Not replying to threads I know I don't agree with...

[stevenpensacola]

Just thinking out loud...I'm making a concerted effort to just ignore and not respond to threads which I know I don't agree with...just not worth the drama and dissension.

You know just by reading some thread titles that you're not going to agree with the topic...or the majority of folks who've posted...I'm not going to change your mind...you're not going to change mine...so it's just easier to move on to other threads...

that's all...

 

[kt_mom]

I don't mind so much. I think a little healthy debate and discussing of ideas is good, even when you know no one is going to change their mind or even if you know you'll be the only one that agrees with your opinion.

The only thing that bothers me is when people start insulting eachother or just being nasty.

 

[BillSears]

I often start typing the reply out and then halfway through I realize it's not worth arguing about so I don't finish it.

I'm trying my best to not sweat the small stuff in life.

 

[skater]

I don't mind so much. I think a little healthy debate and discussing of ideas is good, even when you know no one is going to change their mind or even if you know you'll be the only one that agrees with your opinion.

The only thing that bothers me is when people start insulting eachother or just being nasty.

This is how I feel. I love a good "spirited" discussion.

 

[jlewisinsyr]

What's the point of a discussion board if everyone agrees with everything?

 

[LIDisneyFan]

I don't agree with this.



Oops

 

[Robinrs]

Just thinking out loud...I'm making a concerted effort to just ignore and not respond to threads which I know I don't agree with...just not worth the drama and dissension.

You know just by reading some thread titles that you're not going to agree with the topic...or the majority of folks who've posted...I'm not going to change your mind...you're not going to change mine...so it's just easier to move on to other threads...

that's all...

I've been TRYING to do this... great idea, less stress!!

 

[Carly_Roach]

I don't mind so much. I think a little healthy debate and discussing of ideas is good, even when you know no one is going to change their mind or even if you know you'll be the only one that agrees with your opinion.

The only thing that bothers me is when people start insulting eachother or just being nasty.

Agreed. The best thing about a discussion board is reading many different POVs; not just the most popular POVs. I learn so much when I listen to other people. To be surrounded by everyone saying the same thing and agreeing with each other is equal to no growth whatsoever.

I've been where steve is. When that happens to me, I take a break from the boards. Maybe that's what he needs?

 

[powellrj]

I read more than I post anymore. I enjoy a good debate as much as anyone, but since many times a good debate isn't what people want, I have been walking away much more often than not.

I will type out what I consider a thoughtful post only to see the thread go way off track and I just hit the back button and move on.

 

[cabanafrau]

Sometimes I don't care enough about the topic to want to reply, sometimes I feel the person is just spouting garbage to yank everyone's chain. It doesn't bother me a bit to have a different opinion, nor am I easily swayed by anybody else.

I've posted in threads disagreeing w/ others' opinions, finished the thread w/ my position in tact & still discovered things I was unaware of before. Not a big deal to me.

 

[2disneyboys]

ITA! I can't tell you how many times I have started to respond on a thread (even typed out my responses) and then just said, nah.. not gonna get into that battle and there are just as many times that I DID respond on a thread and either regretted responding (cuz things get so nasty) or wish I had responded in a different way.

I dont mind the debate, and I am totally fine with agreeing to disargree and I know my opinion is not the only opinion out there, but I (like PP) don't like it when it has to get nasty. I hate all the drama part of it. I learned awhile ago to take the tips and advice I want/need and to ignore the rest of it.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

I feel the same way as OP. I sometimes start typing out a response, and then I end up just not sending it. Some of the ones that I get really fired up about are so ridiculous. For example, stupid baby names get me all worked up for some reason. I mean, I shouldn't really care what people name their kids, right? I doesn't affect me, and I don't have any business getting involved. But something inside me wants to scream out WTH are you thinking naming your kid _____.

It's funny, you could talk politics with me all day and I wouldn't get fired up in the same way as I do with "stupid threads."

 

[Wishing on a star]

Sometimes I do as Steve described...

