On line dating?

[Singleminnie]

Some of my friends have suggested to me to try a on line dating service, such as match.com or chemistry.com, appearently they are having a free weekend this weekend. I was wondering if anyone has tried one of these companies or any other company?

 

[MainStMandy]

We met on plentyoffish.com! Started emailing in May, met in June, were engaged the following April and will be married next March

You just have to use common sense and weed through...well the weeds

 

[Hercules10]

Can't remember which site, but I tried one recently and got hit by three "women" who happened to live out of the states. And all three needed money to save their dying mother/aunt/sister. Never again.

 

[Kim&Chris]

My neighbor met her husband on eHarmony.com

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I met my DBF on eHarmony. We signed up around the same time and were matched a week later. Took it slow at first, met in November for the first time...he's The One

 

[Desiree]

I've never tried online matching sites but hubby and I met through a chat program called ICQ.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

Okay, I have a different theory and it might not be very popular.

But I will say, I met my DBF online but we were both dating other people and it wasn't a dating site. It was MySpace and we became MySpace friends because we liked a lot of the same stuff. He e-talked me through a horrendous end to the worst relationship I'd ever been in about 5 months into our e-friendship. He'd long since ditched the girl he'd been seeing because "she was just dumb" (his only words about her lol).

A few weeks later, we met in person & spent about 9 hours together just hanging out in a fun touristy area of our state. We then started hanging out about 2-3 times a week. Eventually we committed to each other and here we are. It'll be one year together in a few weeks.

But the thing is, we weren't looking for a relationship when we met. I don't think dating sites work for most people (sure they work for some) because I think when you are trying too hard to find someone, it starts to be your main focus instead of just living life and having fun. I think sites like MySpace or MeetUp.org etc. work better because a lot of times, the intent is just to find platonic or even same sex friends (I've met 2-3 of my best female friends on MS as well).

Just my opinion. But I'd probably never sign up for a dating site because I'd rather just find friends and see what happens.

 

[MickeySP]

Met my current on plentyoffish.com but be careful, ask the rights questions.

Lots of guys who say the want LTR and are just in it for the ego boost. Score & move on.

 

[kelleigh1]

We met through AmericanSingles.com in October 2002. Met in person a few weeks later. Engaged in March 2003 and married in June 2004.

We were 32 when we met and had both been through the games and other disasterous relationships, so we knew what we wanted and more importantly, what we didn't.

We met in the chat room and just started talking. I wouldn't say that I was actively looking for "true love". I was actually chatting with a lot of people in the chat room - men and women alike. But we just clicked and exchanged phone numbers right away (which neither of us would normally do) and we talked to each other every day after that. And to this day, we really are best friends too.

If I could give you just one piece of advice, it's to trust your instincts. If you're talking to someone online and it just doesn't feel right, don't meet them in person. You can meet some great people, but you can also meet some real creeps, so just be smart and trust your instincts.


On a side note, I did know this other girl who was around the same age as me, but she was "desperate". She wanted to get married and have kids, so she probably went about it in the wrong way. She would start talking to a guy on Wednesday. Meet him for a date on Saturday and then invite him over her place after the date. Then after they left the next morning, she'd call them repeatedly and couldn't understand why they weren't returning her calls.

So what I'm saying is, go into it with an open mind. Think of it as a chance to meet people and not as you "last chance at love." Have fun with it!

 

[SamRoc]

Met my current on plentyoffish.com but be careful, ask the rights questions.

Lots of guys who say the want LTR and are just in it for the ego boost. Score & move on.

I have one good story and one bad. First the good, my friend met her husband on match.com. They have been married 3 years and it worked out great for them. Next the bad. My friend found out her husband had a page on myspace where he said he was single looking for relationships. Well, he had them. She caught him and he confessed to having over 150 affairs in their 14 year marriage!

 

[Singleminnie]

Met my current on plentyoffish.com but be careful, ask the rights questions.

Lots of guys who say the want LTR and are just in it for the ego boost. Score & move on.

What are the right questions? Tell me more about plentyoffish.com?

