OT: My daughter obviously got her Dad's genes!

[inloveindisney]

My daughter is almost one and she is really trying us! We can't figure out what to do to get her to sit down in a high chair/shopping cart while we are out at a restaurant/shopping. How do you discipline a child that can't even talk or stand up on their own yet? Up until now I have just been saying over and over again that we sit in the cart and sitting her back down, but she just looks at me like I'm stupid and stands up again.
All that is flashing through my mind is her at 10 doing the same thing-all the while my husband is behind her with a big smile acknowledging the fact that she gets her craziness from him.
So, do I suck it up and figure she's too young to learn these things or is there something I can do now? I'm most concerned because of the safety issue. She bends over the shopping cart and I have to hold on for dear life to keep her from falling (yes, we buckle her) and now she is starting to do it in the bath tub. I tried to find some sort of tub chair but the only one I found is only for kids up to 10 months.
AAHH, My first trial as a parent-I'm sure this is the easier one that I will face!!! I think the next several years will be quite interesting.

 

[CastleCreations]

Gosh..you're bringing back some memories. All of mine used to do this. As a nurse, this is so scary. I've seen so many little ones come in with injuries due to falls. Sadly there isn't much you can do, and they will grow out of it. Right now, I think she is either bored in the cart, or she noticed that this is something she can do to get your attention.
The only thing I can think of, is to get a few new toys that she hasn't seen before, and give it to her while she is in the cart, to keep her interest for a while. We alternated toys, and cheerios. LOL. At one point to keep her from throwing the cheerios, we put them on a piece of yarn, like a candy necklace. Anything just to get some shopping done.

 

[WDWorBUST]

The only thing I have to add is to put her in those situations as little as possible. I know you have to shop and usually you can't do it alone....but when you can go alone do it that way. I would also skip eating out for now when possible....at home get one of the little boosters that go in a chair but have a tray and put it on the floor.

I have to say it is so scary....I was at Lowes not too long ago and a small child (under 2 for sure) was standing in the seat part of the shopping cart with no one paying a lick of attention....and Lowes has concrete floors! It totally terrified me.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Just keep gently sitting her back down and telling her over and over and over and over that she must sit because you don't want her to get hurt. She is being completely age appropriate. When you food shop try bringing some cheerios in a bag and give them to her a few at a time to keep her occupied. Keep her constantly engaged while shopping. Talk to her and explain everything you are looking at. Sounds insane but I actually do this and it keeps them entertained because they are watching your face and listening to your voice. As for going out to dinner- take her out of the high chair and sit her in a booster next to you in a booth. Give her a spoon to play with and bring some small toys for her. If you keep insisting that she do what you want her to eventually it will sink in and be second nature. If you just ignore it then it will be hard to insist on a certain behavior when she is older. Good luck!

 

[Beehn]

Why don't you just belt her in? That way she learns she has to stay sitting because she doesn't have the option to stand up.

 

[inloveindisney]

We belt her every time. She just finds some way of wiggling out.
Lots of great ideas. It at least makes me realize that I am doing ok and I just need to find ways of stimulating her more. Thanks for all your help.
I also had an idea from one of the posts about using the booster at home. We have one here and it works great. We also have a small travel one-might need to put that one in the car and use it at restaurants instead of the typical restaurant high chair! Going to try it out soon!

 

[tzolkin]

Why don't you just belt her in? That way she learns she has to stay sitting because she doesn't have the option to stand up.

if my kids really didnt want to be in the cart they could get out of most buckles even if they were on tightly. my son was the worst. if it was positioned so he couldnt wiggle out of it, my son would scream and hit his head and face on the cart very hard. he would not stop at long as he was in the cart and it was frustrating to try to block his face from the metal while trying to shop.

i wound up using a backpack style carrier for him whenever i went out by myself. he enjoyed being in it and i never had any problems with him. he is now too big for me to carry comfortably on my back (almost 40lbs), but he is old enough that he will ride in the cart with no problems. he's 22mos. once they were old enough to talk/reason i didnt have a problem with keeping my kids in a cart. they will "grow out" of it as long as you are consistent. if you say they have to sit, than you have to follow through and keep them sitting. if you don't think you can follow through on this (like with my issues with my son) try to find an alternative so you won't seem like you're "giving in" by allowing her to stand up in the cart. good luck.

 

[kidshop]

I use a Shopping cart safety seat. Here's one on Ebay:

http://cgi.ebay.com/Shopping-Cart-Y...ler-Child_W0QQitemZ270192391746QQcmdZViewItem

It has a BIG wide velcro belt that you can make very tight to prevent escapes. I've used it for all three kids, and I'm not sure if it is still available new. I love it!

Good luck to you!

ETA: here's one with a 5 pt harness:

http://cgi.ebay.com/SafeFit-Safe-n-...1788783QQihZ014QQcategoryZ73470QQcmdZViewItem

 

[bumbershoot]

Get a mei tai, Ergo, or Beco carrier and wear her while shopping. Just take the shopping cart out of the equation for now.

For baths, take a bath with her.

I'm all about simplicity in the beginning, and wearing baby while shopping and bathing with baby is the easier way to do it!

 

[SJP]

She is so young, and it is so dangerous. Even if you had your daughter engaged, it only takes you bending over to get something from the bottom shelf for a child to flip out.

We have a child who had a traumatic brain injury (medically caused) and were told that he could not hit his head for fear of brain damage. We put him in the stroller and pushed him while dragging the cart behind. It's a little cumbersome, but was worth it for our peace of mind.