O.K. Mom's of Teenage Girls??

[sharbear]

I have a SHY 14 yo boy and yesterday he had his french group over to do a project. I couldn't believe how nasty these girls were. They complained and whined about the project. One of the girls was a 1/2 hour late (she was the one who insisted that they HAD to meet). When she finally showed up, the girls just ridiculed my son. I couldn't believe the behavior of these girls. My son was trying but French is not his subject (we had to get him a tutor) but still it does no good to yell at someone when a little positive renforcement would do wonders. I think that most of his problem was nerves, who could remember your French when everybody is making fun of how you are doing things.

I can't wait, I have a 12 yo DD. She and her friends are great now but it's the school projects and having to deal with these other nasty people.

BTW I have had groups of boys over to do projects and it is completely different. Of course you have to come in occ. and remind them that playing play station is not going to help them get their project done.

 

[LvsTnk]

LOL Sharbear, one of the girls that DD is having trouble with is her partner for their science fair project. It won't be completed until Dec. and with every due date she doesn't want to meet to get it done.

Oldest DS is a boyscout and everytime they get together to do a project it is like a mini party!! They are from different towns, they have different personalities and backgrounds but get along just fine.

 

[Amusement Park Junkie]

DD went through this for the last three years. She couldn't believe how they could be nice one time and then completely mean the next. I think it really shot down her self confidence, and, unfortuanately, probably taught her that you just can't really trust anyone. Towards the end of the year, she finally grasped what we had been trying to teach her. School is like work. You have to get along. They may not be your best friend, but you have to work with them. The last few months last year went well with this strategy. She turned to her dance friends for friends outside of school. She decided over the summer that High School was going to be a new beginning. She went out to make all new friends, and the first five weeks have been great. She has made a number of new friends and is basically ignoring everyone she went to school with last year. I guess the best advice is to always keep looking for new friends. You can also copy the pro athletes that say "Don't get to high when the good happens, or too low after the bad" Try to keep an even keel.

 

[preshi]

I hated HS I would not have gotten through ti without my best friend... man the cliques they had there... YHICH.

It only gets worse too. Someone I know was out drinking and saw some of her "friends" there. They all decided to share a taxi home well the "friends" decide to let her out in fron of the police dept. and then call the police and tell them she was drunk in public!!! She had to spend the night in jail until she sobered up. It is insane what some girls will do.

 

[December99]

Last year was really bad for us (well for dd that is). Her classmates were really horrible to her. I don't know if it was hormones or what...but the boys were horrible, the girls were horrible and her friends were horrible. The principal did nothing let alone the parents!

 

[Pam]

As the Mom of both a 17 yr. old DD and a 14 yr. old DS - I can honestly say that it's just not girls! (Although they tend to nudge out in front with the nastiness!)

DS has 1 kid who thrives on pointing our DS's shortfalls to everyone. Unfortunately the little snot is in EVERY class with DS, as well as Scouts, a reading competition group, and occasionally their Youth Groups interact. This kid comes off as a saint to most adults - but he is one of the sneakiest and foul-mouthed boys I have ever met. A lot of the other parents are now catching onto him, as are the teachers.

Pam

 

[grinningghost]

Oh, they can be little witches can't they?! Sometimes I wish I had a boy instead. They don't seem to have these problems. My DD is 13 and whenever I hear her or her friends bashing another girl I really want to strangle them. It's always been a strict rule in our house that you treat people the way you want to be treated yourself. When that rule gets broken, and I find out - look out - I don't put up with it. What they do when I'm not around I can't help, but if I find out...

 

[LvsTnk]

Well, she got through yesterday and today, but I can't get it through to her that come this weekend they won't be calling her. It is a big blow to your confidence, fortunately she plays sports outside of school. She also won't be going to the same high school these kids go to.

I want her to give some of the other kids a chance to be her friend, everyone else seems to be fine to herexcept this one group She also has a DB with Down Syndrome who she likes to hang out with anyway and they have been doing alot more

I also told her to think of it as work....thanks my DIS friends!!

It sounds like this goes on all through high school so I better brace myself for the long haul lol!

 

[nabrkeshikki]

STOP - you guys are scaring me...I have FOUR daughters

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font face="Comic Sans MS"><font color=#006400>My dd is 13, and has had the same problem with her friends and other girls in the school. She's getting along w/most of them now.

One particular girl had my dd in tears on her birthday celebration this year - I had treated dd & three friends to a night at one of the DL hotels (they all have APs), and this one girl was pretty selfish.... anyways, last week, this same girl was working on a Social Studies project w/my dd & another friend at our house, and when I asked my dd why she included this friend, she said that she was hoping that this would improve their relationship - Go Kelly.

It's hard, but I don't probe too much... anymore - however, I've found that giving her a comforting shoulder to cry on and letting her know that I'm there for her helps her.

 

[LvsTnk]

Wow, you reminded me of the rough start we had to the school year!

My DD seems to have worked it out with that group and they are all still friends, there is all this power play type stuff that goes on. I have learned to do exactly as Mary Jo says she does.

I guess it is all part of growing up, she does put more effort into those other friendships she just took for granted before.

Thanks Again you guys really helped me out during that time!!

 

[Jeafl]

My 13 yr. old DD is going through this now. Her best friend (of 8 yrs. ) is a year older, and is in high school. DD is still in 8th grade and it has caused many problems between them. Her friend will only be nice to DD if her high school friends aren't around. Sometimes I don't think I'm going to make it through these teenage years.