OT: Daycare and walking-newbie needs help

[mommytobug]

I focus a lot on my child's abilities because he was 2 months premature and I was told by several pediatricians he would be behind in everything till he was 2. I am a SAHM, so yes, it is my job to try and raise a happy, healthy little boy. I always put my childs needs before my own, and if I couldn't do that then I wouldn't have had any children.

Do you want a badge or a chest to pin it on? Do you approach all your friends in this way? You are the best mother, your kid is the smartest. I know that I love my dd with all my being. She walked at 8 months, and did everything early. BUT, that does not mean i am any better of mother than the OP. Kids are different. I think the best thing WE as mothers can do is support one another and respect one another. You, my dear, are not the ONLY mother on this earth. I think being a good mother requires some degree of humility. Do you have any? PLEASE stop being so cruel to everyone. My dd is adopted and we went through he** and back before finally becoming parents but that does not make me any more a mother than the next person.

 

[mla2177]

Do you want a badge or a chest to pin it on? Do you approach all your friends in this way? You are the best mother, your kid is the smartest. I know that I love my dd with all my being. She walked at 8 months, and did everything early. BUT, that does not mean i am any better of mother than the OP. Kids are different. I think the best thing WE as mothers can do is support one another and respect one another. You, my dear, are not the ONLY mother on this earth. I think being a good mother requires some degree of humility. Do you have any? PLEASE stop being so cruel to everyone. My dd is adopted and we went through he** and back before finally becoming parents but that does not make me any more a mother than the next person.

No, my friends agree with me!!!! Why doesn't everyone flame the person who said my child will have anxiety problems because he trained early. You can be offended by others opinions, but I can't. It's because my opinion is the minority. It's ok though, at the end of the day, whether I'm a good mother or a bad mother, I know I did the best job I could do and was selfless.

 

[Blondy876]

I also have a problem with potty training before they are ready, I feel it can lead to aot of anxiety for the child.

No, my friends agree with me!!!! Why doesn't everyone flame the person who said my child will have anxiety problems because he trained early. You can be offended by others opinions, but I can't. It's because my opinion is the minority. It's ok though, at the end of the day, whether I'm a good mother or a bad mother, I know I did the best job I could do and was selfless.

She didn't say anything about a child's age she stated that some children who are pushed before they are READY can have anxiety problems. Being ready to potty train doesn't correspond to age. You can have 1 year olds who are ready and 4 year olds who aren't. The only person here doing any flaming is you. Relax, you are obviously one of the Dis perfect parents.

 

[Nicolepa]

No, my friends agree with me!!!! Why doesn't everyone flame the person who said my child will have anxiety problems because he trained early. You can be offended by others opinions, but I can't. It's because my opinion is the minority. It's ok though, at the end of the day, whether I'm a good mother or a bad mother, I know I did the best job I could do and was selfless.

Nobody said your child will have anxiety problems. They said it CAN cause anxiety in a child. Big difference.

As a mother w/a child who suffers from severe anxiety I can tell you that if I had tried to potty train my son at 2 he would have had full blown panic attacks over the issue. And contrary to your beliefs it is not because I am always anxious.

 

[Blondy876]

To the OP:

I wouldn't be concerned about you dd walking but I would be concerned about the schools reaction to it. If they are unwilling to work with you over this situation then I would be concerned about future situations.

 

[CEDmom]

No, my friends agree with me!!!! Why doesn't everyone flame the person who said my child will have anxiety problems because he trained early. You can be offended by others opinions, but I can't. It's because my opinion is the minority. It's ok though, at the end of the day, whether I'm a good mother or a bad mother, I know I did the best job I could do and was selfless.

Show me where someone said that ? Several of us said children who are PUSHED into training too early CAN have anxiety issues. If your child happily trained at an early age that's great. Don't turn that around and say anyone with a late training child that uses pull ups is lazy.

BTW, it's ok not to always put your child 1st. At some point he's going to need to understand the world doesn't revolve around him and isn't that a much better lesson to learn gently from you than from a teacher or someone else.

 

[Patti_C]

lghost, I am sorry that your first post turned out like this. I was only hoping to lend support. And to let you know that your child is surely not the only slow walker and will do great wherever you decide to take him. Good luck with your descision.

 

[GraysMom]

OP, I just wanted to let you know that my friend's husband didn't walk until he was 2 1/2 and he turned out fine (he was just a very content baby/toddler wherever he was and saw no point in moving). My friend's husband's brother also didn't walk until he was over 2 1/2, so it seems that late or early walking might run in families sometimes.

 

[HappyDznyCamper]

Talk to the director tomorrow, maybe she will set you at ease that you dd will be fine. Or maybe(unfortunatly) she may say that the program can't adapt to be safe for her until she is walking. Until you speak to the director and teacher there really is not much you can do but worry and thats no fun. Let us know how things go when you speak with them.

 

[jessica52877]

To the OP, my suggestion is that you try to find childcare (if this is what you need) elsewhere until she walks. Then transfer her once she walks. I can see where it would be a problem for them if all walk and one doesn't BUT this should have mentioned at registration and by all means you should get your deposit back. They are the ones not accomodating the 14 month old they agreed to.

On the potty issue not related to this thread, my son was trained at 2 1/2, at 2 he showed no interest, he showed no interest until the day he did it and I never used pull ups or changed a wet bed. I limited fluids after 6 pm.

 

[MandM-Mom]

I own a State Group Family Daycare in NYS and I could not imagine not taking a child because they did not walk, just because they can't walk does not mean they can't participate in my other activities, you make do, you figure out what works best for that child and make it happen because thats my job! I know I am not a school but still I find it very discriminating to the child , my daughter is 13 months old and she does not walk, not even close, and I want her to have all the same chances that other children her age have even though she has a disability. This subject is a bit raw for me since my daughter does have a disability and I don't want anyone setting limits for her but I think it would be a good idea to take a look at your other options before deciding on sending her to this school.....Good luck!