OT - need cry a little

[mermaidbride1108]

Ok so this isn't weddings related so I apologize but I've become so active in this board I figured this would be the best place to vent.

I have been job searching since for 3 months now and have no luck. Today I got a big rejection letter from a top Philadelphia museum, a job I thought I would be great at and really, really wanted. I was perfect for it and the interview went awesome (at least I thought, I must have been wrong) I have been calling them over and over and I got their letter in the mail today.

I'm so upset because I'm almost 3 years into my career and feel as though I've gotten NO WHERE! I have a job now, but it limits me to what I skills I can learn because its split between two depts - one I hate, boring dept where its very technical and basically cant carry the skills over and a more creative dept that I love. Because the manager in the sucky dept wont stop crying she needs more staff when she doesnt because the staff smokes outside all day, so they wont make me full time in the marketing dept when Im basically full time anyway cause I work overtime to finish my work. confusing i know

I took this position for the last 1.5 years because I was PROMISED I would move forward and would be given career advancement opportunities and now they give me the run around, whats worse is they keep saying Im a great employee and Im very valuable just be patient! for the past 6 months!

It is so frustrating and ive been looking else where but with no luck.

I sacrificed alot to put myself through college and I am 100% regretting it now. I went through a lot of family problems and it would of been so easy to just drop out but I stuck it out in hope for a better future. I feel as though it hasnt gotten me anywhere and was a waste where I could have been gaining experience.

DF & I have been counting on me getting a better job to buy our first house.

Im just really dissapoointed in myself right now.... and its so bad Im even complaining on the internet to a weddings board - thats are upset I was today. I didnt spell check it because didnt feel like it, sorry

Anyone want to hire me in Philly?

 

[Janet2k]

Im just really dissapoointed in myself right now.... and its so bad Im even complaining on the internet to a weddings board - thats are upset I was today. I didnt spell check it because didnt feel like it, sorry

<BIG HUGS> to you, Mermaidbride1108. I know that life is complicated and throws all kinds of twists and turns at us when we least expect it. Hang in there and take a deep breath. Remember that baby steps probably are sometimes best. And when you put enough of them together, you'll begin to find your way. Please don't be so hard on yourself. I bet you're not anywhere near as bad as you think you are.

(PS I didn't spell check my response in honor of your thread.)

 

[TXTurtle]

Does it help to hear I've been there? Not exactly - I had fam. support through college so that's different but after college I found myself in a total dead-end job that I hated. I really felt my soul being drained every moment I was there. A year later, about the time I was feeling like everyone but me knew what they wanted to do in life and were doing it, I went on for my masters and consistantly found that I was the youngest in my classes, often by a decade or more. Other stuents kept telling me they wish they had followed their passions earlier, like me. What the heck? I felt massively behind and like a failure and found out that I was really a bit ahead. In a similar story I was chatting with a college friend a few months ago and lemme tell ya, back then he was the "most likely to succeed" type - had it all together, really talented, and still managed to be a wonderful human being. Anyway he's in your boat, stuck in a job he doesn't want, resume not growing, with his best college friends all getting their PhDs and succeeding. But it's not because he's a failure, it's just where he is right now. Sometimes life seems to "stick" a bit but it's life, not you. And I'm so sorry about not getting the job. Please keep hopeful (after a big bowl of ice cream or something like that) and keep sending out the resumes. Also don't stop squeeking a bit at work, if they're not smart enough to see your potential and move you into a better area then their loss when you get a better offer!

 

[PirateBride08]

I am so sorry to hear that! I know it probably seems like you are going nowhere fast but finishing college is a huge accomplishment! Kudos to you! I wish I could finish. I've had to pay my way through, while living on my own and let me tell you.....it isn't easy. I have a good paying job and it's not what I want to do but it works for now. Sometimes getting started in your career takes more time than expected.

My sister-in-law graduated from college and couldn't find a job. She ended up being a preschool teacher (making NO money) and then was a Planner for the County Government. She did that for close to 6 years! She finally finished her masters degree program and is NOW finally a Social Worker for the local schools.

I would keep looking for a new job, you never know when one will come your way. Hang in there!

 

[Malibelle]

Ok so this isn't weddings related so I apologize but I've become so active in this board I figured this would be the best place to vent.

I have been job searching since for 3 months now and have no luck. Today I got a big rejection letter from a top Philadelphia museum, a job I thought I would be great at and really, really wanted. I was perfect for it and the interview went awesome (at least I thought, I must have been wrong) I have been calling them over and over and I got their letter in the mail today.

I'm so upset because I'm almost 3 years into my career and feel as though I've gotten NO WHERE! I have a job now, but it limits me to what I skills I can learn because its split between two depts - one I hate, boring dept where its very technical and basically cant carry the skills over and a more creative dept that I love. Because the manager in the sucky dept wont stop crying she needs more staff when she doesnt because the staff smokes outside all day, so they wont make me full time in the marketing dept when Im basically full time anyway cause I work overtime to finish my work. confusing i know

I took this position for the last 1.5 years because I was PROMISED I would move forward and would be given career advancement opportunities and now they give me the run around, whats worse is they keep saying Im a great employee and Im very valuable just be patient! for the past 6 months!

It is so frustrating and ive been looking else where but with no luck.

