O.K. school age parents-give me your thoughts!!

[antkim]

Ds(5) will have his 1st FULL day of Kindergarten on Sept.3rd. Dh just got 2 tickets for a Patriots pre season game on the night of Sept. 2nd and he wants to know if I want to go. Of course I do because we had a ball the last time we went to a game together. We would be home no later than 10 because we would leave the game early.
My heart is telling me that I need to stay home that night even though my Mom said she will baby sit. I just think that it's a big day the next day and he needs me to be home with him-he may be excited, nervous etc. about going to school the next day not to mention he may not go to bed early if my Mom is here.
SOOOO even though I would LOVE to go to the game(this might be the only 1 we will have tickets for) I don't think it's the right "mommy" move.
What would you do? Have I made the right decision? Dh has a friend that wants to buy the ticket tonight if I don't go.

Kim

No attacks PLEASE!! LOL

 

[jrydberg]

It's only the Patriots Seriously though, I wouldn't go to the game. There will be other football games.

 

[snoopy]

I did make the same decision as you did -- we were invited to the beach the weekend before school starts, a free place to stay and everything, but I had to turn it down. I think its important they have some downtime with Mom and Dad before reality of school sets in.

 

[Serena]

It's only a preseason game, and it is a big night for your ds. Since you asked, I'd pass on it.

 

[tidoublegger]

Honestly, I'd stay home...it's a big day for him and you should be the one helping him get his backback ready, tucking him nice and early, etc. I know it's a tough decision, especially since tickets are hard to come by, but he'll only start kindergarden once!!

I just started a thread about the Patriot's training camp...maybe it's something you guys can go to this week! My daughter is starting kindergarden and she loved it!! If you get there early enough, you can get up close to the field and get autographs!

 

[always quiet]

Personally, I wouldn't go..............not only could your son need some "mommy time", but believe me, I can see you sitting in the stands, watching the game. You KNOW your thoughts are NOT going to be on the game. They are going to be on that little boy sitting home.

One other word of experience. My Jeana started school, she was so excited, didn't act nervous or anxious at all. Well, when I picked her up from school, the teacher told me she cried so bad that she sent her down to the guidence office because she was making all the other kids cry!! Even though AJ might not 'seem' nervous, believe me, a little extra comfort from Mom won't hurt a bit!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I don't think I could go. I would stay home.

Will your DH stay home too? I'm sure I would tell mine to go without me.

 

[HollyJoy]

I can understand your feelings, but you have to consider the fact that you will most likely put your child in bed early the night before school! However, if you think that you will sit there at the game and be miserable, thinking of being home, then don't go!

 

[Disney's Deluxe Princess]

I wouldn't go either. Once they hit school age, everything changes. Their world starts to revolve around school freinds, homework and teachers. I'd want the night before school to be as "normal" as possible. My DD was full of questions the night before kindergarten. It really surprised me. She knew school was coming, but she never mentioned a word about it until the night before.

 

[kidzmom3]

I havew to agree with the previous posters. My kids are always a little nervous, excited, hyper and scared the night before school starts. And the big step of the first time in all day school. I would be there for that. It only happens once in a lifetime for your child. We live in NE also, and love the Patriots, but I would pass. Good luck.

 

[antkim]

When Dh got the tickets I didn't realize it was the night before school. It just dawned on me yesterday!! I told him to go(of course!) and I would go the next time we got tickets!
I probably wouldn't enjoy myself anyways because I would just be worrying about my little man!! That's what Mommy's are suppose to do! LOL

Snoopy-I can't believe how much your boys look alike!!

Kim

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Nope I wouldn't go. There will more football games but this will be the only time you will have this moment. There is something special about starting K.

 

[snoopy]

You think they do, Kim? I see some similarities, but a lot of differences too. Particularly in the way they are built, but then you couldn't see that from the pic.

We should start a Mommy support group for all of us with little ones starting kindergarden. In my case, its my baby, and it just breaks my heart. I know, I should be rejoicing in this milestone, but I'm having empty nest sadness, big time. I'll be fine once its said and done, but for now I'm a wreck.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

My DD (5) just started kindergarten on August 3rd and we had plans to do something the night before it started. We stayed home and had some quite time with my DD. Talked about how things were going to be the next day and I was there when she was having a hard time going to sleep. (She was not used to the early bed time.) But I was able to answer her questions she had and than she relaxed enough to go to sleep.

But honestly. Go with your heart. Nobody is going to tell you what it right or wrong.

Good luck.

 

[antkim]

Snoopy their noses and cheeks are identical!! LOL
A Mommy support group is perfect!! Even though A.J. is my oldest I still consider him to be "my baby"!! LOL There is 5 years between him and Mattie so I had 5 years of him all to myself!! I'm going to miss him A LOT!! I've been a SAHM ever since he was born!! Thanks a lot-now I have tears rolling down my cheeks!! LOL I'd really have a good time at the game-NOT!

Kim

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Kim,

I'm not a mom, but I think if you feel in your heart that it's the wrong move, then do not go. It is just a football game. There will be others but first full days of school only come once.

~Sheri

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'll take the opposite view! If your son is very comfortable with his grandma I would go to the game. Well, personally I wouldn't because I hate football , but if it is something you would like and don't often have the chance to do, don't feel guilty for going. Your son might think the time with his grandma would be a treat (maybe order pizza and buy some special ice cream treats). If that isn't the case, or if you don't think you'd have a good time (or if you go to games often) then, by all means, stay home with your son.

Either way, have a great time!

T&B

 

[KimRaye]

I have a somewhat similar situation, and now I feel horrible. I have night game tickets to a Cubs game the night before DD's first (all-school 1/2) day in 1st grade. She went full day to kindergarten in the same school, as well as 2 years of Pre-K there, and I didn't think twice about leaving her home with her Dad that night while I go with DS and my Bro & SIL. I'm starting to think I'll be feeling pretty lousy if I go now.

I will be the one getting her up in the morning, taking her, and picking her up. She's already sooo familiar with the school, and even has her cousin returning to the school that day. She's already got the (brief) summer boredom doledrums, so I just didn't think about the 'butterflies' she might have the night before, that even I had back then.

I get the Bad Mommy for Today Award, imo.

 

[decker96]

I wouldn't go. My DD started all-day kindergarten last year and the night before we packed her lunch and backpack together, got her clothes out for the next day and then read a story about going to kindergarten and just snuggled and discussed what was going to happen the first day. She was pretty apprehensive about starting. She's not good with change and kept telling me she just wanted to go back to preschool, so she definitely needed us there to reassure her about it.
She did great by the way and LOVED kindergarten, although now she's saying the same thing about 1st grade, doesn't want a new teacher, what if all the same kids aren't in her class, etc. I have a feeling we will be going through this every summer for the next few years! LOL!

 

[aprilgail2]

Personally I wouldn't go...my dauhgter is starting kindergarten in Sept and the night before we are goign to go out for ice cream just like I did as a kid...sort of signals the end of the summer and we used to go out for a giant banana split and I will do that with my daughter too....get her bathed, let her pick out her clothes forthe next morning and then get her to bed. I am taking off work the following day so I can go to the bus stop with her for her first day too.