OT - Need advice! How would you answer this?

[sunlover13]

DD is in Kindergarten.

DD: "Mom, guess what?"
ME: "What?"
DD: "I saw a girl at school with a mustache. I didn't know girls can have mustaches. I saw her. She had a mustache."
ME: silence, birds chirping

So, obviously, I don't want DD to go back to school and start talking about the girl with a mustache. What would you say?

I have an idea, but would like to know how you would handle it.

Thanks!

 

[DVCLiz]

DD is in Kindergarten.

DD: "Mom, guess what?"
ME: "What?"
DD: "I saw a girl at school with a mustache. I didn't know girls can have mustaches. I saw her. She had a mustache."
ME: silence, birds chirping

So, obviously, I don't want DD to go back to school and start talking about the girl with a mustache. What would you say?

I have an idea, but would like to know how you would handle it.

Thanks!

"Most girls don't ever grow hair on their faces like boys and men do, but sometimes it happens. She might feel bad about it so the best thing to do is not look at it or talk about it so she doesn't get hurt feelings. If someone says something you can remind them that it might hurt her feelings to be talked about, just like it might hurt your feelings if someone talked about you."

And give that girl's mom a clue about hair removal - if she has a "stache" in kindergarten she is going to be in for some real hell once she gets to first and second grade!!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I would simply say- Everyone is different. That is what makes the world such a wonderful place. Then I would give examples of the differences in people. I would also say that while everyone is different and that is awesome, it wouldn't be nice to mention it because she might be shy about it. Or something along those lines. Good luck.

 

[StephMK]

I would simply say- Everyone is different. That is what makes the world such a wonderful place. Then I would give examples of the differences in people. I would also say that while everyone is different and that is awesome, it wouldn't be nice to mention it because she might be shy about it. Or something along those lines. Good luck.

I like this response. Just like some people are tall, short, blond, brunette, etc. Some have more or less hair, most have at least peach fuzz & just depends on skin/hair tones, etc.

At least she came home to ask you & didn't make a loud announcement in the middle of someplace with the person in easy earshot. Not that we have experience with that.

 

[DVCLiz]

At least she came home to ask you & didn't make a loud announcement in the middle of someplace with the person in easy earshot. Not that we have experience with that.

 

[**eeyore**]

And give that girl's mom a clue about hair removal - if she has a "stache" in kindergarten she is going to be in for some real hell once she gets to first and second grade!!

Assuming the other girl is in kindergarten, it probably isn't necessary to clue the girl's mother in about hair removal - she probably is already aware - kindergarten would be a little young to subject a child to things like waxing and tweezing (IMHO). Society has enough issues with appearances - we don't need to be teaching kindergartener's that it is unacceptable for girls to have facial hair. There is plenty of time in life to learn about that at a later date.

 

[sunlover13]

Thanks everyone for the responses.

The girl is definitely not in Kindergarten so I'm assuming it's a girl in another grade. I hope DD didn't say anything out loud. For all I know, she might have.

I'm going to use a little bit of all the advice above.

I'd like to think my DD is a smart & caring kiddo so I think she'll get it.

Thank you!

 

[sunlover13]

OMG! Apparently, it was a girl TEACHER!

DD left out the teacher part before.......

I still told her everything above so hopefully it will not come up again. Boy, I sure hope she doesn't get that teacher in the future.

 

[MousekaMaddi]

hoooooooooooooooooooo boy.......... IM ROFLMAO too funny

 

[myownwonderland]

i agree with pps.

 

[RandiB]

I agree with the PP who sais "at least she asked you"

I think you have good answers. I have a mustache, and my daughter has pointed it out when I go too long between plucking/waxing.

Having one in kindergarten, that must be rough. At least mine waited til I was 30. Then it came in like gang busters with it's twin sister unibrow. I hate getting old.

Everyone is different.

My DD loves to state the obvious to me like she is explaining things to someone who is slow, and she is usually talking to me. My mom thinks it's funny. I have a tendancy to think I am smarter than everyone else, my mom says that started when I was about two. She thinks I deserve this.

She also makes up stories about complete strangers. If someone has a scar or is in a wheelchair, she knows why, and will tell me right in front of the person. It's usually a pretty out there reason, like they fell from a tree or something.

I think I need to cut the TV time.

They make life interesting though.

 

[YellowMickeyPonchos]

Randi - I'm loving the way you phrased all of this! I'm sure if she could, my mom would say the same things to me. Isn't it funny how we then grow to understand our parents more and more, everytime our kids come up with a new thing?

