OH NO!! I am having second thoughts on moving to Florida!

[mommytotwo]

Good luck with your choice. I have never been to Florida, but with the other posts that are on here, it does seem like a nice place and it seems like a change may be something that you will need.

 

[Planogirl]

We've moved several times due to job changes. Some of those moves were wonderful and a few were big mistakes. But you know what, I wouldn't change a thing. Even the wrong moves helped us to grow and to find our perfect place.

Hopefully, Florida will work out well for you and your kids. But if not, you can go elsewhere. I strongly suspect that you'll do just fine.

 

[HappyMommy2]

I am so excited for you! Moving is fun, but a bit scary too. We've moved many, many times (military) and every single time, no matter how nice a place we're moving to, we always get nervous and sad right before the moving date. And then once we arrive at our new city, we go through what we call "post-move depression"--for a few weeks we just feel out of sorts and homesick (again, even if we've moved to a great place!). I have learned that it takes two months in a new place for me to start feeling at home, and then things get much better quickly from there. So if you do move to Florida and even once you're there you feel a little miserable at first, don't be surprised--that's normal with any big life change! I'll bet you'll be feeling comfortable and loving Florida life in no time at all. And if not, you can always move back to where you came from, and you and your kids will be none the worse for the experience.

God bless you. I know you have a lot to think about right now!


Janet

 

[Mishetta]

Hi Telly,

I wish I had the right words to offer you but maybe if you pray about this a little more, the right answer will come to you. I know what's on your mind ~ leaving your family to go to FL where you have no one. That is a scary thought, especially since your kids are so little.

I did the same thing....I just moved to CA from MI in my 20's & lived there for 10 years. (My 10 years in Paradise.) Anyway, I was home sick everyday. I missed my family sooooo much that after we had our first son, I couldn't bear to be away & had to move back. So here we are, back in MI!!

Of course, it was during my 10 year stay in CA that I met my DH so there was a reason for me to move there. Who knows, maybe you'll be meeting your new fate in FL!??

Whatever you decide, I wish you & your children the very best. Good luck sweetie!

 

[Pop Daddy]

dont go

 

[Trinity721]

I would say to listen to that little voice called instinct. I've seen your posts and you've sounded so excited and have everything sooo well planned. I think you'll be just fine. It could very well be that you're just anxious and nervous about the move, but I think you have it all covered. Moving is always a big change and hard to adjust to at first, but I really believe that you'll be happy once you're all settled in! There's a world of opportunity waiting for you there, I really think so....

Don't forget your DIS friends are always here! Good luck with everything, and God bless!

 

[FINFAN]

Telly, as we've talked B4, life is what you make it. You know who your support system will be, and you know you will second guess either choice, staying or going. I agree w/the others that you are so young and so are your kids that if the move is not what works best for you in the future, you are free to head elsewhere. That does not necessarily mean back to MI. I have been working so much that I have not been on the boards much at all the last 2 months, but I had the chance tonight and here is your post. From one who has wished 1/2 her life away wanting to live in Fl., I say go for it....however, life has also snuck up on me and this has become "home" against my will My point is if you are serious, do it now while your kids are young, and you are flexible. Heck, keep in mind anyplace you need to be is just a plane ride away.
Sending your way. Also, just because you are feeling a bit unsure right now, does not mean you can't choose to move to Fl later on either...stay in control, Telly....you will be fine.


Pam

 

[PamOKW]

It sounds like you've already done your research and are/were comfortable with the move. If that's all true and this is just "cold feet" -- take out a picture of what your neighborhood looked like in mid-January --- the move to Orlando will look like a great idea once again!

 

[Pin Wizard]

You're normal! I had the same thing happen before my move. I went back and forth between thinking how much fun this would be and how much I needed a change in my life to thinking...am I nuts? LOL! I remember the first time I spoke to the Virginia realtor on the phone. I felt completely overwhelmed while she was asking...when are you coming up to look for a place? Prior to selling my home, I had spoken with one friend because I was really torn about staying or moving. In the last couple weeks when I talked to a different friend, I told her the same thing. I'm excited about the move, but is it the right thing?! Even the night before I moved, I was out with a bunch of ladies from a church group of mine. Being with them made it more difficult! I really had doubts again about whether the move was right. This was the night before!! Well, I'm thrilled to be in my new state and my new home. Now...to find that new job!!!!! Good luck, Telly! You'll be fine.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Originally posted by palmtreegirl
There were a variety of reasons but I the deciding factor came down to not wanting to leave my family.

