Onto...Christmas Drama!

[BelleWDW]

So lets say you KNOW that the family Christmas party is always the Saturday before Christmas 11am-2pm ish

Your Office party-which you love to atten is that evening-7pm.
You have grown kids-so no siitter issues.

Is it too much to drive one hour to and from the family get-together?

 

[mrsklamc]

So lets say you KNOW that the family Christmas party is always the Saturday before Christmas 11am-2pm ish

Your Office party-which you love to atten is that evening-7pm.
You have grown kids-so no siitter issues.

Is it too much to drive one hour to and from the family get-together?

No, provided there's no weather issues, I don't see a problem there. Other than loving to attend my office party; never had that issue.

 

[mtemm]

only if I don't want to see the family. lol. and depends on the person. I know people who are less social and too parties in one day, even if its family, would be a lot for them. me? I love to drive and I love to go to parties, so no problems on my end.

 

[diznygirl]

So lets say you KNOW that the family Christmas party is always the Saturday before Christmas 11am-2pm ish

Your Office party-which you love to atten is that evening-7pm.
You have grown kids-so no siitter issues.

Is it too much to drive one hour to and from the family get-together?

You leave the family party at 2:30 or so, get home an hour later, still have three hours or so before the evening party - I don't see a problem with being able to do both.

Is there more to the story?

 

[mtemm]

my guess is someone either wants to back out of the family party or have the date changed because they are saying it is inconvenient due to the office party, and the op isn't having it, so is wondering what others would do/think.

 

[Acklander]

In theory I'd have no problem doing a family party in the afternoon and a office party in the evening, but the reality is, I'm from an Irish family so there would probably be a lot of booze at the family party in the afternoon and not so much at the office party at night. They always say you shouldn't drink too much at the office party - so I guess it would be a big no-no to show up to the office party already tipsy.

 

[BelleWDW]

Actually-its not my party-my MIL's.

I asked my SIL -who lives one hour away- what if we (meaning the whole family)changed it to Sunday and she just shrugged.

(Sunday really isn't "great" because several family members have long church services on sundays)

 

[Allison]

One hour-not a big deal to me at all. It seems very doeable.

 

[disykat]

I'm confused - at first I assumed the OP wanted us to agree that it is rude to ask that a party that is a standing date be moved for one person's convenience.

It doesn't even seem that inconvenient to me for one person who happens to have 7:00 plans that night to attend a party from 11 - 2. It seems absurd to change it to Sunday where multiple people would be unable to do an 11 - 2 timeframe due to their regular weekly schedule.

Despite that it appears I might be insulting the OP by saying this, I think it is extremely rude to expect several other people to miss the party or skip church that day because one person doesn't want to attend two functions on the same day, even though their times don't conflict.

 

[Carly_Roach]

You leave the family party at 2:30 or so, get home an hour later, still have three hours or so before the evening party - I don't see a problem with being able to do both.

Is there more to the story?

I agree. There's more than enough time to do both parties, even with the hour drive.

After the OP supplied more details, my advice would be for her to choose the one party she and her DH wants to go to if she doesn't feel like doing both on the same day. She saying she doesn't want to attend two functions on the same day, but what she's proposing is that everyone else attend two functions on the same day (church and the family Christmas Party).

Either go to both planned functions (one of which is work-related and optional) or choose the one you want to go to the most and live with the resulting fallout. Don't make everyone else have to live with the choices that you yourself don't want to live with.

 

[BelleWDW]

Just wondering if anyone else thinks she has plenty time to drive back and still have 3-4 hours to shower-redo hair and makeup?


Cant see why she says she cant attend our family party?

PS_there is no alcohol at the family party.

 

[disykat]

Okay - now I'm relieved. It's clearly NOT the OP - it's someone else! I was trying to figure out how she was thinking she'd get support here if it was her that wanted the party changed.

OP - can you reread your second post? It really sounded like you were the one who wanted the party rearranged for your own convenience.

 

[Carly_Roach]

Just wondering if anyone else thinks she has plenty time to drive back and still have 3-4 hours to shower-redo hair and makeup?


Cant see why she says she cant attend our family party?

PS_there is no alcohol at the family party.

Your details are very vague so it's hard to give an honest answer. I'll have to give a bottom line answer:

The person that you're saying you can't see why she says she can't attend a family party likely doesn't WANT to attend the family party (for whatever reason), therefore she's trying to give you excuses that you're now trying to shoot down.

If it's you that's trying to change everyone's plans just so this one person will show up, then I recommend you stop it right now. People will either make the family Christmas party a priority on that day or they won't. You have no control over their actions. If it's your MIL who doesn't want to throw the family Christmas party, then accept it gracefully and decide if you want to do the honors yourself or forego the family Christmas party this year.

It's only your drama if you make it your drama.

 

[BelleWDW]

OP - can you reread your second post? It really sounded like you were the one who wanted the party rearranged for your own convenience.

Thanks-I re=wrote it so the players are clearer.


Its not my party & was just curious if others thought she had enough time to do both parties. Her grown kids said they are coming-also from one hour away.

 

[EthansMom]

Thanks-I re=wrote it so the players are clearer.


Its not my party & was just curious if others thought she had enough time to do both parties. Her grown kids said they are coming-also from one hour away.

I think she has enough time to do both parties, assuming she doesn't have any other plans for that day. However, whether or not she attends the family party is up to the invitee. If she chooses not to attend, then that's her decision (for whatever her reason might be).

 

[DisMN]

Just wondering if anyone else thinks she has plenty time to drive back and still have 3-4 hours to shower-redo hair and makeup?


Cant see why she says she cant attend our family party?

PS_there is no alcohol at the family party.

She may be trying to spare feelings by simply saying there isn't *time* to do both. It's entirely possible there's someone she doesn't like at the party and she's trying to avoid being being there. This scenario wouldn't surprise me at all. I'd let it go. You can't control everyone/everything.

 

[shortbun]

Just wondering if anyone else thinks she has plenty time to drive back and still have 3-4 hours to shower-redo hair and makeup?


Cant see why she says she cant attend our family party?

PS_there is no alcohol at the family party.

Well, I WAS wondering about alcohol so I guess that's not the problem. Hard to get drunk twice in one day, lol!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Maybe she is planning on going home with someone....

I do agree if she does not show, it would not bother me. Her reasons are her own.

 

[powellrj]

I'm assuming that since she has grown children she is older. I know that I don't like to attend 2 parties in one day anymore. Its just too much. I need to take an afternoon nap if I am going out past 10pm!