All I can truly say is God bless the little humans we have - they sure make every moment a moment to remember!

 

[DVCLiz]

OMG! Apparently, it was a girl TEACHER!

DD left out the teacher part before.......

I still told her everything above so hopefully it will not come up again. Boy, I sure hope she doesn't get that teacher in the future.

 

[DVCLiz]

Assuming the other girl is in kindergarten, it probably isn't necessary to clue the girl's mother in about hair removal - she probably is already aware - kindergarten would be a little young to subject a child to things like waxing and tweezing (IMHO). Society has enough issues with appearances - we don't need to be teaching kindergartener's that it is unacceptable for girls to have facial hair. There is plenty of time in life to learn about that at a later date.

Boy, I don't agree - if I had a kindergarten age daughter with an obvious moustache you can bet I would be doing something about it immediately. There's never been a time in our culture when it was acceptable to have girls with facial hair, and little girls can be mean to each other even in preschool. Why would you make a child wait and endure several years of teasing?? I think that would be far more damaging than any brief medical procedure that could alleviate the problem permanently.

Anyway, I'm glad to hear it was an adult woman who the OP's daughter was referring to!! Presumably she knows she has a moustache and is comfortable with it or she would be doing something about it!

 

[mjkacmom]

My twins had a teacher last year with a HUGE mustache! Long, long hairs. None of the parents could understand how this woman could stand not waxing! I was so afraid my kids were going to same something.

 

[sunlover13]

Guess where I'm going today?!?!

I'm going to get my eyebrows threaded. I just might have to do the upper lip too. I don't want DD going around telling people her Mommy has a mustache!

 

[PJAY]

This is one of the funniest threads I have ever read on the DIS! On a related note, my DD7 said to me one day when she was in Kindergarten, "Dilnoor has brown skin." Cautiously, I asked her if that was okay fearing that she had heard some racist comments.
Her reply: "Yeah, I wish I had brown skin too."

Thanks for the smiles!

 

[princesspiglet]

OMG! This reminds me of when my DD was 3 and we were checking out at a local farmers market. I had already paid for our stuff and Athena (DD) was watching the clerk put her corn and apples in a bag and said outloud: "Mommy, is that person a boy or a girl- cause she has hair on her lip just like daddy but she has big ****ies just like you"

I was absolutly mortified. I just stood there and didn't know what to say. After a few silent moments, my DD said , "Well, what is it?"

I just grabbed my corn and apples and headed out the door. I felt so bad that I didn't say anything to the lady or apologize. To this day, I send my DH there if I ever need anything.

 

[The Moonk's Mom]

Boy, I don't agree - if I had a kindergarten age daughter with an obvious moustache you can bet I would be doing something about it immediately. There's never been a time in our culture when it was acceptable to have girls with facial hair, and little girls can be mean to each other even in preschool. Why would you make a child wait and endure several years of teasing?? I think that would be far more damaging than any brief medical procedure that could alleviate the problem permanently.

Anyway, I'm glad to hear it was an adult woman who the OP's daughter was referring to!! Presumably she knows she has a moustache and is comfortable with it or she would be doing something about it!

Please don't take this as a way to blast you or anything...I just wat to present another point of view.
I was slightly offended by your response as it applys to if this had been a child... I have a medical condition that causes me to grow facial hair. Growing up my parents could barely afford the test and such for me much less afford hair removal...in these economic bad times I can assume others are facing the same issues. I did face some teasing, but my TRUE friends were there for me...you learn a lot that way too. I know we all find it funny when we see a woman with facial hair, just know that sometimes it can be deeper than you know.

 

[DVCLiz]

Please don't take this as a way to blast you or anything...I just wat to present another point of view.
I was slightly offended by your response as it applys to if this had been a child... I have a medical condition that causes me to grow facial hair. Growing up my parents could barely afford the test and such for me much less afford hair removal...in these economic bad times I can assume others are facing the same issues. I did face some teasing, but my TRUE friends were there for me...you learn a lot that way too. I know we all find it funny when we see a woman with facial hair, just know that sometimes it can be deeper than you know.

I'm sorry if I offended you, and I certainly wouldn't ever bring it up if we met in real life, but my opinion hasn't changed. If I had a daughter - of any age - who had facial hair I would take some sort of step to remove it. I would consider it a priority - and it's not that expensive to bleach facial hair at home, or to wax it. I would not let a little girl suffer the teasing of kids at school if I had anything else to offer - even if it did teach her a lesson about true friends. I'm just not the kind of mother who would ever let her child be ridiculed like that.