OT but I could use your prayers and pixie dust

[honeymo78]

I broke up with my fiance of 5 years over the weekend. We're still sharing the house we live in until June when the lease is up but will be leading separate lives. I've been going from wanting to eat everything in sight to not wanting to eat at all. And exercise is something I could care less about right now. I could really use your support to just stay sane right now and continue with daily tasks. It was really hard for me to get up and go to work today but I made it - an hour and a half late - but at least I managed to leave the house.

Thanks for listening.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I'm so sorry Stephanie. I had one devastating break up in my life, and lost 30 pounds in a month because I could not eat. Not a good way at all to lose weight, eh?

You'll be in my thoughts. Let yourself feel the way you feel, because this is akin to a death on the emotional trauma meter. Be nice to yourself and if you can find someplace else to stay...seeing your ex every day for the next 7 months is going to be horrible for you.

 

[helenk]

My thoughts are with you, you have been so helpful to us with starting the "whose exercised" posts.
A few years back I went through a similar situation, my husband at the time wanted a divorce but would not leave and we ended up living in the same house for a few months and it really got to be stressful.
You know you will get a lot of support here. I truly hope everything works out for you.

 

[TigH]

(((((((((Stephanie)))))))))))

I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. You do need to take some time to grieve, but also be as strong as you can be and live up to the other commitments in your life (work, health, friends and family).

If it's any consolotion it DOES get better! I dated a guy for a year, then we got engaged and lived together for 2 years. It was a toxic relationship, but I had no idea at the time how bad it was. That's when I put on alot of weight (eating for love). When we broke up I felt like someone had punched me in the stomach. Everything I had planned on for the future was completely not going to happen (getting married to him, having beautiful babies with him, spending more time with his family, etc.) It was so devastating.

But after the initial shock wore off I discovered that I wanted to BE FREE and take my life in a new direction. It's just gotten better and better since then!

Good luck to you! You can get through this. Don't beat yourself up if you don't exercise alot or make the healthiest food choices, but do know that in time you'll get back into that groove and really want to feel good about yourself again.

((((((((((Stephanie)))))))))) You are a brilliant, wonderful, successful person. You'll make it through this! xo

 

[sadeeyore]

{{{hugs}}} and PD sent your way. I'm sorry and I hope things work out for you

 

[lmhall2000]

I think TigH said it best- things just get better and better once you get past this. But must you live in the same place??? I think that would be torture! But I will have you in my prayers and hope that you are able to focus on what's bright in your life more than what you feel you may have lost. I had a painful breakup- we dated over 3 years, but I knew it was for the best- and 3 years later I found the most perfect man for me- we've been married 11 years and I couldn't even imagine life with my former boyfriend- he was a wonderful man as well but not right for me to spend a lifetime with. Have courage and treat yourself well!!!
We're with you!!!
Tara

 

[honeymo78]

thank you everyone - i really needed to hear that it would be okay from someone other than my mom. Unfortunately neither of us can leave - can't afford to pay for the house individually and I can't leave and pay two rents. Thank goodness it's a big house and not just an apartment. And with the holidays approaching I'll be busy with work and seeing my family. The hardest part is not having any friends close by. I've lived in the area for 3 years and haven't really met people my age. I've spent most of the time with him. Hopefully with my new job at BBW I'll be able to make some new friends. Thanks again for being there.

 

[mishoe01]

Hugs, PD, and prayers going out your way........please let me know if there is anything I can do for you....

Hang in there - you're amazing!!!!

 

[PartyofSix]

Steph, I truely hope you find strength from your wish friends during this big change in your life. We are here for you. I really hope you don't trash all your hard work over this event. Remeber you need to focus on you right now and rediscover yourself and your loss is a big part of that. I wish only the best for you.

 

[kayeandjim00]

So sorry to hear about your break up Stephanie. Your mom is right though - things WILL be ok. Your WISH friends are always here when you need support and you shouldn't ever hesitate to ask. Take good care of yourself during this adjustment period and as others have said, even though it's hard to see how now it will work out for the best for you.

 

[MelanieC]

Stephanie,
(((HUGS))), sorry about your breakup. My thoughts and prayers are with you. We are here for you.

Melanie

 

[jillwdw]

Stephanie,
Prayers and pixie dust to you. What a rough time and I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. To believe that there is a silver lining must be nearly impossible right now. There is a reason why things happen and you have the opportunity to enjoy life caring for only you. It is a freeing feeling to experience life as your own person when you have lived with another for a long time. Please hang in there and remember you have family here!

 

[Beanie]

I am so sorry to read this, Stephanie!! Sending you some pixie dust in hopes that it all works out for you!! Hugs!

 

[DoeWDW]

Stephanie, {{ hugs }} and lots of pixie dust are being sent your way today!

You are stronger than you know and you will get through this. We'll always be here for you, whenever you need us.

Try to find ways to be good to yourself. You are so much more than someone's girlfriend - try to rediscover all the good things about you.

 

[perfectmatch300]

Stephanie, I've been through several fairly traumatic break-ups during my life, & the one thing I have learned is that there is ALWAYS something better for me just down the road. You just have to make yourself available for those opportunities to arise, so that does mean you have to get yourself out of the house, & you do have to take good care of yourself. On that note, exercise is the very best stress reliever I know of. I wish you were able to live in separate places, but getting out of the house as much as you can should help with that. Otherwise you just have to make the best of the situation for now. You may want to takl to your landlord to see if there is any way you can get out of your lease early, or maybe sublet the house to pay that rent so you can both move out. just a thought.......
In the meantime, stay close to the support system you do have, & let us know how you are doing, OK?