OT - Please pray for my friend and her daughter...

[dis75ney]

I don't where else to post this, so I'll start here...

My friend Allison just shared some disturbing news with me regarding her DD. DD is just a toddler, and from all the signs DD's exhibiting, it appears that she may have been sexually molested while at her father's over the weekend (I won't go into details at the moment - I'm still in a state of shock over this). Allison took her DD to a well-respected children's hospital here, and they all agree that DD was most likely sexually abused, but will not do an internal on someone so young at this point. Allison's doing all she can to stop this, but unless the courts step in, she will have to give DD back to her father for visitation this weekend. None of us are really sure who's doing this to little DD (Allison thinks it's DD's father, I'm leaning toward DD's father's stepbrother, who always seemed a little off-key mentally), but Allison is panicking that she may have to give her daughter to an abuser tomorrow night.

Problem that Allison is running into at the moment is that DD's father lives across state lines, so she's trying to get jurisdiction transferred to state (I'm swiping that from Mulan's thread. It's actually a very nice state, but HE lives there, hence the sad face) so they can block the court ordered visitation. Having been through the legal process in this state, I know that this could potentially take a long time to resolve, and I hate seeing my "sister" going through so much pain after everything else she's been through these past four years.

Please pray for Allison and her DD...I know they can feel them...

 

[_queenie_]

Oh my god!

That's horrible, they're both in my prayers. I couldn't imagine such a thing, what kind of sick perve could do that to a baby girl?

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

Its so sad. You have to go through an interview and give your drivers licence to adopt a dog, but anyone (child molester, murderer, etc.) can just go and have a child and mess that poor baby up for his/her entire life.

 

[Butwhyistherumgone?]

Prayers for them both.

 

[Camno's Mama]

There are not words to express the horror of that situation. I will certainly remember them in my prayers.

 

[firsttimer03]

They are also in my thoughts.

 

[MissMommy928]

Is DCFS involved? I"m assuming so since she went to a hospital. I don't know specifics but I know there is some way to hold an emergency temporary hearing and get emergency custody granted with restricted or withheld visitation priveledges.

I'm not sure what it's called, but I know that under certain circumstances (valid ones with DCFS documentation of alleged abuse) visitation does not have to occur until an emergency hearing has occured and temporary custody is awared to the non abuser parent.

She has every right not to let the visitation occur if she (and professionals who investigate sexual abuse) both agree that there has been a validated suspicion of physical or sexual child abuse.

Good luck. I am so sorry they are going through this. This sounds like such a terrible situation for everyone involved

 

[DisneyFed]

Law Enforcement involvement???

In the cases like this I've worked (unfortunately FAAR to many).....once an investigation was opened, visitation CEASED AND DESISTED until it was resolved..

 

[Omma]

Your friend and her dd will be in my prayers all weekend. I cannot imagine having to face that as a mother.

 

[J&J'sMOM]

OH MY......I am soooo sorry and prayers are headed that way.

 

[MissMommy928]

Law Enforcement involvement???

In the cases like this I've worked (unfortunately FAAR to many).....once an investigation was opened, visitation CEASED AND DESISTED until it was resolved..

Yes! It would be so different if your sister hadn't taken her to a hospital and just made up a fallacy of abuse in attempt to keep her child or something. But she involved a hospital and their staff deemed it potential sexual abuse. I think she has every right to suspend visitation until she can get an emergency hearing.

 

[CRdisMom]

My heart and prayers go our to your family.

 

[dis75ney]

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers...

Is DCFS involved? I"m assuming so since she went to a hospital. I don't know specifics but I know there is some way to hold an emergency temporary hearing and get emergency custody granted with restricted or withheld visitation priveledges.

I'm not sure what it's called, but I know that under certain circumstances (valid ones with DCFS documentation of alleged abuse) visitation does not have to occur until an emergency hearing has occured and temporary custody is awared to the non abuser parent.

She has every right not to let the visitation occur if she (and professionals who investigate sexual abuse) both agree that there has been a validated suspicion of physical or sexual child abuse.

Good luck. I am so sorry they are going through this. This sounds like such a terrible situation for everyone involved

Law Enforcement involvement???

In the cases like this I've worked (unfortunately FAAR to many).....once an investigation was opened, visitation CEASED AND DESISTED until it was resolved..

Yes! It would be so different if your sister hadn't taken her to a hospital and just made up a fallacy of abuse in attempt to keep her child or something. But she involved a hospital and their staff deemed it potential sexual abuse. I think she has every right to suspend visitation until she can get an emergency hearing.

Both DCFS and law enforcement are involved...the problem is that Maddie's father lives across the state line, so while Allison reported the situation and took Maddie to a hospital in our state, she'll need to get an order from the father's state in order to suspend visitation. At least that's what Allison told me...

I just don't understand how someone could do something like this to a baby. And this poor family has been through SO much over the past four years that when Maddie came along, she brought so much hope to Allison and the rest of her family. Now this...it just doesn't make any sense...Maddie's now scared to go anywhere near a male, even my DS, who's only 7!

 

[Tnkrbelle565]

My opinion (since I work in the child protective field) is to let Dad's state try to come after her if she doesn't send her for a visit. Most likely they won't. If dad tries to fight this in court, they will see the hospital reports and the protective service investigation. I wouldn't send her until this has been figured out. Also, if the alleged abuse "took place" in dad's state, a report should have been filed with that state's child protective service agency...who will, in turn, file a report with the local DA. My thoughts are with your family.

 

[Grendalynn]

This makes me sick and breaks my heart! If this is really true - one words comes to mind - castration, among others like the death penalty and things of that nature.... I will stop here.... My thoughts are with your friend, OP. I can only hope she is wrong!

 

[cglaura]

For you and your friend. I'd definitely keep her home and let him just try to get visitation and fight him w/ everything she has. I'd face anything to keep my kid safe. Keep a documentation of everything, every communication, every conversation. If she mails anything get it certified return receipt signature.

 

[DisneyFed]

My opinion (since I work in the child protective field) is to let Dad's state try to come after her if she doesn't send her for a visit. Most likely they won't. If dad tries to fight this in court, they will see the hospital reports and the protective service investigation. I wouldn't send her until this has been figured out. Also, if the alleged abuse "took place" in dad's state, a report should have been filed with that state's child protective service agency...who will, in turn, file a report with the local DA. My thoughts are with your family.

Yes, yes....I didn't catch the state line issue until I re-read this....

Tell her to DO IT NOW....DO NOT DELAY...

 

[dis75ney]

I've got Maddie tonight...visitations have been suspended for the time being. Allison was called into work unexpextedly, so I've got the rugrat until tomorrow morning...

 

[IkeandMike]

Oh thank goodness. Give that baby an extra kiss from all of us. Sometimes prayers ARE answered.

 

[hugabearjo]

I have been praying hard, I am so glad they are safe. I will keep praying as the weeks of court stuff go on. Please give mom and baby a hug. Let them know we care.

Prayers and praise being sent up-
Jo