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[cindys_castle2011]

My best friend just texted me and said

"Me and (her boyfriend) are talking about if I got pregnant."

me- "Uhm.. okay.. What's he saying"

"That he'd kinda be happy.."

me- "WTH? Why?"

"Idk.. I'm not gonna lie, I kinda would be too"

me- "Uh why??"

"Idk, it would make us closer and we wouldn't have to worry about any other people getting between us."

SERIOUSLY!?! She out of ANYONE should know what a baby does to a teenage couple. We have two friends that got pregnant when they were 15 and both of their boyfriends are no longer with them.

I mean my boyfriend and I have talked about 'what if'. But we both know we're not going to have sex until we're AT LEAST in college.

I would NEVER say I'd be happy, or even okay with the fact of being 16 with a child of my own. I'm still a kid! I don't need one now.

Really, if someone thinks a baby would make them closer they OBVIOUSLY aren't meant to be together. If you think another life will make you stay together, then you don't need to be with that person.

ITS JUST CRAZY!!!

/vent

 

[Sparx]

honestly, i wouldn't be surprised if she got pregnant really soon.

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Hmmm...I don't know. Don't you think you're being a little biased?

I mean, when you said that two of your friends got pregnant and neither of them are with their boyfriends anymore, aren't you just judging what your life would be like based on other people experiences? Has nobody ever told you that you always learn from your mistakes? You can't possibly know what the outcome of any situation would be if you never try anything out, if your always acting just because of what goes on around you.

I mean, i'm not saying 'yeah, your friend should go get pregnant'. I, too, think it's a bad idea to have a child at our ages, we are only just children ourselves, we have our own lives to look after. I'm just saying that it's her life, she should do what ever she chooses, whatever she thinks best. Though i think she should totally think things through full before she comes to a conclusion.

But to me, this all sounds like you'd be judging your friend's actions based on how you feel, not how she feels? Wouldnt you, as a friend, be happy with whatever choice she makes?

But i do agree that having a child at our age is a bad idea. We can barely look after ourselves. Plus if she does think that having a child would bring them closer together then she shouldn't be thinking of having a child at all. We donlt have children to bring people together...

 

[BabyPiglet]

I agree with Shelby, in that she will turn up pregnant very soon. I bet they're actually trying now.

And, sounds like she's been watching too much Secret Life.

 

[Babyjustrun]

There's obviously a lack of trust in this relationship.
From both parties.

 

[WDW Girl]

i think you really need to talk to her before she does somthing silly!

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Hmmm...I don't know. Don't you think you're being a little biased?

I mean, when you said that two of your friends got pregnant and neither of them are with their boyfriends anymore, aren't you just judging what your life would be like based on other people experiences? Has nobody ever told you that you always learn from your mistakes? You can't possibly know what the outcome of any situation would be if you never try anything out, if your always acting just because of what goes on around you.

I mean, i'm not saying 'yeah, your friend should go get pregnant'. I, too, think it's a bad idea to have a child at our ages, we are only just children ourselves, we have our own lives to look after. I'm just saying that it's her life, she should do what ever she chooses, whatever she thinks best. Though i think she should totally think things through full before she comes to a conclusion.

But to me, this all sounds like you'd be judging your friend's actions based on how you feel, not how she feels? Wouldnt you, as a friend, be happy with whatever choice she makes?

But i do agree that having a child at our age is a bad idea. We can barely look after ourselves. Plus if she does think that having a child would bring them closer together then she shouldn't be thinking of having a child at all. We donlt have children to bring people together...

I am judging her on my opinions. I mean EVERYONE judges people on how they feel. If not, that wouldn't be judging.. right?

But I'm sorry, good friend or not, I'm not going to be okay with her purposely having a child with someone that she's only been with for 9 months, and being 16 at that.

If that makes me a bad friend, then so be at. But I'm not gonna give her a pat on the back for purposely having unprotected sex.

If it was a total accident. Okay, I can half way understand that. But now since she said she'd be happy with it. I'm not gonna be okay with that.

There's obviously a lack of trust in this relationship.
From both parties.

There is, totally. I mean they break up every other month. If you ask her, she'll tell you she doesn't trust him. They're not even suppose to be together, because of her parents. He's black.. But thats not the point. There is no trust what so ever. And she has it in her mind that a baby will change all that, and keep them together for good.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I am judging her on my opinions. I mean EVERYONE judges people on how they feel. If not, that wouldn't be judging.. right?

But I'm sorry, good friend or not, I'm not going to be okay with her purposely having a child with someone that she's only been with for 9 months, and being 16 at that.

If that makes me a bad friend, then so be at. But I'm not gonna give her a pat on the back for purposely having unprotected sex.

If it was a total accident. Okay, I can half way understand that. But now since she said she'd be happy with it. I'm not gonna be okay with that.



There is, totally. I mean they break up every other month. If you ask her, she'll tell you she doesn't trust him. They're not even suppose to be together, because of her parents. He's black.. But thats not the point. There is no trust what so ever. And she has it in her mind that a baby will change all that, and keep them together for good.

If her parents are racist, then if she gets pregnant she'll definitely be looking for a new home to stay at.
This can only end badly.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

If her parents are racist, then if she gets pregnant she'll definitely be looking for a new home to stay at.
This can only end badly.

