OT, but sligthly relevant- How old were you??

[disneydreamgirl05]

How old were you when you were married?? Did you wait until you got out of school or while you were in school?

I'm planning my wedding for when I graduate college and right before I go to grad school. A lot of people have been telling me that this is a horrible mistake and we should both wait a little longer. I'll graduate next year. I live in GA and are planning on going out of state to grad school, Belmont College for PT school, and we both want to be married so he can go with me. We've been together for almost 4 years now. We get the typical you're too young stuff all the time.

So this is why I pose the question, how old were you??

 

[BayouPrincess]

When my husband and I married, I was 19 and he was 21. THat was almost 20 years ago and we will be having a DFTVR next Thanksgiving. We got the you're so young thing too, but it's what we wanted. Now, granted I had quit college and he was about 3 semesters from graduation.

Sometimes life gets in the way. We started with children early, and now, our oldest daughter and I attend college together. It's actually fun!

Congratulations on your engagement. YOu and DF just need to be true to one another on what you want. Nobody knows what the two of you feel but you. Just be honest with each other and talk it out and in the end it should work out.

Enjoy yourselves and good luck in Grad School!

 

[mbrooks]

I'm getting married in January, and I'm 22. Like you two, my fiance and I have been together for over four years. We too wanted to wait until we'd both graduated college (he's in his first year of law school, and I'm in my first year of grad school). I don't think we're too young, but we've lived together for two years, so I feel like we are well-prepared. I think that if you feel ready (seriously ready!) to be married, then you're certainly not too young. It definitely depends on the couple; I know most of my friends are NOT ready to be married.

My parents were 19 and 21 when they got married, and they've been together for 26 years.

 

[JaxTeach]

I will turn 30 on our wedding day...DF turned 27 in August. We've been together for 5 years at this point.

 

[Keira1387]

Hi! I am 20 DF is 21. We have been together for 3 years. We are getting married next year at the wp. Do not listen to other people. You have to do what you feel is right. I was suprised, very few people have told me that I am too young.

 

[Kristen14]

I'll be 25 and my DF will be 22 when we get married. You'll find that as soon as you graduate from college all your friends will start getting married. Its funny because nobody ever talked about it while we were in school, but I went to 7 weddings within 2 years of graduating!

Dont listen to everyone who says you're too young. You're mature enough to graduate from college, and are planning for future education. The only thing I would be concerned about is planning a wedding while studying for the GMAT and writing grad school application essays. That was not fun!

 

[PrincessBride010103]

I'm 19 DF is 20 and we've been together for 5 years we're getting married in 15 months at the WP

 

[orangetiggs]

We are both 26 now and will be 27 when we get married next year and we have been together 9 years and have had a house for 5 years so I dont think its too young you have to follow your heart

 

[helloirishkitty]

I'm 21, and DF is 27. At this point, he has his PhD and I'm in graduate school, just 1 1/2 years away from getting my PharmD/PhD. We're getting married a month after I hopefully complete my private defense of my dissertation and pass that state pharmacy boards. We get the "you're so young" ALL the time. Well, more me than him. But I look at it this way, I'm financially independent and make my own decisions on everything else so why not get married if I've found the love of my life?

 

[iggbees]

i'm not married or getting married yet, but i wanted to chime in with the graduation thing.

i graduated in 2005 (from an all women's college nonetheless) and i know of at least 10 people that got married within the first year after graduation. most of who weren't even engaged at the time we graduated.

it's your personal choice really. if you feel prepared then go for it, but if you're just doing it to be able to move in together and you really don't want to get married, then don't. the reason my boyfriend doesn't want to get married is because he doesn't feel ready. he's 25 and he's going on his 4th year in grad school now. i just started grad school in the fall but stayed here 2 years ago after graduation to be with him (my family is back in nj).

good luck with what you choose! don't feel bad about what people say. if you're old enough to support yourself they really shouldn't be saying anything about how you are too young to get married.

 

[prncesaurora21]

i'm 21 and DF is 22. i graduate from college in dec (yikes!) and we are getting married in may. when we get married we will both be 22 and we will have been together 5 years and lived together for 2.

we used to get the "you're too young" stuff but once people realized we were serious they let up. do what makes the two of you happy.

congratulations!

 

[DISNEYmooner2008]

When my husband and I married, I was 19 and he was 21.

I'm getting married in 2 months and am 19 and DF is 21 We constantly get the "too young" thing, but we know what's right for us and that's becoming our own family. He is out of school and is a police officer, I am in school for the next 2 and 1/2 years.

 

[sunsh1ne]

i was 23 and dh 24 we were together 8 years.

 

[Queenie]

I am just 21 and will be almost 22 when we marry, DF will be 33. I haven't had any comments about being too young, we mainly get raised eyebrows when people figure out the age gap. I expected the worst from our families to be honest but my family love DF and never once questioned him. His family did a bit of a double take when they first met me but we get on great now and regularly vacation together. We have been together almost 4 years and known each other 5.

