OT - DD got a timeout (for kissing a boy)

[pigletz]

I'm proof that you're daughter will be just fine. My mom still teases me about my "first job" in preschool. There was a boy (I don't remember his name but he had red hair and freckles) who used to give me a penny everyday and then I would give him a kiss. When I was 6, I decided that I wanted to marry the boy across the street (he was 13 by the way). I asked him to marry me. I put on a white dress and my mom bobby pinned a white curtain on my head as a veil and went off to my wedding. He never showed up. I had to walk home while trying to hide behind trees and cars on my street because he was sitting in his front yard with a girl. I'm 33 now and perfectly normal. I'm happy to say that my preschool career did not translate into an adult one.

 

[jennifer293]

DD6 announced earlier in the year that she was "torn" between 2 boys that wanted to marry her.. We know both of their parents very well. She then announced last week that one of her future husbands is moving away to Georgia so she guesses she will just marry the other one now. She says they will get married and they will live with his parents because he has more toys than she does...

I am thrilled about the idea..His mom can explain "periods" to her now instead of me...hahaha Just Kidding!!!

Your DD is perfectly normal!!!

 

[design_mom]

I agree that it's normal. My DS had several "girlfriends" in preschool. One of the teachers told me that Sydney, one of the girlfriends, had asked her how long it would be until she (Sydney) graduated from college. The teacher said "a long time" and asked her why she wanted to know. She replied, "I'm going to marry Alex, but my mom says I have to wait till I'm done with college."

However, I will say that I can see some circumstances where a time-out might be called for. I have one nephew who is very... um... enthusiastic about kissing people. It doesn't matter what else is going on, or if the recipient doesn't want kissed, or anything. If he decides to kiss you, you're going to be kissed whether you like it or not. He's a sweet kid, but I've seen kids get knocked over and end up tears because he "just wanted to give them a kiss." (I doubt this is what happens with the OP's DD, but it does happen with some kids. So even if there's another overzealous kid in the class I can see where a "no kissing" rule would be good for the whole class.) My SIL thinks it's "so sweet" and "he's just being nice." It sometimes drives me crazy.

 

[TheDizMom]

Totally normal!! That is so funny . Don't worry about it. My DD has been in love with Eli from her kindergarten class. When she got an American Girl doll for Xmas she immediately named her Stella. I had no idea where she had come up with it because we don't know any Stellas. A few months later I found out it was Eli's little sister's name. She still loves him and the year is almost up! She has also said she is going to marry Drake Bell and that Jesse McCartney is going to be her boyfriend and she barely knows who he is . I just think it's what happens and it's not just girls. My DS has had a crush on some girl in his class from kindergarten through this year. The funny thing is it's usually the girl with the best handwritting . For some unknown reason he is highly attracted to little girls who can write legibly (sp?) .

As for your daughter maybe you could recommend giving him a hug instead. Maybe she won't get a time out for that .

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

I hope it's normal, or every girl I've ever known is crazy!!! Example: When my older sister was in pre-school, she and our pastor's son were "madly in love" and planning their full on wedding. Alas, the engagement was broken off when they couldn't agree on living quarters. He wanted to live in his parents' basement and she wanted to live in Disney World!!!

My 5 year old daughter has a boyfriend at pre-school. They hold hands when they walk to class and back. They even call each other "Miss Lydia" and "Mr. Alex"!

 

[bookgirl]

I vote for normal...... of course I had the same boyfriend from 4 to 7 and he gave me my first kiss at 5 when he escorted me to my moms car after kindergarten.

 

[MinnieGi]

Ah, yes its spring time in Pre-K!!!! Very normal behavior for that age range. DD was in Pre-K last year and DS is in the same school this year and the Pre-K teachers have all kinds of funny stories about the preschool "couples" and courtships. LOL!!!

 

[graygables]

My now almost 19yo DD had a boyfriend named Matthew in K-4. They held hands and she was the only girl invited to his birthday party (mom even went out and bought her "girly" favors!) We were sure we'd be in-laws some day. This was at a private Christian school, where I happened to be a full-time sub, so I could peek in every so often. I even found them fast asleep on their nap mats holding hands. The teachers were careful to keep it light and fun and NEVER would have give a time out for the cheek-kissing that went on. Sadly, we moved and Matthew moved and we never saw them again.

VERY normal behavior!

 

[chattyann]

The day we went to sign up my youngest for Kindergarden there was a little girl in line in front of us and she was just crazy about my little boy. She asked her mom if she could give him a kiss and her mom told her maybe she should'nt but then she looked at her mom and goes but I really have to and she came over and hugged and kissed my son on the cheek. It was so sweet and now they have class together and she has moved on to other little boys in the class. lol I think it is totally normal.

 

[barkley]

my dd (12) never went through this-but boy have i encountered it with my ds being the object of a few little girl's affection. my fav has cooled it in the last year or so, but it was a major crush for several YEARS (and ds is only 10).

'she' caught sight of him when she and he were both around 4 and they would see each other at school drop off and pick up (for their older sibs) . she fauned over him, hugged him (don't think she ever kissed him), stuck to his side like glue ...continued when both were in the same k, first and second grade classes...kept thinking it would pass until the day she started calling me 'mom' because (as she explained it to her mom and i) 'i'm practicing for when we make it legal' ds asked what that meant-i explained it meant she was planning on marrying him-his response-'can we have the wedding at chuck e cheese?'

on our last day at school (before we moved out of state a few weeks ago) her final words to my daughter were 'come back soon to visit-and make sure you bring your brother'