I'm not sure exactly what you're asking. Why didn't you get to see the shows because you picked the least crowded parks? The shows are every day. The only exception might be Magic Kingdom's night time parade, and at one time they didn't show Fantasmic at the Studios every night. Fantasmic is every night now (with a few exceptions). Magic Kingdom's parade is every night for much of the year, and only a few times a week for the less crowded times of year. All of the other, regular, shows are daily.
In November I would expect to see Main Street Electrical Parade and Wishes at Magic Kingdom scheduled three times each week, so you will need to look at the park schedule and plan accordingly. Mickey's Very Merry Christmas Party happens at the Magic Kingdom about four nights each week, and the park will close early on those nights (7:00 pm) with no parade or fireworks. If you purchase party tickets then you can stay until midnight and see a special holiday parade and holiday fireworks (they are awesome).
Fantasmic should be every night around 7:00. Illuminations at Epcot should be every night at 9:00. The other shows are scheduled multiple times per day.
