Okay... so does anyone else not get along with their (future) in-laws?

[FutureAshleyDukes]

Please don't tell me I'm the only one!!!! Whenever I tell my friends about some of the issues I'm having with mine, they ALL start in on how amazing theirs are.

It really gets wearing at times, I love their son, but sometimes I wonder how he came from them!

 

[RangerPooh]

I have problems too. I get along with my FIL well enough but my MIL is evil! She intentionally stirs the pot and has tried on many occasions to get DH to end our relationship. This is perplexing as she's his step-mother and has no real interest in DH or his siblings, only her own children. She has even complained about how I raise our daughter, like she should talk. Last Easter she even stormed out of our house (we were hosting it) because she couldn't stand our rules and conversation. Needless to say I try to limit my time at their house. When we're out with his parents I do my best to get to know his dad as I like to see him smile every now and then, as he rarely does with his wife.

 

[karentan]

mine were fine all the way up to the wedding, all the holiday, all up to new years, then an argument kicked off about dinner and i'm not welcome in their house now. the way i see it, if theyre that petty, i dont want to know them! relationships can change so quickly with the inlaws, its scary!!!

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

I'm glad I"m not the only one! My future mother-in-law borrowed money from my mom, told her she would pay her back, and then NEVER spoke to her again! Everytime my mother would visit me in Tennessee his mom would go out of her way to avoid seeing her. The sad thing is it wasn't that much money, and if she had just asked my mom she wouldn't have had to pay her back. I'm thinking the wedding might have a few uncomfortable moments.

 

[groomtb]

never gotten along and never will

 

[sajetto]

My DF parents are great! His grandmother on the other hand, not so great. When we told her that we were having our wedding at Disney months ago she said

"Well, don't you dare think I'm going all the way to Florida in a stupid little children's place like Disney just for a wedding! Good luck to you because you're going to need it!"

We've never gotten along since. I really don't think we ever will

 

[hiwaygal]

I don't have any...

I think they would have been great!!!

 

[ead79]

My MIL is very difficult to deal with. Sometimes I think it just comes with the territory.

 

[hmgolden]

I love their son, but sometimes I wonder how he came from them!

I know that feeling.

My inlaws are not terrible people by any stretch of the imagination, but they value VERY different things from DH and I and that makes them very difficult for me to handle sometimes. My MIL also has had a very hard time 'cutting the apron strings'. She's been known to call to say its cold out and he should wear a coat! But, as far as inlaws go, at least mine are pretty harmless and I know it could be much worse!

 

[Tink_Fan]

It really gets wearing at times, I love their son, but sometimes I wonder how he came from them!

I wonder this too, all the time!!! His mom is just out for what she can get from everyone. His dad and step-mom are okay.....

 

[sajetto]

She's been known to call to say its cold out and he should wear a coat!

My DF's grandmother is that way. You would think she was his mother. She calls him constantly to talk about his blood pressure and all of her church friends. I know she loves him but I wish she would cut the calls down to once week or so. I think that deep down she likes me but is upset because I'm taking her baby away.

 

[princessblueeyzes]

I am going through very trying times with the FIL's and have since day one. As soon as I think that things are going to get better with them it ends up even worse! I guess it's part of the territory. I love my DF but have a hard time with his family. His dad told me that he is going to give my DF the option to go to Vegas and party and that he would give him a $100 if he didn't marry me. My DF's dad also tried the same thing with his sister to get her not to marry a guy. How crazy huh?

 

[evedein]

HMGolden,
The "coat " comment brought back memories.When my now ex-husband & I were first married, my MIL called one night to tell him it was going to be cold out & to wear his coat. He was 25 yrs old. He was an only child & she was VERY protective.When DD was born, she shifted her protectiveness to her. A very nice lady, but a bit overbearing at times.Otherwise my in-laws were wonderful people & continued to be very helpful to & supportive of me even after the divorce. Our divorce was reasonably friendly, however, he informed me that I got his mother in the divorce. Even after he remarried, he refused to take her back. Ha,ha.

 

[hmgolden]

Eve & Ashley - I'm glad I'm not alone with such things. I know its not a big deal, and the woman means well, but for goodness sake we're 26 years old! If we forget to wear a coat, or forget to change the clocks, or forget his college roommate's birthday, we'll manage. Ah well, its a good thing I love her son

Our divorce was reasonably friendly, however, he informed me that I got his mother in the divorce. Even after he remarried, he refused to take her back. Ha,ha.

This cracks me up. DH tells me all the time that if we ever get divorced he gets to keep my parents in the settlement!

 

[zalansky]

My MIL is very difficult to deal with. Sometimes I think it just comes with the territory.

Same here, and - it doesn't get any better once you're married! To those who have great in-laws, consider yourselves very lucky.

 

[Disneyrsh]

After dealing with my MIL for 19 years (and counting) I just smile and nod. Smile and nod (clench teeth).

Try not to sweat the small stuff; and don't open yourself up for opportunities for her to hurt you. We have a cartoon of Lucy and Charlie Brown up on the fridge and Charlie Brown's trying to kick the football as Lucy pulls it out from under him.

Try not to be Charlie Brown with your MIL...

Let's not even start with her using the "N" word around my daughters-that got her put in Grandma Purgatory for about 9 months...

 

[allisonswonderland]

I have problems too. His MIL is usually very nice and we get along, but she is BOSSY and is used to being the only girl, having 2 sons. She likes to get her way and gets huffy...she tries to boss me around and it irks me... They do not want to pay for any wedding stuff and pay for everything for his brother and his family. It stinks and she wants to invite everyone in the world to our wedding....I also did not want to put our engagement ppic in the paper since we are al going to be away, Ihave heard of people being robbed and that they watch the dates and rob them while on the homeymoon. She got mad about that...i just feel like she wants attention b/c we are getting married, that I honestly believe was her big issue about us marrying at Disney.

 

[princessblueeyzes]

I have problems too. His MIL is usually very nice and we get along, but she is BOSSY and is used to being the only girl, having 2 sons. She likes to get her way and gets huffy...she tries to boss me around and it irks me... They do not want to pay for any wedding stuff and pay for everything for his brother and his family. It stinks and she wants to invite everyone in the world to our wedding....I also did not want to put our engagement ppic in the paper since we are al going to be away, Ihave heard of people being robbed and that they watch the dates and rob them while on the homeymoon. She got mad about that...i just feel like she wants attention b/c we are getting married, that I honestly believe was her big issue about us marrying at Disney.

We should compare notes- my FIL sound a bit much like yours. But in the end all I can do is just because I don't want their meanness to get to me and make me cry. Hang in there PM me anytime and we can compare notes. I know that they can sometimes want to make you cry or I think they do stuff on purpose to

 

[Laurafoster]

Im the same, when we got engaged my future MIL said "well i wouldnt have spent that much money on an engagement ring" and when we told them about where the wedding was going to be my future FIL thought it ok to say " well most people who dont have a "normal" wedding end up getting divorced a few years later"

 

[sajetto]

Im" well most people who dont have a "normal" wedding end up getting divorced a few years later"

Oh my lord! It's my future grandmother-in-law's twin

Hang in there, I know what that is like and it can be a bitter pill to swallow. Big hugs