I don't have one specific question, but I can tell you what we did...
The preschool was thru the school district so really not much choice on that-- I mean we could have sent him to a private preschool, but the public one is reverse-mainstreamed and all the therapists we'd been with in First Steps were also at the preschool...
The spring before kg, we had the transitional IEP meeting at our "home" school. The preschool teacher attended the IEP meeting also. In the meeting we found out-
1) the SpEd teacher had never worked with a child with autism before
2) she had
never heard of a visual schedule and suggested maybe the preschool teacher or I could make one (like I know the school schedule)
That was it. DH and I called the district SpEd coordinator and arranged for tours of the other local elementary schools. We had the option of requesting a different school within the district, and we took that and ran with it.
I am more of a technicalities and list-making person. I asked a lot of questions about what kind of staff was at each school, where the SpEd classroom was (because often here they are "out in the trailer" still, and I have a real problem with that), what kind of autism-specific training the staff had (mostly very little). You can tell a lot about a school by where they put the SpEd room. If you go to one school and the SpEd room is in the main hallway in the middle of the regular classrooms, and you go to another and the SpEd room is in a trailer stuck behind the school, I could be wrong, but that speaks volumes about how the school views special education. I know all schools are crowded for space, but I'm still amazed at how often the SpEd room is stuck in a place where they wouldn't even consider putting a regular classroom. If Mrs. Jones's 2nd grade class was out in a trailer in the parking lot, parents would throw a fit, but apparantly it's acceptable to put the Special kids out there.
We toured during the school day and got to peek in the rooms and you could tell
a lot from that- one school there was a group working on a "cooking" project and having a blast, one school the SpEd room was cluttered and noisy and no real structure. My DH is more of a "vibe" person. Each of us having our own specialty, we both agreed on the same school. I have learned since DS was diagnosed that instinct is legitimate. My gut instinct has served me well and I wished I listened to it sooner.
After our change of schools had gone thru, I said something to the preschool teacher that had been at the IEP meeting with us. She couldn't say anything during the IEP meeting because she's also an employee of the district, but she flat-out told me that it had scared her half to death, she
liked DS and it horrified her that he would be attending school with a very clueless SpEd teacher. She was really relieved we'd changed schools.