Shortly after we decided to move to Florida my grandmother died, whom I was very close to. At first I was still set on moving since I've always wanted to live there & I love the warm weather and of course palm trees.

DH got a job offer, we'd decided on a place to live(Hunters Creek) and we were all set to move when I started havings second thoughts, does this part sound way too familiar? lol So we really started thinking about it again, after a lot of thought and a coin flip we decided to move to PA instead.

I decided that life was too short and who knows how much longer my parents( and DH's parents) would be around and since we're so close and my kids are incredibly close with both sets of grandparents, I wanted to stay close to them. My parents have a vacation house in the same community we live in now and are going to be moving here this summer for good & my sisters also on her way here.

It turns out that my intuition was right about this being the place to be because my Dad was just recently diagnosed with Parkinsons disease, thank goodness were still close by because who knows how long he'll be in good health. I don't think I would've been able to handle being far away at this point.

It doesn't mean we'll never leave though, I think that ultimatley we will move one day but for now this was right decision for us. We have NO regrets but I'd be lying if I didn't say *what was I thinking* when it was -11 this past winter! So for now to satisfy our need for our Disney fix and warm weather we bought into DVC.

Sorry this got so long and good luck with your decision!

I guess this is what is holding me back...FAMILY. My parents are old (in the mid-80s and mid 70s). My mother went through a lot in life and most of them are not happy memories. My mother's joy right is are my children (7 and 5). My kids always bring a smile to my mom and my mom's always lit up with great joy. Since I have been on leave of absent from my job (this is due to trying to transfer my job to Orlando, by visiting Orlando, I needed some time off) the kids have seldomly comes over my parent's house. But now the kids are on vacation, I wil be taking them over at my mom's place a little bit more often.

The same thing with my MIL, my kids are the only thing that ties her to her son. And she is always filled with joy when she sees my children which is only once a week since she is still working. My parents are very old and their health is not that great and I just can't seem to imagine if anything happens to them and I won't see them again for the last time beeing alive if they die suddenly just like my husband died so suddenly (heart aneurysm). If anything happens, I would like to be able to drive 15 to the hospital or 20 minutes to their house.

Family is bigger than just a nice warm weather (HOT HOT HOT during some months), palm trees and being near the "magic". But I think the the most important "magic" is...being right here where I am right now, being with the ones you love and the people who loves me and the kids. Nothing can be greater than LOVE.

Thank you everyone for your well wishes and your kind words and your kind thoughts. This means a whole lot to me. God Bless.

Telly

 

[Dan Murphy]

Move to Chicago.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I guess this is what is holding me back...FAMILY. My parents are old (in the mid-80s and mid 70s). My mother went through a lot in life and most of them are not happy memories. My mother's joy right is are my children (7 and 5). My kids always bring a smile to my mom and my mom's always lit up with great joy. Since I have been on leave of absent from my job (this is due to trying to transfer my job to Orlando, by visiting Orlando, I needed some time off) the kids have seldomly comes over my parent's house. But now the kids are on vacation, I wil be taking them over at my mom's place a little bit more often.

The same thing with my MIL, my kids are the only thing that ties her to her son. And she is always filled with joy when she sees my children which is only once a week since she is still working. My parents are very old and their health is not that great and I just can't seem to imagine if anything happens to them and I won't see them again for the last time beeing alive if they die suddenly just like my husband died so suddenly (heart aneurysm). If anything happens, I would like to be able to drive 15 to the hospital or 20 minutes to their house.

Family is bigger than just a nice warm weather (HOT HOT HOT during some months), palm trees and being near the "magic". But I think the the most important "magic" is...being right here where I am right now, being with the ones you love and the people who loves me and the kids. Nothing can be greater than LOVE.

Thank you everyone for your well wishes and your kind words and your kind thoughts. This means a whole lot to me. God Bless.

Telly

That was a beautiful post Telly and I couldn't agree with you more!