But, if I decide that it is something that I care enough to post about... And I think it is worth it to have my opinion counted... I think it is a learned skill to be able to quickly and succinctly express your strong POV and move on and let it go.

PS: Sometimes I think that folks who enjoy a 'spirited discussion' do not realize that lines have been crossed where it becomes argument, stress, personal attack, etc...

 

[DMass]

I don't agree with this.



Oops

Are you trying to stir things up?

 

[dzorn]

Are you trying to stir things up?

I agree with him.

Denise in MI

 

[Carly_Roach]

Sometimes I do as Steve described...

But, if I decide that it is something that I care enough to post about... And I think it is worth it to have my opinion counted... I think it is a learned skill to be able to quickly and succinctly express your strong POV and move on and let it go.
PS: Sometimes I think that folks who enjoy a 'spirited discussion' do not realize that lines have been crossed where it becomes argument, stress, personal attack, etc...

It is a learned skill and, speaking from experience, one that must be re-learned and practiced often! I think what stops me from continuing a debate where no one is going to change anyone's mind and everyone's just insulting each other is by asking myself this question:

Do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?

That usually gets me hitting the "unsubscribe" button and adding another name to my ignore list pretty quickly.

 

[TheGoofster]

Almost every time I go against my rule of not posting on a thread I don't agree with, I end up regretting it. I think what I regret the most is the way that it makes me feel. I hate letting myself get angry or upset over something so ridiculous as a thread on a board with people I don't even know.
There have been times when I've posted something, felt bad about posting it, and gone back and deleted (or changed it), just so I won't feel bad about it.

To be honest I am really glad that the DIS implemented their no politics policy. Those threads draw me in like a fly to honey, and I usually ended up posting something that I probably shouldn't have, and ended up feeling really bad (or stupid) afterwards.

Once in a while I'll still get drawn into a thread that I know better than to get mixed up in, but for the most part I usually avoid certain threads (and even some posters) that I know will irritate me.

Different people come to these boards for different reasons. If you like a good debate, then have fun with those threads. I come on here to relax (and often to escape from the many problems I deal with on a daily basis), so I really don't want any part of a thread that will get me upset.

 

[mamacatnv]

Doesn't bother me, I like a good debate regardless of whether I agree with the masses or not. I honestly don't think that there are a lot of personal attacks here. I think there are more thin skinned people who have a hard time stepping back and remembering that this is a message board and interpreting someones tone and intent is extremely difficult.

I also think that when the options are to take it personally or not with the way something is written that the majority of people default to personal when in reality its just the comments of some stranger and nothing IMO should be taken personally.

 

[MIGrandma]

I don't mind so much. I think a little healthy debate and discussing of ideas is good, even when you know no one is going to change their mind or even if you know you'll be the only one that agrees with your opinion.

The only thing that bothers me is when people start insulting eachother or just being nasty.

I agree!

I have no problem with someone disagreeing with my opinion. Everyone has the right to their opinion, and the right to express it. But when they can't (or rather just won't) do it nicely, and resort to name calling, insulting the other person, and just plain nastiness that's when it takes the fun out of the discussion.

 

[kt_mom]

Doesn't bother me, I like a good debate regardless of whether I agree with the masses or not. I honestly don't think that there are a lot of personal attacks here. I think there are more thin skinned people who have a hard time stepping back and remembering that this is a message board and interpreting someones tone and intent is extremely difficult.

I also think that when the options are to take it personally or not with the way something is written that the majority of people default to personal when in reality its just the comments of some stranger and nothing IMO should be taken personally.

You honestly don't think there are a lot of personal attacks on here? I've read several just this afternoon. I've seen posters called ignorant, stupid and seen comments where people have just outright laughed through their text and smilie usage at other posters.

I've seen a few that were even worse personal attacks on one thread that I decided to stay out of. And I feel really bad about that decision because I want to show support for a poster in that thread that has gotten beaten up on pretty bad in my opinion, but its fairly heated and I don't see any reason to fuel the fire anymore. The poster seems to be holding their own okay anyway.