and was very excited about kindergarten registration. At a conference a month later the teacher told me that she had put him in the group of children that needed the most work. She was surprised when he had no trouble with any of the schoolwork and became a top reader in his class!! It just goes to show that testing doesn't always represent the student accurately.(I blame myself, I always tested badly for anything like that. I can still remember freezing up. I'm an overly stressful person that got tested for an ulcer at the age of 6!) The small groups thing I love though. It helps my son focus on his work and he likes going from station to station with the same group to complete his assignments. He is thriving in 1st grade and the only thing he ever has a problem with is working quietly and being easily distracted. He loves reading and spelling and doesn't care for math even though he does well(I'm afraid he gets that from me also. Oh well, you pay for your raising as my mom says!) 
But at the testing/evaluation he tested horribly.I was told later by his teacher in a conference that he didn't name any letters of the alphabet!!
This from a kid who was singing the alphabet song loudly and to anyone who would listen at the age of 2 1/2!
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(As a matter of fact I dealing with it right now
)Instead of 'how dare the school put my kid in a helpful program without my permission' I'm more apt to think 'how dare a parent have 5 years with a child, and the child doesn't know how to spell his name or recognize the 26 letters in the alphabet, and count to 20?'
I just had to comment on this. As the parent of a child w/learning difficulties who could not recognize the letters of the alphabet when he started K and still has difficulty counting in 1st grade.(he could spell his own name) I just want to say all kids learn differently and at different levels. I've been working long and hard w/him since he was 6 months old to get these skills and it's a struggle every day. I certainly wouldn't blame my teachers for him not knowing these things but I do expect my school to provide him with the tools to gain this knowledge(in addition to the hours I put in at home and the various therapies we've done over the years). I'm lucky in that our school is great however I just wanted to point out that not all K's have this "checklist" of skills mastered. I would hate to think anyone is saying "How dare" without knowing the entire situation.......
I've had parents get upset with me about this as well.(As a matter of fact I dealing with it right now
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Just because a child can sing the ABC song, doesn't mean they recognize the letters. This can also happen with numbers. A child may be able to rote count, but not recognize numbers.
I just had to comment on this. As the parent of a child w/learning difficulties who could not recognize the letters of the alphabet when he started K and still has difficulty counting in 1st grade.(he could spell his own name) I just want to say all kids learn differently and at different levels. I've been working long and hard w/him since he was 6 months old to get these skills and it's a struggle every day. I certainly wouldn't blame my teachers for him not knowing these things but I do expect my school to provide him with the tools to gain this knowledge(in addition to the hours I put in at home and the various therapies we've done over the years). I'm lucky in that our school is great however I just wanted to point out that not all K's have this "checklist" of skills mastered. I would hate to think anyone is saying "How dare" without knowing the entire situation.......
I think that is the kind of parent the poster was referring to.