I sacrificed alot to put myself through college and I am 100% regretting it now. I went through a lot of family problems and it would of been so easy to just drop out but I stuck it out in hope for a better future. I feel as though it hasnt gotten me anywhere and was a waste where I could have been gaining experience.

DF & I have been counting on me getting a better job to buy our first house.

Im just really dissapoointed in myself right now.... and its so bad Im even complaining on the internet to a weddings board - thats are upset I was today. I didnt spell check it because didnt feel like it, sorry

Anyone want to hire me in Philly?

I am sorry you are not happy. I know what you are going through to some extend. I went to college fell into the pharmaceutical field for the past 5 years. I just got married in Disney 2 weeks ago to come back and start a new job in New Hope in the pharm field. I started Monday and hate it, yes is 3 days I decided this is not want I want to do. I am too looking for a new job but have decided in the meantime to just waitress until I find something I really like. I actually have to call out of mynew job next week to go on an interview for a server job. I need someone to hire me too! Good luck and everything will work out.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

dont get your hopes down yet...im a true believer that good things happen to good people & when its the right time it will happen for you.

Weve all been there , where you feel the world is crumbling around you, but honestly in a few years youll look back and think of how strong you were & how it made you who you are

chin up & dont give up

we are always here for you & any Dis girl

 

[purplegirl247]

So sorry you're so down right now. I know that hearing "there's a light at the end of the tunnel" doesn't *really* help right now, but it sounds like you're doing all the right things. Just a matter of time before things start working out for you.

I'm never sure if personal anecdotes help or not, but here goes anyway. I got my undegraduate degree in history, didn't want to join "real life" yet, so went back to get my Master's in it. Yes, in history. No, there isn't much else to do other than teach (here in Orlando anyway; we don't have an overabundance of museums or anything). Halfway through my second degree, they gave me a Teaching Assistantship. Yeah, turns out I hate teaching. I freaked out for awhile, but each job I've gotten since graduate school has helped me prepare for the next. Now I'm finally at a job that I enjoy, like the people, and thank goodness, am FINALLY making a decent salary!

Moral of the story? Stuff may come up to make you feel bad, and deter your ambition, but in the end, as long as you have support from the people who love you (your DF, for example), I firmly believe everything will turn out right. Eventually.

 

[DisneyFairy19]

HI and a big hug to you .... So Sorry to hear how upset you are... I kind of have a feeling of what you are going through b/c I have been in COLLEGE FOREVER it seems and I have been hearing that pay is horrible for a starting up Designer.... I am freaking out b/c how am I going to be able to afford living in South FL. when homes are absolutely expensive... I also sometimes feel that college was a waste and I could have gained so much more experience doing something else... But there is always a bump in the road at one point or another and I am sure everything will end up better for you and your DF... It just may take some time... I hope you feel better Try to keep your chin up

 

[JJClemson]

Hi, I am also in your situation So sorry you are going through this

I too have been searching for jobs since January and cannot find anything I've applied for over 100 jobs but have had limited interviews. One company made me an offer but I turned it down b/c it wasn't enough pay. I am finishing my Master's next month and it looks like I'll be jobless. I thought getting my Master's would make me more employable. DF is still in school for another 2 years so it's up to me to support him. I feel your pain, hon!

Hang in there. This will all turn around eventually, that's what I keep telling myself Feel free to vent anytime.

 

[purplegirl247]

Awww. I didn't realize there were so many people job hunting! I wish you guys all lived local so I could help you! Or that I had a bigger network of friends who could help each other! Good luck to you all!

 

[MickeyAnne]

I can totally join you in your job/college frustration. I did the whole college thing, worked my butt off for 4.5 years to graduate with honors. I have my teaching degree and a degree in communication (totally worthless). I graduated in Jan 05 - couldn't find a mid-year teaching job so I took a job as an aid in a handicapped classroom (wonderful job that I miss). Sept of 05 rolls around and I take a kindergarten teaching job at a catholic school and everyone kept telling me, don't worry you will get in to public next year. Well after a year of h - e - double hockey sticks at this horrible job, I started applying for public school jobs again and no luck. So I am back at the catholic school again and it is even worse then last year. I hate my job and I don't even make enough money to move out with DF when we get married. To add salt to the wound, my younger brother just got a job in public school right out of college making 20k more then me Thats enough to burn my biscuits!

So this year I will try again to get a public school job and if I don't I am going to go into the corporate world because I can't do this any more. What good will college have done me then??

It really is frustrating but I know that in the end I will find something that makes me happy - no matter how long it takes. Hold your head up and keep your eyes and ears open. Something will come along

 

[mermaidbride1108]

For some reason when you are down if feels as though you are the only person going through it, I know this sounds weird but its nice to know there are others in my shoes - not wishing misery on you or anything, but it good to feel I'm not alone. I'm just hoping college eventually pays off for me and my hard work amounts to something. It's just hard because when your job sucks, it affects my life majorly because my work takes up alot of time in my life.

I just gotta pick my chin up and keep trying, That job would have been so perfect so it was a big loss for me. But its already taken, so time to move on and send more resumes. I just gotta have patience that it will happen for me soon. Wish me luck!

DF is actually very supportive, I'm so lucky to have found someone as great as him to marry me someday!

Thanks again for your kind words and support and for letting me vent. I knew I could count on all of you