OMG-I am pregnant ( freaking out a little)

[MrsJones]

I don't know where to start,

I am kinda new to the Disboards, but I must vent a little.

My fiancee Trent and I are planning a Disney wedding for June 12, 2008 at Sea Breeze Point and a 10 day vacation there for us, my 2 children with my ex-husband and my best friend and her family. So far, so good.

Well, lately I haven't felt good. Run down, sick to my stomach, etc. I am just getting over an Upper Respiratory Infection and thought that that was it. Then, I realized I am a week late. OMG So, I tell fiancee, who says, your pregnant, let's get a test. This is Friday night and I say let's wait till Sat. morning, when the pee is fresh and see what happens.

Saturday morning: 2 tests later, yup, pregnant. I am very much in love with this man and we talked about me coming off birth control in May and getting pregnant asap ( I am 40, he is 22 go ahead, get it out of your systems girls, lol ) and I need to make a baby right away if my eggs are still working ( obviously are)

Well, I will be HUGE in June. I don't want to be huge at my wedding. Plus the costs of a Disney wedding, Disney vacation and a baby all in one year can't happen for us everyday people, you know. Soooo, now I am thinking, ( after I call my doctor tomorrow morning and see what is up, I lost a baby a few years back and I know I will be considered high risk because of what happened and my age, and I am fluffy to boot . Not obese, but, fluffy, lol )

So, maybe something small here, with more of our family and friends who wanted to come but Florida is quite a trip, then still the vacation in Disney, then the money we would have spend on the DFTW we can put towards baby stuff? My mind is going 110 mph right now.

Should I start making phone calls asap, I mean I would want to get married in like April or May here, not much time to make plans in SC and I want to let everyone at Disney ( Randy, Rev. Day, etc) know so they can become available for someone else. What should I do girls? HELP !!!

Tamara ( happy, in love, freaking out, a little )

 

[Lizby]

Congratulations Tamara!!!!! What wonderful news! If I was in your shoes, I would sit down with DF and see what we could afford. Don't stress about putting a wedding together quickly, because it can definitely be done. You two need to decide what will work for you. Good luck!

 

[BayouPrincess]

Tamara,

First off, congrats on the baby and for a healthy pregnancy.

I think you're right on the phone call thing. You need to get rolling on the home wedding if you choose to do that. Try not to stress too much over the situation.


Enjoy this time with DF right now! It seems to be a running theme here on the DIS...

 

[pink_tink8i8]

Congratulations! that's wonderful news.

If you don't want to be be "huge" at your wedding, do you think you might want to try and move the date up? My cousin who is in her early 40s just had a high risk baby and as time goes on you get more and more exhausted and have to make more frequent visits to the hospital plus the stress of everything. I, personally, would try to move the date up if you simply can't wait or push the date back if you don't mind waiting a bit.

p.s. I'm all for women dating younger men, no worries. Plus it shouldn't matter what people think anyway if he's the "one" for you. I think that's great!

 

[Lynn5700]

Congratulations to you!!!How exciting

See what you both think is best and go from there,don't stress too much about it,you will know what feels right

again congrats and I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

 

[FIREFLY01]

CONGRATS AND BEST WISHES I AGREE WITH EVERYONE ELSE TALK IT OUT AND SEE WHATS BEST FOR BOTH OF YOU EVEN IF IT MEANS MOVING IT UP GOOD NEWS IF ITS STILL AT DISNEY THEY DO ALOT FOR YOU SO IT MAY BE EASIER THAN DOING IT ALL YOURSELF AT HOME!
AS FOR THE AGE THATS NO BIG DEAL IM 5 YRS OLDER THAN MY FIANCE ALL THAT MATTERS IS HE MAKES YOU HAPPY!!

 

[OceanGdss]

First off... breath! Congrats on the pregnancy. Ill be praying for a happy and healthy 9 months to come for you. Second... Sit down with DF and write out all of your options and the costs. How much in deposits will you lose by cancelling? Is there any way you can lessen the costs of the wedding? It seems you're already doing an intimate wedding, so maybe you can't lessen it too much. But write down everything...compare everything. And really think about what will make you and DF happy. Maybe changing the date will be the answer. Maybe Randy will let you use your deposit towards a "1year Vow Renewal" at Disney next year and you can get married in SC this year on the cheap. Just a thought. My sister was in the process of planning her wedding when she found out she was pregnant with my niece. Since my sister is a little vain (yes..I can say it...she is MY sister ) she didn't want to wear a wedding dress pregnant. So they were married by at the courthouse and had a big celebration the next year with all the money they had saved for the original wedding. Let us know if there is any way anyone here can help out. We wish you the best and your heart will tell you whats right to do. But most importantly....

