O/T What would you have done??

[GraysMom]

I agree with a lot of PPs that you should go with your own gut feeling and stay home with your DDs. I'm so sorry about your FIL and the miscarriage.

Awhile ago DH and I were considering moving to Sweden for a few years for his work (neither of us speak Swedish, but they usually speak English pretty well). One of the big things that made me not want to go was how far we would be if someone in our families got sick (my grandparents are both old and ill). In the end, that was the big dealbreaker for me. I'm guessing your DH probably realized when he moved away (I'm assuming he moved?) that this kind of situation might be a possibility. Thank goodness he was able to get there before his DF had passed.

If your sister thinks you should just drop everything and go, would she be willing to watch your DDs so you could spend more time with your DH and DFIL at the hospital? If she's not willing to help you out than she really should back way off.

 

[fluffernutter]

Thank you to everyone who posted and offered moral support and I give my hugs to those of you who shared their similar issues and experiences.

No change on my FIL,he is still on a ventilator and had kidney failure,but the hospital isnt really being forthcoming with information to DH on his actual condition,that is another story in itself. Dh is still in PR and still says not to come out there.

as for my sister situation,she is still being the $#@% that she is ,starting a whole family feud about this,we havent talked since that conversation and she isnt talking to my mom now because she is upset that my mom took my side,I hate family sometimes!

We have an annual tradition thanksgiving time that all the girls get together at my moms house and bake my great-great grandmothers recipe for jelly cookies, we were scheduled to do it this year on sunday,she now announced she isnt coming. My grandmother is very upset about all of this,so I said well I wont let her stop tradition and we are going to do this at my house. Not that I want to do this right now,but for my kids and tradition I dont know how not to do it, so we will see. I dunno,lol

thanks again everyone,i felt much better seeing that I had the majority opinion on my side even though in my heart I felt I knew what was best but to have "strangers" be more empathetic than family says a whole lot