I never said her parents are racist. I just said she's not allowed to date him, because he's black.

My parents aren't racist at all, but I'm not allowed to date out of my race either.

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

I never said her parents are racist. I just said she's not allowed to date him, because he's black.

My parents aren't racist at all, but I'm not allowed to date out of my race either.

Really? Wow, my parents wouldn't care at all. As long as he was a gentleman who respected me, race is no play in a relationship. Personally I consider that racist, but hey I'm not here to point fingers and call names.


But to the subject at hand, your friend--I don't really know how I'd react to that!

A child will not make people closer in the end all the time. If they have trust issues, after they have a kid together, they may find one day the only reason they stayed together was for the baby, and don't really love each other at all.

 

[BabyPiglet]

You aren't allowed? I don't know, sounds racist to me.

 

[SKJA124]

Really? Wow, my parents wouldn't care at all. As long as he was a gentleman who respected me, race is no play in a relationship. Personally I consider that racist, but hey I'm not here to point fingers and call names.


But to the subject at hand, your friend--I don't really know how I'd react to that!

A child will not make people closer in the end all the time. If they have trust issues, after they have a kid together, they'll may find one day the only reason they stayed together was for the baby, and don't really love each other at all.

i can't find the nodding smiley, so i'll just use this one
I agree. And my parents wouldn't care either; just as long as he was a good guy.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I never said her parents are racist. I just said she's not allowed to date him, because he's black.

My parents aren't racist at all, but I'm not allowed to date out of my race either.

That doesn't really change the situation.
If they're against interracial relationships, then they're certainly not going to let her keeping an interracial baby in their house when they clearly forbade her to see him, let alone have sex with him and get pregnant.

 

[daisyyy]

I never said her parents are racist. I just said she's not allowed to date him, because he's black.

My parents aren't racist at all, but I'm not allowed to date out of my race either.

I agree with you... It's not racist,,, many of my friends are from other ethnicities.. but I know my parents would not have been happy if I dated someone other than my own race. not that I couldn't be friends.. it's just that it makes things much more complicated being inter-racial / bi-racial... whatever... I know.. I'm not a teen, but my kids are getting near that age, and believe it or not.. it hasn't been that long since I was a teen... it may seem like forever, but believe me.. time flies... So.. that being said... you really need to talk some sense into that girl.. babies do NOT bring you closer.. they only provide too much stress.. I gaurantee if she does get preg, it wont last.. and it will change her "outlook" on life.. ( I don't want to say ruin her life, because kids are a blessing... when your're older , ready and financially stable... ) If she has a baby so early she will only grow up and regret not being able to live her childhood to the fullest... she has too many oportunities she will miss by having a baby too young. She will be sorry... try to get her to WAIT... before it's tooo late.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I agree with you... It's not racist,,, many of my friends are from other ethnicities.. but I know my parents would not have been happy if I dated someone other than my own race. not that I couldn't be friends.. it's just that it makes things much more complicated being inter-racial / bi-racial... whatever... I know.. I'm not a teen, but my kids are getting near that age, and believe it or not.. it hasn't been that long since I was a teen... it may seem like forever, but believe me.. time flies... So.. that being said... you really need to talk some sense into that girl.. babies do NOT bring you closer.. they only provide too much stress.. I gaurantee if she does get preg, it wont last.. and it will change her "outlook" on life.. ( I don't want to say ruin her life, because kids are a blessing... when your're older , ready and financially stable... ) If she has a baby so early she will only grow up and regret not being able to live her childhood to the fullest... she has too many oportunities she will miss by having a baby too young. She will be sorry... try to get her to WAIT... before it's tooo late.

I'm curious, how so?

 

[DramaGirl]

If someone believes that two people should not be dating based solely on the colors of their skin/ethnicity/race, I consider that racist. But that's just my opinion and not what this thread's about. So.

1. If there are trust issues, a baby will just rip these two apart, not bring them closer. Actually, I would say that even if they were the closest 16 year old couple in the world. They are not emotionally ready for a baby.

2. Please tell me they've been tested for STDs. That's not a small issue.

 

[OneTreeHill]

If someone believes that two people should not be dating based solely on the colors of their skin/ethnicity/race, I consider that racist. But that's just my opinion and not what this thread's about. So.
.

Anyways.

It wouldn't suprise me at all if she got pregnant really soon.
A baby wouldn't bring them closer, and I just can't understand how a 16 year old would think of something like that.

 

[PigletGurl]

Let your friend know how you feel about this.

My boyfriend and I agreed we will have sex when we get married, and possibly have a baby soon after. 16 is too young to get pregnant, hasn't she watched Secret Life?? lol

I hope everything turns out well .

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Thats crazy!
My old best friend tried and still might be trying to get pregnant.
She's 17 and a SENIOR. She knows she's going to ruin her whole year.
She knew her boyfriend for a total of 4 months and they have been together for 2 of them.
Ugh.

 

[Vannah]

I really will never understand why teenagers try to grow up so fast.
Do they really think that life'll be better when they're a "family"?
I mean, there's more to a baby then just "bringing people closer together".
It costs a lot more than any teenager could ever think.
Ughhhhhh.