Congratulations! ​

 

[PrincessBride010103]

yay for another pregnant dis bride
i dont feel so alone now
when are you due?

 

[Disney_Angel]

Looks like someone got into to the pixie dust!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Be happy. If it stresses you out postpone the "Disney" wedding and just get married! And have a one year anniversery wedding in Disney. The same...without all the worry!

My daughter is adopted.....we had less than SIX weeks to get ready for her.
After the birth we had to postpone the fairytale wedding because a custody battle ensued......it tooks SEVEN years to adopt her. We will be having our 10 year wedding anniversery in Disney. Be happy and stay healthy....when you hold your little one....now that's a "Magical Moment"!!!!
Besides you two can take baby on his/her first Disney trip as a family.
Good Luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

 

[Disney_Angel]

Looks like someone got into to the pixie dust!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Be happy. If it stresses you out postpone the "Disney" wedding and just get married! And have a one year anniversery wedding in Disney. The same...without all the worry!

My daughter is adopted.....we had less than SIX weeks to get ready for her.
After the birth we had to postpone the fairytale wedding because a custody battle ensued......it tooks SEVEN years to adopt her. We will be having our 10 year wedding anniversery in Disney. Be happy and stay healthy....when you hold your little one....now that's a "Magical Moment"!!!!
Besides you two can take baby on his/her first Disney trip as a family.
Good Luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

 

[Iluffyou]

I can't offer much advice but CONGRATULATIONS!

The age thing really doesn't matter, all I thought when I read it was "You go Girl!" lol

 

[Lisella]

Congratulations!

I agree with the others (they are so helpful here). I would sit down with your DF and decide what you could afford and handle (healthwise). If getting married at home is right for you, I think it would be a great idea to see if you could postpone the Disney wedding another year like suggested. Keeping it small now and saving up for that (if it is an option).

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts for health and happiness. I'm sure you will be able to work out something...

 

[TamTab]

Congrats! That is so great.

I think you should do whatever you think is the best for you and the baby. Also whatever will make you happy. I wish you all the best!

 

[DisneyBride'03]

First and foremost....Congratulations

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

I believe that everything happens for a reason....I understand not wanting to be "huge"...perhaps move up the date if possible...it will be hot in June anyway and you would be uncomfortable.

What abt a Disney wedding at Disney's Hilton Head Resort?

WE finally had our baby in 06...I was 40....you can always take the baby back to WDW and plan a "wedding" or vow renewal....you have alot of options

Just dont stress...be happy....it will all work out

 

[SanFranciscan]

One thing you might consider is having a quiet marriage just between the two of you if it is important to you to be married before the baby comes.

Is it mandatory to have your wedding and your wedding reception the same day? What if you have your wedding now and maybe a reception after the baby comes? It can then be your unity as a family reception.

 

[grlpwrd]

You're too cute ... congratulations!

 

[twiu]

So.. that's why you haven't emailed me! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! That is amazing news. I know with the hormones and all, this must be a bit stressful for you, but seriously, it's all good. You are so blessed to have a new little one coming soon!!! Take it a day at a time. Like the other girls have said, get married at home and do a party at Disney later. Actually I think if you have a party at Disney - and not a wedding, costs go down significantly. It's amazing that as soon as you say "wedding", prices get super crazy expensive.

Let me know what you decide. I'm still here to help if you do decide to do the Disney thing. Enjoy your pregnancy

 

[chrisw127]

Congrats! What an interesting thread. I followed it from the food board. I hope everything worked out okay. I saw that she stopped posting!

 

[disneypolybride2008]

Congratulations!

Maybe see if you can do the Disney wedding and vacation sooner? Good luck

 

[Dancermomof1]

Everyone has such good advice here!!! I agree about having a small non-Disney wedding. You could always renew your vows at Disney after a smaller wedding at home. We couldn't afford to have a Disney Wedding originally and that is what we are doing. With a baby on the way and every day expenses I know how you feel. Best wishes and congratulations!