 

[MarkBarbieri]

I haven't tried any of the online dating sites. I don't think my wife would approve.

 

[paintnolish]

I know tons of people who have met on math.com. Several are married, in serious relationships, or engaged! I met dh on match.com. He's the first one I actually met IRL (talked to one guy on the phone a few times). Good luck!

 

[MarkBarbieri]

I know tons of people who have met on math.com....

I'm guessing that you would mostly meet geeks there.

 

[BeenHereB4]

I used Match.com for a free week offer years ago (about 3). Went out with several men and then met my now DH. The guys I met were mostly very nice, had good jobs, were looking for a serious relationship, etc. I just didn't feel "chemistry" until I met DH. BUT, I also met a few who I could tell were on there for and that's it. Some also seem to want the ego boost as another PP stated and they may be married or involved men. They will email and email till the cows come home but never meet up.

I never put a photo up so I would have to send it to some of the "suitors". Be prepared to send a photo and then never hear back. LOL - that sometimes cuts a little.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!!

 

[MarkBarbieri]

I knew a gal that met a guy online. They dated for several months and then broke up. Several years later I found out that he made it rich and was now a billionaire. True story.

 

[kelleigh1]

I never put a photo up so I would have to send it to some of the "suitors". Be prepared to send a photo and then never hear back. LOL - that sometimes cuts a little.

I had this one guy send me a photo and after seeing it, I never contacted him again. The guy in the picture had really dark hair that was longer and curlier than mine, full beard (kinda Grizzly Adams like), was wearing a black t-shirt with some obnoxious design on the front and he was holding a beer in one hand and a gun in the other.

 

[BeenHereB4]

I had this one guy send me a photo and after seeing it, I never contacted him again. The guy in the picture had really dark hair that was longer and curlier than mine, full beard (kinda Grizzly Adams like), was wearing a black t-shirt with some obnoxious design on the front and he was holding a beer in one hand and a gun in the other.

LOL -what? You didn't put beer and shootin' in your "likes"?

I swear I waxed before sending my photo!

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I've tried eharmony, match.com, and chemistry. I met one guy on eharmony (I wasn't matched with a lot) who was still in love with his ex that he had broken up with a WEEK before going to Eharmony (and looked nothing like his picture), I met a guy on match.com who was very cute, we were perfect for each other, dated for 8 months, and I swore up and down he was the one. Apparently, so did many other girls as I wasn't the only one he was spending time with, if you know what I mean . Then I met a guy on Chemistry.com who seemed nice at first and he was 7 years older than I was at the time (He was 32, I was 25). Come to find out his longest relationship in his entire life had been 3 months and he didn't put a lot of importance on relationships, so I got out of that.

There's just as many dogs on online sites as in real life but online gives you more opportunity to meet guys you normally wouldn't have the chance to meet in real life. I know I never went anywhere (bars, clubs, etc.) to meet guys. I stopped "looking" and happened to meet my wonderful bf of two years in person!

My ex-boss met a girl on eharmony and married her 6 months later. That was a couple of years ago. They now have a baby and are having problems. Just don't rush anything. Online guys are just like real life guys. You have to get to know them, know how to spot the bad ones, and hope for the best!

 

[Mickeyistheman]

I have been on them all and now in these times refuse to pay on Match.com or Eharmony because guess what....they are all on other sites as well that are free!!!

About 3 months ago I joined Plentyoffish.com and well its alright, its just a pain b/c you have to just send out a dozen or so emails to get a least 2 or 3 responses. Many though say one thing and mean another and want to talk to you on the phone after one email. Its a hard game and it is a game.

I may get flamed but I had better luck and longer relationships from Craigslist than on any other dating site.

There used to be a Disney one but I think that is no longer

You will find all different types of men....many are already involved but still think the better one is out there, many are also married. It really stinks, and then men wonder why we have trust issues!

But I will echo another poster that said sometimes if you aren't looking it comes your way and I totally beleive that. I look but if I don't find someone oh well, when its meant to happen it will.

I wish you alot of luck OP, its a jungle out there, hope you find your Simba Sorry I couldn't resist...But seriously Good Luck!