I won't graduate for many years yet as I'm doing a distance learning degree, will be 2012 minimum.

 

[disneydreamgirl05]

Thanks to all!!

Bayouprincess- that would be fun to go to school with your daughter!! You’ll both always have someone there for support. I’d love for my mom to come with me so when I get lonely, I’d have her!!

Mbrooks- I definitely feel ready. We got engaged almost a year ago, and I was ready then, but I don’t want to quit school and we live two hours apart. Thank you for replying!!

JaxTeach- Thank you!!

Kiera1387- I was surprised too that everyone said I was too young. In the town I’m from, it’s not uncommon to get married straight out of high school. I hear this more from the peers at college. Congrats on getting married!!!

Kristen14- Oh I definitely don’t look forward to the GMAT!! We’re not planning on getting married until way after I graduate. I’m graduating a semester later than most due to double majoring so I’m taking the spring semester off before grad school to plan for the wedding. Hopefully, it won’t be that bad!!!

PrincessBride010103- Congrats on getting married!! My DF and I are high school sweethearts too!!

Orangetiggs-Thank you!!

Helloirishkitty- I feel the same way!! I’m financially independent and make my own decisions too. I fully agree with being able to marry the love of my life if I’m like that!!

Iggbees- No, I don’t want to get married just to live with him. I was just having that argument with someone last week!!! HA! If that was the reason, I would just go ahead and live with him. Thank you for writing!!!

Prncesaurora21- I don’t hear it as often anymore (thank god!). Congratulations on graduating!! I’ll be a Dec grad too!! But next year! Also congrats on getting married!!!

DISNEYmooner2008- My DF is working a great job with his father and I’m doing the school thing sort of like you!! Thanks for writing and Congrats on getting married!! Isn’t it exciting!!

Sunsh1ne- wow!! 8 years is a long time! Congrats!!

Queenie- I don’t the age is a problem at all! I understand with the 2012 thing!! I’ve got so much school to go that it seems like a waste not to be married!!


Again, thanks to everyone who responded!!! I appreciate it!!

 

[ceopamom3]

My DH and I were married young (while in college), and divorced, and re-married at WDW in 2004.

Getting married young is not easy. My DH and I both agree that although we are very happy now, it is not an easy road. We would strongly advise our children to wait until they are older.

You will both change substantially in your early 20s and into your professional life. You may grow together, both lots of folks grow apart.

You are shooting for a lifetime together, waiting a few extra years until you know yourself can be very beneficial - and avoid lots of heartache.

The funny thing about being young is being so sure of everything. The older -and I hope the wiser - I get the more I listen to and ponder the advice of others. Some days I actually think I know very little, and still see how much I have to learn. Please pay particular attention to the guidance of your parents; they love you and would never want to see you hurt.

So, best of luck to all. Planning a wedding is exciting, making a marriage work and last is hard work.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

i am 27 and my df is 36. we have been living together for about 5 years now, maybe a little bit less. i really wanted to get married when we were dating, when i was in my early 20's, i'm so glad that we didn't. living together has been the best thing for us. we have learned so much about each other and ourselves that our relationship is so much stronger than it has ever been. when we first started dating, i think people looked at our age difference with raised eyebrows, i don't even think about it anymore. we are both educated, he has 2 masters degrees and i am working on my mba. i feel a little bit like an older bride, several of my friends got married right out of college, sadly, many of them are now divorced. everything happens for a reason, i'm glad that we've had the opportunity to get our careers off the ground and have a stable home as we enter our marriage!

 

[B2B-2008]

I will be 28 and DF will be 32 when we get married. I personally wouldn't have got married young as the things that are important to me now are so different to the things that were important to me when I was 21. And the guy I was with then was not my Mr Right.

You are the only people that know if it is right for you or not.

 

[Namsupak]

I will be 24 and DF will be 27 when we get married. We've been dating sine I was a senior in high school. In May I'll be graduating from dental school and he'll be graduating from medical school. For us we were pretty much born grown up so nobody ever said anything about us being to young. We were engaged back in 2000 and reason we haven't gotten married is because it would have been really hard for us to focus on school while planning a wedding. Not to mention the FFIL pays for our house and car and anything else we can't pick up ourselves. He told us that when you get married you're suppose to stand on your own 2 feet and he wouldn't pay for anything once we got married. And he said if we waited he would help us pay for a Disney wedding. So that was a no brainer

Everyone is different and everyone has they're own reasons. I know that professional school is a huge test of your relationship. For us it brought us closer together. For many I have seen how it has torn them apart. For us waiting was best because we got to live together with no financial stress and now we can have the wedding we've always wanted.

 

[yearbook50]

I will be 21, he will be 24. We will have been together 3.5 years when we get married.

It feels right for us. He's already in his professional role. I'm graduating college in December. I'm not planning on going to Grad School until my future employer will pay for it & then it will only be at night.