OT Am I the only one that thinks this is rude?

[MusiqChic99]

Very poor manners. Like the person who invites you to their house then talks on the phone while you sit alone.

I had a friend who would always invite me out for dinner and then talk or text on her phone the whole meal!!!! One time she did it to the resturant, during the meal and on the drive home. She had to tell her friend on the phone ..."just a minute"...just to tell me goodbye! I was only 23 years old at the time and she was 30!!!!! You would have thought it would have been the other way around.

Poor manners is right. I am really trying my best to teach my son good manners and he is only 2. Never too early if you ask me!!!

 

[MusiqChic99]

OK, so I'm not the only one having this issue. With us though it's more a parent who sent me a rude email that her daughter's "social circle" is too full this summer and just because we live so close is not a reason to be friends. OMG these girls are 8 and they have to have a social circle! She also blasted me and said she and her daughter were uncomfortable that my daughter asked her instead of the child if they could have a playdate. I remember my daughter getting a yes from the daughter and at my house permission also has to come from the parent. This email came after I had nicely invited the ladies 2 daughters over to use the sprinkler on two 98 degree school days. Needless to say we haven't spoken to them since the email. We will have to see them come September as the bus stop is at their house and they are in Brownies together. This summer has been rough watching my daughter stare at the girl wanting to play with her and not understanding why she wasn't friends anymore. She even got another parent to lie that there was not a gathering at her house the last day of school but of course her car was there. I'm not putting this neighbor in an awkward situation and just staying away from them for the summer too. My daughter isn't perfect but to be treated like this is just downright thoughtless and hurtful to a young child. We practice inclusion in this house not exclusion!

I think that is what is the saddest part...you try to teach your child something and then you have an adult doing the complete opposite! Poor examples for their own children too. No one is perfect but having simple manners and being polite isn't hard!

 

[tlbwriter]

I have tried telling the 2nd girl that my daughter is busy when she calls and then she has just knocked on the door. And of course my daughter and the other girl with both come running when they hear a knock.

Just because someone knocks on your door doesn't mean you have to answer!

The next time she calls, tell her DD is busy... "and please don't come over to the house. I've already told you she can't play with you right now."

If it happens a second time, tell her DD is busy... "and can I speak to your mother please? Hello, RudeGirl'sMom? I wanted to let you know that DD can't play with RudeGirl this afternoon, just to make sure there's no misunderstanding. She tends to come over anyway. LOL, I know, none of them will listen at this age!"

If it happens a third time, be waiting for her outside (pretend to be doing yardwork or whatever). "Oh, hello, what are you doing here? No, I already told you DD cannot play with you this afternoon. Maybe some other time. Goodbye!"

 

[mjkacmom]

This is a tough age, and it doesn't get any easier. It's not like you can get involved, except to talk to your dd. Children need to learn how to work these things out, and make choices. My oldest had a friend at this age who was her friend one day, her enemy the next - it was so hard to watch! My dd knew what was going on, and knew it was her choice whether or not to keep this girl as a friend (she'd apologize to my dd all of the time).

Now they're 12, and no longer friends.

 

[hollyd99]

Oh my...We have 2 sisters across the street and one girl next door. The next door one is a trouble maker. All 4 of them CANNOT play together because the next door is sneaky and lies and causes trouble between the other 3 for fun. And then of course someone's feelings get hurt and fights occour. Not worth it! If there's someone else to play with, my daughter is invisible to her, or else she's plain mean. But as soon as that other kid goes home, no matter what trouble she's caused earlier, she'll come knocking at our door looking for a friend. Weird thing is she's nice to play with when it's just her.

Don't even think of telling me to speak to her mother....

Sunday evening this kid was outside with her 1/2 sister (she's 9 and convieniently her 1/2 sister is 9. hmmmm.....)and they sat on the sidewalk in front of my house and screamed and called eachother "ho's". 9 years old. 9 year old's don't talk like that, even in my nieghbourhood. So I told them if they wanted to scream and talk like that, they can go in front of their own house and do it. Well, she went and told her mother on me, so her mother came out and told me off, telling me I should act more mature. I cut her off and said "do you know what they were saying?", I told her and of course the girls denied it. She looked at them, then looked at me, and then yelled that I was miserable and went home. IN fact, she said I was miserable and this nieghbour and that neighbour were miserable, so my mother said that if everyone was miserable, she should maybe take the hint that it was because of her. It didn't faze her that her kid was talking that way she was!
I would have been so ashamed!
Out of spite, the kid and her sister sat on the boulevard in front of my house for a while after and stared.