my son also suffers from peanut and tree nut allergies... when i called to make our ADRs the CM noted it on our ressie, and gave me the telephone number of each individual restaurant that we chose, asking that i call 48 hours in advance of each meal to remind them... i was pleased w/their sense of caring...
that being said, while i trust ourselves and the chefs and waitstaff to do everything in their power to keep my ds safe, i am very leery of cross-contamination in the case of dishes of peanut sauce on each table... ds does not have to ingest peanuts/tree nuts in order to have a reaction, simply touching or breathing it could trigger one... ergo, we are opting to skip 'ohana this trip... dh and i are on the fence as to whether we'll leave the kiddos at the neverland club so we can enjoy the dinner... we'll make that decision when we get there...