I'm so glad you joined us. As for the questions your asking me it's really difficult to see where it is you are wanting to go. Have you make a plan yet? As for exericise that i do i do a combination of two tapes. I have found the 2 mile watp(walk away the pounds) and THE FIRM ab sculpt really work for a nice 1 hr workout for me. I enjoy both of those and feel i'm getting some toning and calorie burn from both of those tapes. I feel great and engertic when i'm done with them. On the days i exercise 3-4 times a week i have a bowl of ceral after my exercising but on friday-sun i skip it. I'm not a breakfast eater by nature so i force it the other days to kick me off to a good start after a hard work out. I use it as a reward for my body for doing the exercising.LOL As for what i eat i don't eat anything fried unless it's faux fried (oven). I have burned up TWO Foreman grills and about to get a third. All my meat (boneless porkchops, filet mingon, boneless skinless chicken breast, hamburger meat, & salmon filets) are cooking with that thing.LOL I think the key for me is making my food tast goodl. The seasoning is so important to make me fill satisfied. I use bone sucking mustard to flavor almost all our meat, we also like dejon mustard coated cooking onto the hamburger to give it kick and terrikayi on the salmon. We have a variety of Zatterani rice mixed we love to cook minus the butter it makes a great filling side dish. We enjoy frozen veggies' that are boiled in Swanson's flavored broths the Italian herb is awesome with butter beans and mustard greens. We enjoy corn on the cob once a week or so, baked beans, brocoli, sweet potatoes (fried in the oven) eggplant, spagetti cassarole i make just anything you could think to eat within reason we eat. But we also measure the portion. Read on the packages what a portion is and measure out that amount in the beginning then when you repeat certain foods you love you know what you can have. We always have a sald before we eat atleast 5-6 times a week. We use the mixed greens and shred 1 oz sharp cheddar on it with crutons and ff zesty italian by kraft. I enjoy the salad and it cuts down my portions at supper i usually can't finish it. You'll notice your food goes a lot further and you'll have left overs for lunch or dinner atleast one more night.LOL Sometime i grill off a pack of chicken and we do fajatias one night, grill some onions and cube some chicken add mustard until it's cooked on one night then bone suckin sauce on it one night. Then we'll go to hamburger one night. Just don't get stuck in a rut be creative make your food taste good. And nothing on my plan is off limits just have to use your noodle and put it in portion control mode. I have dougnuts maybe just one dougnut hole though, i have toostie pops, frozen yogurt cones, pretelz with salsa for dipping, kettle korn and the list goes on. I hope i gave you some ideas i know not every plan works for everybody but this is just a small sample of some of the things that work for me. Before i forget i stopped all caffefine besides half can of soda first thing in the mornings and it's water the rest of the day.